Guest gave a toy gun as Bday gift

[Anonymous]

DS had his 6 th birthday party with a small group of friends from school. One of them gave him a toy gun with bullets. Our family philosophy is not to give anything related to guns to our children. DS opened his gifts towards the end of the party and when he found this we looked at each other with huge disappointment. It was very difficult to say Thank You for such crap. With so many educational gift options out there, I honestly wonder why people have wrong idea of giving a gun to a 6 y o.

[Anonymous]

Why do you even need to make this post? It's obnoxious. We are also a "no guns" house. Send out a simple thank you card and toy disappears. End of story. No need to make a post so that people can tell you ",good job OP. You're a great mom! That other family is total trash;"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS had his 6 th birthday party with a small group of friends from school. One of them gave him a toy gun with bullets. Our family philosophy is not to give anything related to guns to our children. DS opened his gifts towards the end of the party and when he found this we looked at each other with huge disappointment. It was very difficult to say Thank You for such crap. With so many educational gift options out there, I honestly wonder why people have wrong idea of giving a gun to a 6 y o.

Look....in your family, you think it's crap. Those are your values. In the gift giver family, that gift might be viewed as awesome or cool. It's okay that your family values are different from theirs. Just say thank you as you would for any other gift and then feel free to dispose of of it as you see fit.

[Anonymous]

Would you like to hear that you are a superior parent? Would that help get you over this horrible miscarriage of justice? My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son as you try to heal from the trauma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS had his 6 th birthday party with a small group of friends from school. One of them gave him a toy gun with bullets. Our family philosophy is not to give anything related to guns to our children. DS opened his gifts towards the end of the party and when he found this we looked at each other with huge disappointment. It was very difficult to say Thank You for such crap. With so many educational gift options out there, I honestly wonder why people have wrong idea of giving a gun to a 6 y o.

The only crap I see here is your attitude, OP.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't allow toy guns either. Just "disappear" it and let your kid pick something else out. Send a thank you card and be done with it.

[Anonymous]

+1 get over yourself OP. And the sanctimonious tidbit about how your son looked at you with disappointment is what really put this post over the top. Next time just put a note on the birthday invitations that only Kumon workbooks will be accepted as gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you like to hear that you are a superior parent? Would that help get you over this horrible miscarriage of justice? My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son as you try to heal from the trauma.

Haha. We also don't do guns at our house but I have a feeling I'd rather hang out with the gun giving mom over OP.

[Anonymous]

I suggest get used to it and use it as a teaching opportunity to talk to your kids about why you don't like it and why you're going to trade in that gift for something else if you don't want toy guns in your house. I didn't like it at first but I've come to learn it's just going to be that way with boys and [unfortunately] it seems to be age appropriate and ok and it doesn't mean they'll be violent people. If you stop to think about it they're really around a lot of the boy toys these days (legos, superheros, etc. even if not an actual toy gun).

Much to my dismay my boys play guns and grenades with their friends using sticks and their imaginations. One even made his own gun with some highlighters he found at the house the other day.

I do say I don't like guns, I don't want to hear about them, etc. but I have given up saying I don't want to them to imaginary play with them, etc.

On your thank you note you can say thanks for thinking of me and celebrating with me.

[Anonymous]

Is this a nerf gun? Nerf guns are pretty ubiquitous at that age. Even our large aftercare provider has them for kids to play with. IMO, they are in a slightly different category than toy gun... and I have never seen a toy gun that came with fake bullets and everything.

[Anonymous]

With PP's comments, no wonder why we have such president.

[Anonymous]

Do you mean a nerf blaster? That is hardly a "gun with bullets."

Or an airsoft or Red Rider BB Gun with a compass in the stock and this thing that tells time?

[Anonymous]

Yes - the clueless comments dissing the OP when this administration exults a media outlet/gives one on one interview that claims Sandy Hook was a hoax. Teaching moment as well as an insight into the gift giver's family's values

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes - the clueless comments dissing the OP when this administration exults a media outlet/gives one on one interview that claims Sandy Hook was a hoax. Teaching moment as well as an insight into the gift giver's family's values

Looking at the unintelligibly of this post, I'm on team gun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes - the clueless comments dissing the OP when this administration exults a media outlet/gives one on one interview that claims Sandy Hook was a hoax. Teaching moment as well as an insight into the gift giver's family's values

Yes. I can see the connection between a plastic toy gun and Sandy Hook. I'm sure the gift giver and his family spend their weekends shooting puppies.