Married, but bi?
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Anonymous
| It is a challenge being a mother, full time worker and...bisexual. There is seemingly no time to address finding like minded women out there. Is what I feel and what I am really that rare? Are there women that successfully maintain a marriage, being a mother AND have a successful dating life with women? Just curious |
Anonymous
| I have wondered the same thing but given up. Women are too hard to find. |
Anonymous
| It's not easy to find, but I've known a few who've done it; it is possible. |
Anonymous
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But I'm right here!
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Anonymous
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You want to date while married?
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Anonymous
| Wait, what? Why does being bi give you a pass to cheat on your spouse? |
Anonymous
| Youre having a problem with monogamy. This is not a bi problem. |
Anonymous
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You are married and want to date another woman? Odd.
I'm married to a man, but have a friend that i hang out with from time to time and we cant keep our hands off each otber. We are both married to men, but have an intense sexual atteaction to each other, but date. No. Sex, yes. Our sexual energy together is off the charts. That is most definitely exciting. |
Anonymous
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NP here.
I am also a married working mother who aspires to the exact same thing. Yes, I want to date a woman. It isn't just about the sex, it's about the pursuing, the slow burn, the romance... I almost have this with my BFF, alas, she's not quite into the physical part. Definitely there was a sort of romance when getting to know her, and chemistry. I would love to hear from someone who has had success with this. Life is so busy and hard. I'd really like to go to Lesbian Happy Hour next week but I don't know if I'm allowed with my current status. |
Anonymous
This is not a bi issue. You have a problem with monogamy and want to date other people other than your spouse. Your problem is the logistics of being married and wanting to behave like a single person. Yes, of course those logistics are difficult. Go pose this question in the main relationships forum. Lots of people over there can give you tips on how to find time to step out on your marriage. |
Anonymous
All of this. And honestly, your subject is kind of insulting -- gay people get married too, but you imply that "married" means you're in a heterosexual marriage, which you then confirm that you are. You're so lame, OP. |
Anonymous
| That's your takeaway from everything? Too be offended because this person framed their situation in a way the thought other could understand....and you get offended because her post was to hetero for you? Wow. Just. Wow. |
Anonymous
| post an email, OP. i am sure you'll get some responses. |
Anonymous
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You can't find time to have an affair? Or are you talking about Polyamory?
Either way, sometimes keeping your head above water with the basics is hard enough to do. |
Anonymous
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NP. Yes, your issue is nothing to do with being bi, but with wanting an open marriage. Lots of us bi people are monogamous with the person we marry. Their gender just happens to be a non-issue. I kind of hate when people equate bisexuality with being unable to be monogamous. It's a tired cliche, and one of the reasons people are leery of us.
So you need to pose your question as how to manage an open marriage. That's a valid question. |