Siblings moving to the same area

[Anonymous]

My siblings and I went our separate ways after high school. We each make it a point to talk to all of our siblings at least once a month, but it's not enough. We'd like to move to the same area so that our kids can grow up together. Has anyone thought about doing the same thing or actually has done it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My siblings and I went our separate ways after high school. We each make it a point to talk to all of our siblings at least once a month, but it's not enough. We'd like to move to the same area so that our kids can grow up together. Has anyone thought about doing the same thing or actually has done it?

I have a twin brother. While there were moments after high school where we lived separately, we have both been in the same area for about 10 years now. He is 10 minutes down the road. He has a new son and I have a new daughter.

We are extremely close and it works out great for us.

[Anonymous]

Just because they're blood. Just because you want something a certain way. Doesn't make it so.

[Anonymous]

OP, don't do it. We moved to DC area because of DH's siblings; I am an only child. In the last 5 years, we've seen his brother and sister exactly 3 times. 3! We live 20 minutes from each other. DH is very disappointed but it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, don't do it. We moved to DC area because of DH's siblings; I am an only child. In the last 5 years, we've seen his brother and sister exactly 3 times. 3! We live 20 minutes from each other. DH is very disappointed but it is what it is.

While I understand that this is your story PP - I think that the OP needs to better explain her relationship with her family a little better so that we can have a better understanding of the dynamics before giving better advice. Just because it didn't work out for your family, doesn't mean she shouldn't do it. Her dynamic could be much different.

I am the PP above with a twin brother. We are extremely close and other than maybe 3-4 years in college and 3-4 years outside of college, have always lived in the same vicinity - if not roommates - obviously that has changed as he got married and has a family now.

But, we still live about 10 minutes away and see each other probably 3-4 times a week.

They have a newborn son, so I offer to babysit when they want to get away, I am there playing Uncle and it is a great experience.

But - my brother and I are VERY close - we always have been - so the dynamic could be completely different.

OP - tell us a little more about your family's dynamic so that we can give you better advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, don't do it. We moved to DC area because of DH's siblings; I am an only child. In the last 5 years, we've seen his brother and sister exactly 3 times. 3! We live 20 minutes from each other. DH is very disappointed but it is what it is.

While I understand that this is your story PP - I think that the OP needs to better explain her relationship with her family a little better so that we can have a better understanding of the dynamics before giving better advice. Just because it didn't work out for your family, doesn't mean she shouldn't do it. Her dynamic could be much different.

I am the PP above with a twin brother. We are extremely close and other than maybe 3-4 years in college and 3-4 years outside of college, have always lived in the same vicinity - if not roommates - obviously that has changed as he got married and has a family now.

But, we still live about 10 minutes away and see each other probably 3-4 times a week.

They have a newborn son, so I offer to babysit when they want to get away, I am there playing Uncle and it is a great experience.

But - my brother and I are VERY close - we always have been - so the dynamic could be completely different.

OP - tell us a little more about your family's dynamic so that we can give you better advice.

OMG you are living my dream. My twin lives about 90 minutes away from me and I would LOVE to live next door. We both have kids and they adore each other. We talk approximately 10 times a day.

[Anonymous]

I get it, OP. DH's brother and his wife moved up here after graduate school bc they wanted to be near his family. This past year, my ILs moved in with us. We see each other at least 2x a week, and all text each other all day long. We have two kids, and they have one, and the cousins all get along swimmingly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, don't do it. We moved to DC area because of DH's siblings; I am an only child. In the last 5 years, we've seen his brother and sister exactly 3 times. 3! We live 20 minutes from each other. DH is very disappointed but it is what it is.

While I understand that this is your story PP - I think that the OP needs to better explain her relationship with her family a little better so that we can have a better understanding of the dynamics before giving better advice. Just because it didn't work out for your family, doesn't mean she shouldn't do it. Her dynamic could be much different.

I am the PP above with a twin brother. We are extremely close and other than maybe 3-4 years in college and 3-4 years outside of college, have always lived in the same vicinity - if not roommates - obviously that has changed as he got married and has a family now.

But, we still live about 10 minutes away and see each other probably 3-4 times a week.

They have a newborn son, so I offer to babysit when they want to get away, I am there playing Uncle and it is a great experience.

But - my brother and I are VERY close - we always have been - so the dynamic could be completely different.

OP - tell us a little more about your family's dynamic so that we can give you better advice.

OMG you are living my dream. My twin lives about 90 minutes away from me and I would LOVE to live next door. We both have kids and they adore each other. We talk approximately 10 times a day.

It really is the perfect scenario...

I see so many threads about family here on DCUM - so many are negative and talk about the worst parts of relationships - and it is so sad.

My brother and I - we have just always been close - we couldn't be more opposite in some ways, and exactly the same in other ways - and being able to be near him - has always made my life exponentially better.

Now that kids are involved, it's even better!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My siblings and I went our separate ways after high school. We each make it a point to talk to all of our siblings at least once a month, but it's not enough. We'd like to move to the same area so that our kids can grow up together. Has anyone thought about doing the same thing or actually has done it?

I have a twin brother. While there were moments after high school where we lived separately, we have both been in the same area for about 10 years now. He is 10 minutes down the road. He has a new son and I have a new daughter.

We are extremely close and it works out great for us.

You're TWINS. It's not the same as most sibling relationships.

[Anonymous]

My sisters and I live on the same piece of property. We each have about five acres or so. Our kids are more like siblings than cousins. My parents live about 4 miles up the road. I would not trade it for the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My siblings and I went our separate ways after high school. We each make it a point to talk to all of our siblings at least once a month, but it's not enough. We'd like to move to the same area so that our kids can grow up together. Has anyone thought about doing the same thing or actually has done it?

I have a twin brother. While there were moments after high school where we lived separately, we have both been in the same area for about 10 years now. He is 10 minutes down the road. He has a new son and I have a new daughter.

We are extremely close and it works out great for us.

You're TWINS. It's not the same as most sibling relationships.

Agreed to an extent.

Which, is why, I posted later that we can't really give good advice unless OP comes back and tells us a little more about their family dynamic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sisters and I live on the same piece of property. We each have about five acres or so. Our kids are more like siblings than cousins. My parents live about 4 miles up the road. I would not trade it for the world.

That's terrific! Glad all the dads get along, too.

[Anonymous]

As PPs have said, it totally depends on the relationship dynamics.

If you get along now, it could be great! Especially with kids of similar ages.

My parents and siblings live in the same city and everyone gets together frequently - DH and I are actually planning on moving to be closer to my family. Currently, we're close (geographically) to his family and we get along with them, but we rarely see them. Just different family styles.

[Anonymous]

My brother lives in the next town over and we see him once a year. His son and my daughter are the same age. If my daughter were a boy, there is a chance they would be best buddies and we would see them more often. So I think it depends on if your kids get along.

[Anonymous]

I'd love it if my siblings moved closer, or vice-versa. It's lonely celebrating the holidays with just our nuclear family. DH's family lives nearby but they are not close so everyone just does their own thing.