School and Dress code
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Anonymous
| MY DD isn't perfect. She has ADHD so I know she no saint. Does Your DC teachers/ and school picked on students they don't like? Example her best friend wear the same dress as her and she didn't get dressed coded why is that? did Your DD ever get dressed coded at school? Did they made her sit in the office till someone comes with a chance of clothes? |
Anonymous
| What is she wearing that gets "dress coded"? What's the specific transgression? |
Anonymous
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Dress code enforcement can seem uneven/unfair especially for girls as so much is based on the fit of the garment. The same item will fit differently depending on height/weight/body type.
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Anonymous
| My son gets in trouble for violating the dress code on occasion. I don't find that they pick on him. I'm betting that he gets in trouble only a fraction of the times he violates it. He finds it unfair that girls can wear sleeveless and boys can't so it's his form of protest. |
Anonymous
He does have a good point. |
Anonymous
I agree, which is why I don't care that he gets in trouble. He carries a t-shirt in his binder so I don't have to bring him clothes. |
Anonymous
I like his style. Smart kid. I have to agree with you that I probably would not care if my son did that. |
Anonymous
I see. MY DD is a little bit over weight.. She knew better like I told her... if she has to ask if she can wear it the answer is NO. just wish they would of just warn her and let her be for the dayl. she missed half of 2nd block today while her brother go to her school. Lucky he didn't have class today so he was free. |
Anonymous
| In my kid's MS/HS, the only teachers who care about the dress code (as it pertains to girls) are the ones who make sexist comments in class all the time (i.e., gym teachers/coaches), usually creepy fat guys. |
Anonymous
Same here. As far as I know it is just the gym teachers, and one security desk lady that is a big stickler for the rules. Enforcement also varies based on body type and if a student is labeled as a "problem" or not. Short, academic DD can get away with anything. Long-legged but still academic DD2 occasionally gets in trouble even though what she wears isn't any different than DD1. The whole dress code and its enforcement just are so full of sexism. |
Anonymous
funny cause her Art 2 teacher was the one who send to the office. He is a male and weird |
Anonymous
It's the exact opposite at the HS my kids attend. Boys can wear tank tops but girls can only wear them if they aren't too low-cut and the straps are wide enough to cover their forbidden bra straps. DD has gotten one dress code violation. She wore a tank that I thought was fine, but her bra strap kept sliding down her shoulder so she was sent to the office to call me. At their school the procedure is the student has to call a parent to report their violation and give the parent an opportunity to bring them another clothing item. If the parent can't or won't respond, then they are told to put on their PE uniform. If it's an upperclassman who may no longer have the required PE class, they're given something out of the unclaimed lost & found box. Neither DH or I considered it an immediate situation where we needed to leave work to bring her a shirt, so she was allowed to put her PE uniform tee over the tank and continue her day. I think a friend later loaned her a hoodie so she could ditch the gym shirt. We didn't see it as a big deal and she's since learned to make sure to wear a bra whose straps stay up vs. her favorite worn out bra  .
I think some teachers are bigger sticklers than others. Also, some violations are more apparent with some students than others because of their body shape/proportions. When I was a teen, my bff was always getting in trouble for wearing shirts that were too revealing. No, they weren't low-cut or sleeveless... her boobs were too big, therefore the shirt was pulled tightly across her chest, which made it more noticeable. Looking back at the photos from that time she'll laugh and say she wished she'd just not been so vain and went up a size so her shirts fit better. DS has never gotten a violation but he does have a history teacher who makes the girls do the fingertips to their sides rule for skirts and shorts in his classroom. Literally, as they walk through the door he makes them put their arms down. My son's exact words about this were, "that's why we call him Pervy Mr. P...., because he's, like, obsessed with checking out girl's legs! No one else even notices that kind of stuff, you know? Like, I've never seen Female Teen and thought 'dang, her shorts are looking exceptionally short today!'" Love that kid so much. |
Anonymous
What's wrong with the dress? My problem with middle school dress codes is they're usually inherently sexist in a slut-shaming sort of way. For example: Don't let a bra strap show because it might be distracting to the boys. Rather than tell the boys to get over it and don't stare, they give the girls a hard time. It's beyond. |
Anonymous
| One of my daughter complains that we are much stricter with our family dresscode (no tight leggings without a skirt or long shirt over the top) with her than with her sister. She's right-- because she has a figure and her sister doesn't so we are much more likely to notice the transgression. Technically we tell both the same rule, but we're much more likely to notice on one... |
Anonymous
| I am so thankful that DC went to a high school without a dress code. |