I'm turning 37 in June, why do IVF nurses keep saying I'm young

[Anonymous]

I feel old... I'm 36.5 almost 37. Why do IVF nurses say "oh you're so young." Is rhis young for IVF ?

[Anonymous]

No. They are just trying to be nice. I was 31 and on the young side at my clinic, but not by much. I used donor eggs and I thought I would be the youngest person in my online support group. But, I was middle of the pack even with donor eggs. I number of the women had lost their ovaries young to ovarian cancer or had other non-age related reasons they couldn't conceive. It's only on DCUM that it is assumed that age is the only reason people have fertility problems. In the real world, a majority of fertility patients are younger than 35 because more women in this age group are trying to have babies.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps you look younger than your age.
Even for medical interventions where age is important, your appearance trumps everything.

[Anonymous]

You are young, generally speaking. You are not young fertility-wise though! Unless that clinic sees mostly the 40 and over crowd.

[Anonymous]

They probably see a lot of 40+ women. Those three years can make a difference.

[Anonymous]

Same age and birthday, OP, and they kept telling me the same. I learned to ignore it. It's not true except in the sense that you have a number of years to keep trying (as opposed to if you were already 42 or something). And since I already had one kid, it was hardly reassuring to watch the age gap get bigger and bigger.

[Anonymous]

Once you get pregnant-everyone will be constantly referring to your advanced maternal age. Enjoy being called young while it lasts!

[Anonymous]

The odds that this is the person with 2 kids and good lab results trying for #3 - pretty high.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you look older. Anyway it's just stupid small talk

[Anonymous]

Strange. I would hear people confirm their DOB when being called back and they were MUCH younger than OP (except me).

[Anonymous]

You are relatively young for a fertility clinic. When we were going we saw a lot of 40+ ( like us) . The age range is typically about 35-45 so you are 9n the younger side. While there are a few in the 30-35 range (like pp) they are much less common in clinics. Most at that age are still trying at home.

[Anonymous]

Op here I'm at Cornell in NYC

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They probably see a lot of 40+ women. Those three years can make a difference.

+1. They see lots of women older than you. That's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here I'm at Cornell in NYC

I'm at Cornell too. The ladies there are definitely older than those at SG (where I started my journey).

[Anonymous]

I complained about being 42, and my doctor told me I was young, hah! (and that was more than a year ago.)

It's just dumb small talk.