How to respond to sister's text?
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Anonymous
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Yesterday morning, I suddenly came down with a violent stomach virus. In conversation with my sister, she volunteered that I drop off my DS (3) after I got my older kids to school. I was in her house all of 10 minutes while I got my son situated, then I left.
I guess my sister and my other sister then arranged a little play date among cousins. (All parties FULLY aware why my son was there, and that I was sick.) Now I get a text from my other sister saying, "Larlo is sick now with the pukes now too." Not sure how to take it. She brought Larlo over to play with my and my sisters kids, FULLY aware I was there and had been sick (I asked my sister if she disclosed, she said she had.) I don't know if she's mad at me now, although I didn't go around her child while sick, she brought him over to my sisters. Or is she just letting me know her kid is now sick. Although, why? Why make me feel bad. FWIW, nobody else is sick. None of my kids or husband who live with me. Not either sister, nor any other cousins. Could it just be coincidental? How do I respond? |
Anonymous
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Oh no! Hope it passes quickly! Let me know if I can help
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Anonymous
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Good god, how do you function at all if you can't even respond to a text from your sister?
"Gosh, I"m so sorry. I hope he/she feels better soon." |
Anonymous
| Poor Larlo. Sorry to hear that. |
Anonymous
I can function, thank you. I'm just trying to gain some insight on others thoughts on her angle. |
Anonymous
"Aww, bummer  . I'm sorry to hear that. "
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Anonymous
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It does sound a little passive aggressive. Your sister was probably just frazzled and grossed out. Maybe she unrealistically thought that what you have isn't contagious.
I'd text back and ask if she needs you to bring anything over (assuming you are well enough to do it). |
Anonymous
| You sound very prickly. |
Anonymous
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She's not a stranger
You have NO idea how to respond? |
Anonymous
I wonder how much passive aggressive bullshit you'd like to deal with while being violently ill. Never mind these people OP. Your sister just had to let you know, that's the way I see it. I'd say, "Oh no! Hope the worst is over." And leave it at that. I don't play passive aggressive. |
Anonymous
| I get it OP. Sounds like your sister is totally setting up a lob of passive aggression. Yes, I would say something neutral as others have suggested but be ready for blow back. |
Anonymous
I like you and would like to enroll in your: "How to be a Badass" seminar. Thank you. |
Anonymous
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How about "Poor kid, I'm so sorry to hear that. Hope he feels better soon!"
Your sisters are nuts to arrange a play date with a person sick with a "violent stomach virus" in the house. What on earth were they thinking. But that's beside the point. Obviously, there is a bug going around. Hope you all feel better soon. |
Anonymous
| I would just acknowledge what she wants to hear and that is that her kid got sick from you. Not saying it's your fault. Just say I am so sorry that so-and-so got my nasty virus! Please let me know if I can help." After all who can continue to be nasty when your apologetic and nice about it. |
Anonymous
OP here. This is what I was wondering if I should do (or not!) |