How to get and give the most in a mentor relationship

[Anonymous]

I have identified someone in my organization with whom I have a good, solid, though informal, rapport. I intend to approach this person to ask if they would be willing to serve as my mentor, as I am looking to position myself to grow and advance with this company. This person is several levels higher than me, in the upper-most management tier, and also in a different division (which I think is important - good to get a different perspective, outside our silo, etc.) What I struggle with is what I bring to the relationship. I realize many mentors are satisfied knowing they are helping someone along the way, relish the role of the wiser advisor, etc. I certainly have inside knowledge in the workings of my division, am privy to convos that would be of interest to this person, but that's not something I am willing to share. I would not be comfortable sharing "trade secrets," if you get my meaning. I know that I am dedicated to the organization as a whole (not just my group), do solid work that is well regarded, and consider myself to be at least slightly above average in my drive/work ethic/company smarts, but somehow that makes me seem as though I describe myself a child of Lake Wobegon. How do I sell myself to this person, what can I offer to reciprocate for what I hope is sound advice, guidance, even a kick in the pants when needed? What have you done as a mentee to make it a mutually beneficial relationship?

[Anonymous]

Do they actually have time to mentor you in addition to their management responsibilities (their own team)?

What is mentorship to you? What are your expectations for them?

[Anonymous]

Ive been in a couple of formal mentorships as a mentee. What you offer up is a willingness to listen and be open in order to grow and develop. What your mentor should expect to get out of it is an opportunity to share his or her expertise and, hopefully, help to develop and retain high quality staff for the company. If they want something more than that, than I'd be leary.

When you approach this person to be your mentor, he or she may ask about your expectations or desires. So be prepared.