Guest gave a toy gun as Bday gift

[Anonymous]

I'm another anti-gun parent. However, my stance and what I've taught my children is that we don't have guns, we don't play with guns, we don't pretend guns until everyone in the house (Mom, Dad and kids) have had gun training to learn how to shoot, how to take care of, how to safety, how to use safely, how to store and how to use and keep guns responsibly. When kids are older, we will all go and get lessons and then revisit the topic of guns (much as I detest them). My pre-schoolers know that guns are not safe when people don't know how to use them and since even Mom and Dad don't know how to use them, we don't have them.

So, I would thank them graciously and put the toy gun away, donate it, or give it away. And OP, despite your attitude problem, your own political views should not override your sense of decorum and courtesy. Be gracious, then do whatever you want with the gift.

[Anonymous]

The other family didn't mean any harm by it, and therefore the correct etiquette is to thank them.

You are free to dispose of the offending toy as you wish.

[Anonymous]

Although if you are so offended by getting this as a gift that you feel the need to start a post and find it "very difficult" to thank the giver, then I guess I'd think twice about donating it. Probably better to pitch it or return to a store for credit towards one of those education toys you were hoping for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm another anti-gun parent. However, my stance and what I've taught my children is that we don't have guns, we don't play with guns, we don't pretend guns until everyone in the house (Mom, Dad and kids) have had gun training to learn how to shoot, how to take care of, how to safety, how to use safely, how to store and how to use and keep guns responsibly. When kids are older, we will all go and get lessons and then revisit the topic of guns (much as I detest them). My pre-schoolers know that guns are not safe when people don't know how to use them and since even Mom and Dad don't know how to use them, we don't have them.

So, I would thank them graciously and put the toy gun away, donate it, or give it away. And OP, despite your attitude problem, your own political views should not override your sense of decorum and courtesy. Be gracious, then do whatever you want with the gift.

This is our stance too,although DH and I are properly trained with guns. It's the reason why we don't allow play with guns, knives, etc. No video games that use them either. I'm fine with superhero movies and am fine with the Lego Batman movie. The weapons and other defense mechanisms used in those movies are not realistic. Dh can pretend play with his Legos to his hearts content. He cannot pretend to kill his playmate.

There will come a time where we will have to reevaluate this. So far nerf guns haven't made.their way into common play yet. I'm.ok with where our line is.right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm another anti-gun parent. However, my stance and what I've taught my children is that we don't have guns, we don't play with guns, we don't pretend guns until everyone in the house (Mom, Dad and kids) have had gun training to learn how to shoot, how to take care of, how to safety, how to use safely, how to store and how to use and keep guns responsibly. When kids are older, we will all go and get lessons and then revisit the topic of guns (much as I detest them). My pre-schoolers know that guns are not safe when people don't know how to use them and since even Mom and Dad don't know how to use them, we don't have them.

So, I would thank them graciously and put the toy gun away, donate it, or give it away. And OP, despite your attitude problem, your own political views should not override your sense of decorum and courtesy. Be gracious, then do whatever you want with the gift.

This is our stance too,although DH and I are properly trained with guns. It's the reason why we don't allow play with guns, knives, etc. No video games that use them either. I'm fine with superhero movies and am fine with the Lego Batman movie. The weapons and other defense mechanisms used in those movies are not realistic. Dh can pretend play with his Legos to his hearts content. He cannot pretend to kill his playmate.

There will come a time where we will have to reevaluate this. So far nerf guns haven't made.their way into common play yet. I'm.ok with where our line is.right now.

So you have a toddler or preschooler?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am as anti-gun as it gets, but I think Nerf guns are really really none offensive. I got my son two for Christmas.

I am the kind of person who would be fine with getting rid of the second amendment.

+1. And my DS will be attending two laser tag parties in the coming weeks.

[Anonymous]

I'd be annoyed because guns are clearly a category of you that parents have strong feelings about. So getting someone a gun risks running dead against what a family's values are. It's the way I'd feel if someone gave my 5yo DD a makeup kit with lipstick, etc. Annoyed, like my values were stepped on, and irritated that I had to deal with taking it away from my child and dealing with her potential disappointment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you like to hear that you are a superior parent? Would that help get you over this horrible miscarriage of justice? My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son as you try to heal from the trauma.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm another anti-gun parent. However, my stance and what I've taught my children is that we don't have guns, we don't play with guns, we don't pretend guns until everyone in the house (Mom, Dad and kids) have had gun training to learn how to shoot, how to take care of, how to safety, how to use safely, how to store and how to use and keep guns responsibly. When kids are older, we will all go and get lessons and then revisit the topic of guns (much as I detest them). My pre-schoolers know that guns are not safe when people don't know how to use them and since even Mom and Dad don't know how to use them, we don't have them.

So, I would thank them graciously and put the toy gun away, donate it, or give it away. And OP, despite your attitude problem, your own political views should not override your sense of decorum and courtesy. Be gracious, then do whatever you want with the gift.

This is our stance too,although DH and I are properly trained with guns. It's the reason why we don't allow play with guns, knives, etc. No video games that use them either. I'm fine with superhero movies and am fine with the Lego Batman movie. The weapons and other defense mechanisms used in those movies are not realistic. Dh can pretend play with his Legos to his hearts content. He cannot pretend to kill his playmate.

There will come a time where we will have to reevaluate this. So far nerf guns haven't made.their way into common play yet. I'm.ok with where our line is.right now.

So you have a toddler or preschooler?

Pp here. I have a 5 year old. I'm guessing next year is when we are going to start to reevaluate things as nerf guns become more common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am as anti-gun as it gets, but I think Nerf guns are really really none offensive. I got my son two for Christmas.

I am the kind of person who would be fine with getting rid of the second amendment.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are a no guns family. Know many people who are not (we live in NH now so not surprising). I do find it laughable the assumption that some posters have that a family who has guns is irresponsible with them, are Trump lovers, believe Sandy Hook was a hoax. Are there families like that? Sure. But so far I have not encountered anyone who fits the stereotype of someone who has guns in their house.

Please do tell what is the stereotype of someone who has guns in their house?

I do. White UMC. North (gasp) Arlington. I bet you'd never guess in a million years that we have guns. No one has ever asked me either. We also teach our kids about what to do if they ever encounter one at a friend's house. Guns aren't necessarily scary.

Is your DH from a rural area? We know a few families in N Arlington who do have guns. Most of the dads grew up in rural areas where guns are common. One family is a military family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are a no guns family. Know many people who are not (we live in NH now so not surprising). I do find it laughable the assumption that some posters have that a family who has guns is irresponsible with them, are Trump lovers, believe Sandy Hook was a hoax. Are there families like that? Sure. But so far I have not encountered anyone who fits the stereotype of someone who has guns in their house.

Please do tell what is the stereotype of someone who has guns in their house?

I do. White UMC. North (gasp) Arlington. I bet you'd never guess in a million years that we have guns. No one has ever asked me either. We also teach our kids about what to do if they ever encounter one at a friend's house. Guns aren't necessarily scary.

Is your DH from a rural area? We know a few families in N Arlington who do have guns. Most of the dads grew up in rural areas where guns are common. One family is a military family.

No, he's from NYC, and I grew up in Chevy Chase. Both of our fathers also use guns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do all of you non toy gun people also are:

Non nerf
Non lightsaber
Non archery
Non crossbow
Non pirate swords
Non marvel movies
Non Lego movies or video games
Non Super Smash Bros or other Mario games.

What about:
super soakers
Water balloons

[Anonymous]

Did you read all the replies not too long ago a 7yo received a nerf gun as a present? Try playing with one. You may have fun.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/584979.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The other family didn't mean any harm by it, and therefore the correct etiquette is to thank them.

You are free to dispose of the offending toy as you wish.

FYI. I graciously sent a Thank You note to every guest early this morning as I'm a good follower of correct etiquette. My post was intended to know what drives certain parents to give that kind of toy.