What's weird about where you are staying - Thanksgiving 2024 edition

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Anonymous wrote:I would not put up with that. If I’m not comfortable. I’m staying in a hotel.

Of course MIL also lives relatively far from nearest hotel etc. DS is now wearing a hat and puffer jacket...

This is why I have no shame about day drinking here

Since it’s not a money issue, just go turn the thermostat up to 70. Have one of your kids distract everyone if necessary.

Not all at once. You have to do it a degree or two at time.

I am that person -- I grew up with the house at 60 and have it set to 63-64 pretty much all the time. (We also have bad circulation, so even when it is higher there are rooms that are too hot and too cold). We have some targeted space heaters in certain places that we can turn on/off if we want. We have the money, and I know I drive my husband nuts, but I can't get over the feeling of wastefulness. its a hard habit to break!

(my father still turns it to 55 downstairs overnight, so at least I'm better than that).

My friend divorced his wife over this

Haha! My friend divorced her cheap o husband over this! He was insufferable all around not just about temperatures

My in laws unplug things with a digital clock or sign every night, to save a few pence on utilities.

They have $1-3M in the bank plus a $1M house value too.

They stayed over for thanksgiving week and asked me if they should help unplug anything before retiring to bed. I just say No.

Do they really think what they do is common or that amazing?

[Anonymous]

I would love the psychology behind asking only me, year 25 of our “relationship”, if I suddenly want to go around my house unplugging and replugging in the microwave, coffee machine, computers, tv receiver every 12 hours.

Did she want an argument? Passive aggressive?

Is she truly concerned about my utility costs?

Does she have some worldly great advice for me?

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Sorry year 15, 2007 onward

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Anonymous wrote:Wtf drinks apple juice or orange juice with a dinner meal?

And no, no grandmother the world over would drink up a grandchild’s juice and then taunt and gloat at said grandchild at a group dinner.

What a b1thc.

Hope you only get together once a year w in laws like that.

Apple cider. We do for Thanksgiving, and it has always been the children's drink. But we're New Englanders and we are picky about the cider. We only get it from orchards in fall. We used to press our own as a family outing. My parents would always let one gallon go a bit fuzzy, just for them.

Press your own in CT?

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Anonymous wrote:We went for a walk after thanksgiving dinner and 45 year old sibling kept overreacting to cars driving by my 18 year old DC. As in “move over Larlo, car coming!” Haven’t seen this sibling in a while and I think they still consider my DC a young kid.
FWIW sibling has no kids and we were in a large group so DC wasn’t the only one in the “way” of cars. No sidewalks but a very quiet suburban neighborhood.

My sibling does the same. That's OK, it's like DH and I had years to calm down about the kids' safety, and sibling only had the compressed time of visits and vacations to work through the impulse to keep Larlo safe. Kinda sweet.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not put up with that. If I’m not comfortable. I’m staying in a hotel.

Of course MIL also lives relatively far from nearest hotel etc. DS is now wearing a hat and puffer jacket...

This is why I have no shame about day drinking here

Since it’s not a money issue, just go turn the thermostat up to 70. Have one of your kids distract everyone if necessary.

Not all at once. You have to do it a degree or two at time.

I am that person -- I grew up with the house at 60 and have it set to 63-64 pretty much all the time. (We also have bad circulation, so even when it is higher there are rooms that are too hot and too cold). We have some targeted space heaters in certain places that we can turn on/off if we want. We have the money, and I know I drive my husband nuts, but I can't get over the feeling of wastefulness. its a hard habit to break!

(my father still turns it to 55 downstairs overnight, so at least I'm better than that).

My friend divorced his wife over this

Haha! My friend divorced her cheap o husband over this! He was insufferable all around not just about temperatures

My in laws unplug things with a digital clock or sign every night, to save a few pence on utilities.

They have $1-3M in the bank plus a $1M house value too.

They stayed over for thanksgiving week and asked me if they should help unplug anything before retiring to bed. I just say No.

Do they really think what they do is common or that amazing?

sounds like great tippers. not.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not put up with that. If I’m not comfortable. I’m staying in a hotel.

Of course MIL also lives relatively far from nearest hotel etc. DS is now wearing a hat and puffer jacket...

This is why I have no shame about day drinking here

Since it’s not a money issue, just go turn the thermostat up to 70. Have one of your kids distract everyone if necessary.

Not all at once. You have to do it a degree or two at time.

I am that person -- I grew up with the house at 60 and have it set to 63-64 pretty much all the time. (We also have bad circulation, so even when it is higher there are rooms that are too hot and too cold). We have some targeted space heaters in certain places that we can turn on/off if we want. We have the money, and I know I drive my husband nuts, but I can't get over the feeling of wastefulness. its a hard habit to break!

(my father still turns it to 55 downstairs overnight, so at least I'm better than that).

My friend divorced his wife over this

Haha! My friend divorced her cheap o husband over this! He was insufferable all around not just about temperatures

My in laws unplug things with a digital clock or sign every night, to save a few pence on utilities.

They have $1-3M in the bank plus a $1M house value too.

They stayed over for thanksgiving week and asked me if they should help unplug anything before retiring to bed. I just say No.

Do they really think what they do is common or that amazing?

Have you considered that they are afraid of fires? I know several families who had fires start from small household appliances, like toasters, electric blankets and even a fan on the floor.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not put up with that. If I’m not comfortable. I’m staying in a hotel.

Of course MIL also lives relatively far from nearest hotel etc. DS is now wearing a hat and puffer jacket...

This is why I have no shame about day drinking here

Since it’s not a money issue, just go turn the thermostat up to 70. Have one of your kids distract everyone if necessary.

Not all at once. You have to do it a degree or two at time.

I am that person -- I grew up with the house at 60 and have it set to 63-64 pretty much all the time. (We also have bad circulation, so even when it is higher there are rooms that are too hot and too cold). We have some targeted space heaters in certain places that we can turn on/off if we want. We have the money, and I know I drive my husband nuts, but I can't get over the feeling of wastefulness. its a hard habit to break!

(my father still turns it to 55 downstairs overnight, so at least I'm better than that).

My friend divorced his wife over this

Haha! My friend divorced her cheap o husband over this! He was insufferable all around not just about temperatures

My in laws unplug things with a digital clock or sign every night, to save a few pence on utilities.

They have $1-3M in the bank plus a $1M house value too.

They stayed over for thanksgiving week and asked me if they should help unplug anything before retiring to bed. I just say No.

Do they really think what they do is common or that amazing?

They have internalized the climate fear for their children…

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Anonymous wrote:I have a twist on this thread. How about clueless house guests? I’m hosting SIL and she arrived over the weekend for an 8 day stay. We have had numerous discussions and conflicts in the past about how disruptive her visits are to the kids sleep. Both kids have sleep disorders and my biggest stressor in life is getting my youngest to sleep and ensuring she gets the maximum sleep possible. My husband and I were looking forward to sleeping in Saturday morning (only day for the next week) and was woken up at 6:40am to giggling and screaming laughter from SIL and daughter together in the next room. SIL seemed confused when husband went in and asked them to be quiet and asking why daughter was awake. My son woke up moments later. I couldn’t fall asleep after that. Daughter was up almost 2 hours earlier than a normal Saturday. And his family wonders why visits are so exhausting!

How old are your kids that you expect them to sleep until 9am or later? 6:40 is a typical waking time for young kids and it sounds like they were staying in their room. I’d be interested to hear your SILs take on this visit.

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Irrelevant. The rule of thumb is, a guest follows the host’s rules. My husband, I, and our young children all sleep in until at least 8am on weekends. I would hate disrespectful guests who are loud at 6:30am, waking us all up. I would never invite them again.

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I never leave appliances plugged in - nor does my wife. Not since we brought home our first infant.

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Anonymous wrote:I never leave appliances plugged in - nor does my wife. Not since we brought home our first infant.

I will unplug everything before go on trips for sure, but admit leave most all plugged in but lots of surge protectors.

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Anonymous wrote:I never leave appliances plugged in - nor does my wife. Not since we brought home our first infant.

You unplug every appliance every night? TV, microwave, washer, and dryer? All of them?

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Anonymous wrote:I never leave appliances plugged in - nor does my wife. Not since we brought home our first infant.

You unplug every appliance every night? TV, microwave, washer, and dryer? All of them?

We only keep air fryer and toaster unplugged. Plug when using only. Everything else in the house is plugged in. And it's a lot. I know somebody whose dehumidifier burned the whole house down. But how do you unplug that at night? That's silly.

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Anonymous wrote:I never leave appliances plugged in - nor does my wife. Not since we brought home our first infant.

You unplug every appliance every night? TV, microwave, washer, and dryer? All of them?

We only keep air fryer and toaster unplugged. Plug when using only. Everything else in the house is plugged in. And it's a lot. I know somebody whose dehumidifier burned the whole house down. But how do you unplug that at night? That's silly.

I mean, burning down the house will dehumidify it....

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Anonymous wrote:We are only allowed to eat in the kitchen. No snacks in the living room (which is where we all hang out, next to kitchen.) Once they found a bag of chips that were in the upstairs bathroom garbage and they lost their minds. One of the kids had it in their bags from a rest stop before we got there and threw it away. We heard about it for weeks after we left.

My mom still talks about my brother’s ex-girlfriend who left a snack wrapper in the upstairs trash can. Not only is eating only allowed during meals, but “everyone knows that trash cans outside the kitchen are only for tissues.”

You can’t even take a tag off new clothing and leave it in the bathroom trash without a comment. It was really fun going through puberty as a girl under those conditions.

Come on you know you have to pack in and pack out the snack wrappers! lol

My aunt is a vegan for ethical reasons and is very strict that everyone in her house must eat by her rules. So yes, we pack in and pack out food, and also eat while out during the day.