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If people don't RSVP to a party, does that mean they are not going to the party?
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Anonymous
| I'm asking opinions because for my child's party, 4 people didn't RSVP. My DH said to not bother calling them, because it meant that they weren't going. Well, I called the 4, and 3 said no and one said yes. |
Anonymous
| Nah, it just means they are rude. |
Anonymous
| For one recent kids' party, half of the non-respondents showed up, some with siblings! For another one, none of the non-respondents showed up. |
Anonymous
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I don't know yet - I'll let you know after my DC's party. It won't be a huge problem if the non-responders show up because we're not having the party at a venue that needs a headcount. I'm not going to bother calling, and I'll have a few extra favors just in case.
It's really irritating, isn't it? What I wonder is whether or not the non-responders are bothered by those that don't RSVP to their invitations. |
Anonymous
OP here. Yes, it is really irritating. Plus I felt lame calling people and asking them if they and their kid were going to the party. They could have even emailed me a "no", but they didn't. |
Anonymous
| Maybe they want to come and can't commit yet. So they keep putting off RSVPing, misplace the invitation and don't realize that date has passed?? |
Anonymous
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Kids are unpredictable. Small children fall asleep just in time for the party, it seems. As your kids get older, you will learn not to expect 100% RSVP. As you have to pay per head most parties (food, etc.) - you will learn to guesstimate depending on time of year......
But yes, I agree for formal events (baptisms, bris, for example) there are plenty of adults (with NO small children) who just don't RSVP. What's THEIR excuse, I wonder? |
Anonymous
I'll admit it. We have forgotten to RSVP.  Often I think my husband RSVPed and he didn't (because I asked if he was going to and he didn't). Other occasions, I just forget. I open the invite, think "hey this will be fun" and then just forget I haven't RSVPed.
But don't worry, Karma gets us all. We have a birthday party next week and no one has RSVPed 
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Anonymous
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22:09 again. I can understand forgetting or thinking you've responded and you haven't. I totally get it. The question for me is, what do I as the host do if I have to give a headcount? Maybe I get unnecessary worried about what happens if we tell the venue that we expect 15 kids based on RSVPs yet 17 show up. Has anyone ever had this happen, and if so, does it cause any major problems?
And can I just add that I hate when I contact someone who hasn't RSVP'd and they act weird about it? I've had that happen before, and it bugs me. That's why this year I purposely didn't book a venue that needed a headcount. I'm taking the "what the hell ever" approach to RSVPs this time, partly because I don't want to worry about the ones who don't respond, and partly because I honestly am curious about whether or not the non-responders will show up. |
Anonymous
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"And can I just add that I hate when I contact someone who hasn't RSVP'd and they act weird about it?"
You can cross them off the list for the next event. 
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Anonymous
OP here. That is what I don't like -- having to call them to find out if they are going and they do sound weird. But what am I supposed to do? Because for a kid's party, if it's at a place, then you need a headcount, you need a certain # of goody bags, and you need enough cake/food/drinks for all the kids and adults. Plus, I don't like to be surprised on the day of my kid's party about who appears and who doesn't appear. I think if I held it at home I wouldn't bother calling the non responders, but since it's at a place, I always call. |
Anonymous
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Absolutely don't feel bad about asking, or needing a count! the ones who failed to RSVP shoudl feel bad themselves (assuming they had a conscience!) |
Anonymous
| It should be but it doesn't. |
Anonymous
Yep, this... We had folks fail to RSVP for our wedding (and believe me I called and called to try and find out if they were coming) only to show up! Fortunately the GM of our reception site was able to scramble a spot for them. We were annoyed that they didn't bother to RSVP, but fond of them all the same. Some people are just quirky I suppose, and don't deal with things like RSVPing and being where they say they will be. Doesn't necessarily make them bad people, but it sure does frustrate the ever living crap out of me! For something like a child's birthday party, it is probably easier to forget. The thing that really ticks me off is the Evite crowd who think it's okay to say maybe. No! If you can't commit, you can't come. (But that's a side vent, isn't it?) |
Anonymous
Not everyone in the Evite crowd RSVPs. I would rather have a maybe than nothing! |