Official "My DH raged at me and threw things on Valentine's Day morning" thread

[Anonymous]

....after he received the thoughtful presents I had gotten him, and as the kids were enjoying the thoughtful presents I had gotten them.

So, yeah, some of us know by 8 am that we aren't getting any gifts from our DH.

Thanks, Arlington County, for having summer camp registration start the day after VDay, so that DHs can scream at DWs for pressing them to make a decision about which weeks their schedule is open for vacation in order to be able to know which weeks to register for camps.

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[Anonymous]

Can I get you a lawyer for valentine's day? sounds like you need one...

[Anonymous]

Oh man, he needs some counseling for V-day. And yes, you need a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

So what did you do with the thoughtful gifts?

Take yourself out for supper, let him figure things out at home. Valentine's Day or not this is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like something my ex would do. I feel for you OP. I would say get a lawyer too, but it doesn't get better after the divorce either. The stuff pertaining to kids anyway. You will still need to communicate with him about the exact same things and he will be even more of a dick. Have three glasses of wine tonight is all I can say.

[Anonymous]

Don't blame Arlington County. Lots of things come up in life that require couples to communicate. This was just one. I'm sorry your dh makes communicating so difficult and stressful. That puts you in a tough spot when deadlines, etc. come up.

[Anonymous]

An you are married to this jerk why?

[Anonymous]

I don't think this is an Arlington problem. Raging & throwing things is not normal. Get out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:....after he received the thoughtful presents I had gotten him, and as the kids were enjoying the thoughtful presents I had gotten them.

So, yeah, some of us know by 8 am that we aren't getting any gifts from our DH.

Thanks, Arlington County, for having summer camp registration start the day after VDay, so that DHs can scream at DWs for pressing them to make a decision about which weeks their schedule is open for vacation in order to be able to know which weeks to register for camps.

Post it here

These should be singular.

And why would you want to vacation with this man? That sounds awful.

[Anonymous]

Solution : Register the children for every available week. Use your own vacation time to pack and move. Take the children with you.

[Anonymous]

Please do not blame Arlington, etc. for the outrageous behavior of your husband.

HIS behavior is entirely on him and him alone.

What a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Take the children out for Valentine's Day dinner and a movie. Come home late. Sleep with one of the children.

Basically, enjoy your day. Give DH a time out.

Throwing things? You've GOT to be kidding me. No.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP, but I don't think you're going to have a lot of other people who experienced the same thing this morning. I agree with others that you need a lawyer. Your DH's behavior isn't okay, but neither is remaining silent about it and letting it go. He needs a reality check, and maybe that starts with you taking the kids out on your own tonight and leaving DH home alone.

[Anonymous]

Why are you doing camps? I choose to spend summer with my child.

[Anonymous]

Just pick camps without his input (since he chose to act like a child) and send him the information. DONE.