yet another miscarriage

[Anonymous]

So. Tired. Feeling so beat up. This is my 5th miscarriage in as many years and it feels like utter shit. Feels so lonely, you know? My husband is very understanding, but this constant emotional rollercoaster is killing me and I know I act like an a$$ with the hormones flooding then fleeing my body. IVF wasn't that rough; this is what beats me up

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, op. I know it hurts . Hugs.

[Anonymous]

So sorry, OP. I've been there. Take some time if you can to process your grief and other feelings.

Hugs to you.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP... I too have been there a few times. Sending peace and hugs. It's so unfair.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for your loss OP. I had 4 miscarriages several years ago so I know the feeling. It sucks, there's no way around that fact.

This may not be helpful right now, but the fact that you are able to get pregnant multiple times is a positive sign. It could be that you have had some bad eggs that have resulted in the miscarriages. If you are willing to keep trying you have a good chance of having a successful pregnancy.

What helped me after multiple miscarriages was not getting too excited when I did get pregnant again. I was happy but, didn't tell anyone (except dr and husband). DUring the first trimester I considered myself 'sort of pregnant'. I know it seems silly because you either are or you're not, but after so many losses I just felt that way. I didn't get emotionally attached or excited until I made it past the thirteenth week.

Good luck to you OP. I hope it works out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry for your loss OP. I had 4 miscarriages several years ago so I know the feeling. It sucks, there's no way around that fact.

This may not be helpful right now, but the fact that you are able to get pregnant multiple times is a positive sign. It could be that you have had some bad eggs that have resulted in the miscarriages. If you are willing to keep trying you have a good chance of having a successful pregnancy.

What helped me after multiple miscarriages was not getting too excited when I did get pregnant again. I was happy but, didn't tell anyone (except dr and husband). DUring the first trimester I considered myself 'sort of pregnant'. I know it seems silly because you either are or you're not, but after so many losses I just felt that way. I didn't get emotionally attached or excited until I made it past the thirteenth week.

Good luck to you OP. I hope it works out

I agree with this except for the part about bad eggs. 5 miscarriages in a row is probably a sign of some other issues. If so many of her eggs were that bad she probably wouldn't be able to get pregnant in the first place even with IVF.

I also had many miscarriages and I took the same approach as pp. After the second miscarriage I stopped getting excited and just lived day to day.

I'm so sorry for your losses

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry for your loss OP. I had 4 miscarriages several years ago so I know the feeling. It sucks, there's no way around that fact.

This may not be helpful right now, but the fact that you are able to get pregnant multiple times is a positive sign. It could be that you have had some bad eggs that have resulted in the miscarriages. If you are willing to keep trying you have a good chance of having a successful pregnancy.

What helped me after multiple miscarriages was not getting too excited when I did get pregnant again. I was happy but, didn't tell anyone (except dr and husband). DUring the first trimester I considered myself 'sort of pregnant'. I know it seems silly because you either are or you're not, but after so many losses I just felt that way. I didn't get emotionally attached or excited until I made it past the thirteenth week.

Good luck to you OP. I hope it works out

I agree with this except for the part about bad eggs. 5 miscarriages in a row is probably a sign of some other issues. If so many of her eggs were that bad she probably wouldn't be able to get pregnant in the first place even with IVF.

I also had many miscarriages and I took the same approach as pp. After the second miscarriage I stopped getting excited and just lived day to day.

I'm so sorry for your losses

Agree. I'm sorry, OP. I had 3 miscarriages last year and then for my current pregnancy, did 3 things: used letrozole to ovulate much earlier in hopes of catching a better egg; figured out and addressed some immune issues; and figured out and addressed some clotting issues. Hopefully you already know if any of those are an issue for you but if not, consider looking into it before trying again (if you try again).

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry. Sending hugs from a total stranger.

[Anonymous]

Thanks, everyone. Forums like this are so helpful. A hug from my husband or a friend is nice, but words from those who truly get it and have been through similar... well, just thank you. I appreciate the kindness and support.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry. I have also had multiple consecutive losses and it sucks so bad. I finally saw Dr. Abbasi at Columbia Fertility and she helped me figure out why (in my case, clotting and immune problems).

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree, hearing the words of comfort from people who have gone through it makes a huge difference.

[Anonymous]

Hugs OP. Many of us have been in your shoes. It's a lonely and dark place. You will get through this and you will not feel like shit forever. Have faith.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for your losses OP. I just had my first one and I am overwhelmed, I can't even imagine how much sadness and frustration you're experiencing after 5.

Do you have any suspicions regarding any possible underlying causes that you can pursue for testing or discuss with another Dr?

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry for your loss. Infertility and miscarriages are so cruel and unfair.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry for your loss. {{ hugs }}