Another woman sat on my DHs lap

[Anonymous]

DH is at a work dinner. Not sure how many people exactly, it's a goodbye party for someone. Usually these things are 10-20 people. No partners were invited this time.

My DH works at a hospital, he works with residents. He just texted me that one of the drs came around the table and sat on his lap Infront of everyone to talk to his side of the table. He said if this was anyone else my wife would kill me. Not sure what she said, but I imagine she laughed? it off. Not sure how I feel about this. I'm more upset than I'd like to be. I do know this woman, in we both have seen her as a provider. We've also hung out on work retreats and have had drinks/dinner together. She likes to reference me as her little sister. She is married too. I really don't know.... Thoughts?? Help me before he gets back.

[Anonymous]

It's weird but I wouldn't worry about it. People are weird. There's not much you can do.

[Anonymous]

Your DH texted what was going on! Relax because he's as confused as you! She likely had too much to drink and will be embarrassed when she sobers up. Your lucky your DH texted. Chill out and laugh about it when he gets home.

[Anonymous]

It's weird but I would not waste a lot of energy thinking about it.

[Anonymous]

I would not be mad at my spouse because it seems he had. I control over it.

But she'd really be on my sh*t list. She needs to step off.

[Anonymous]

Had no control*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH texted what was going on! Relax because he's as confused as you! She likely had too much to drink and will be embarrassed when she sobers up. Your lucky your DH texted. Chill out and laugh about it when he gets home.

The fact he texted you about it is a big plus in my opinion, he obviously cares about respecting your marriage. Try to empathize with him that it was clearly awkward for him, but feel free to express feeling threatened by her lack of tact.

[Anonymous]

What do you need help with? Your DH told you (clearly a mistake on his part!). She's a weirdo. Is your problem that you don't trust him? Is your DH a creeper or something?

[Anonymous]

You said that in addition to socializing with her (and your DH working with her) you've both gone to see her as patients? She's being totally inappropriate, but there's not much you can do about it. Your DH didn't do anything wrong.

[Anonymous]

She is strange, but he can't tell you anything. You take everything too far and probably out of context.
Mine works at the hospital. They can all sit on my DH, men too for all I care.

[Anonymous]

I'd be annoyed with her, but your husband was trying to do the right thing by telling you right away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be annoyed with her, but your husband was trying to do the right thing by telling you right away.

+1

[Anonymous]

I meant help me process it before he gets home. I'm not mad at DH ND I don't think he would do anything inappropriate. I am confused by her behavior and annoyed at her. The last time we had drinks she told me how hard it's been adjusting to marriage and it didn't sound like she was too happy. I'm also self conscious because I wasn't there. I don't have any context really. She also loves wearing shit that is way to short , but she is pretty and she is in great shape. I feel a little jealous- not the right word...I guess threatened.

If I was DH I would have just gotten up and offered her the seat. I'm sure he didn't know what to do and it was in front of Co workers/boss.

I also feel like it just sends the wrong message to those who were there. Probably more on her but also on us. I don't want anyone thinking that that is ok.

[Anonymous]

Well, was she drunk?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be annoyed with her, but your husband was trying to do the right thing by telling you right away.

Agree