Show me where OP said they did that. I'll wait. It'll take you awhile to go through all 40 pages. |
I don't buy OP's description of how the other women felt because of the other stuff she has posted. You can feel free to believe her. But I don't think OP showed one iota of evidence that these women were rude to her in any way whatsoever. |
+1 |
Do you really have so much time on your hands that now you're manufacturing in your head all the "unusual" reasons why some kid hasn't ridden the bus to school the last couple of days? |
Have you ever been out with a group of women from your kids' school but not invited the whole school? If so, then you are part of a clique. Those are the new rules. |
You know all the moms of all the kids in in all your kids' classes? I have twins and no other kids and they are in fourth grade and have been at the same school for years. I don't even know all the moms of all the fourth graders at our school (around 80-85 kids total) and I've been a room mom and gone on field trips (and before you decide that I'm a mean girl, I work full-time and don't schedule things for when I know people can't make it, don't not let people volunteer, etc.). |
Yes, of course. What don't you understand? |
I don't think you understand what hyperbole means. Even Jeff commented on the attacks on OP. It's not bizarre, it's run-of-the-mill DCUM. Are you new? |
I want to hear more about the neighborhood cliques. Can someone post some links to past threads on it? There is a neighborhood clique in my neighborhood where 7-8 families who all live on the same block and all have kids at the same school get together frequently. I'm wondering what issues exist. (FWIW I am not part of this clique as I live on a different block and we're not included/invited ) |
Jeff is what a 50 something man? I wouldn't really expect him to understand how women operate or to pick up on the misogyny in OPs post that so many found off putting. |
I guess I've been on both sides of this (but never intentionally left anyone out), both my stories about school pick up drama
I have been left out of a neighborhood moms clique...we moved in 2.5 years ago and have kids the same ages/in the same classes at school and the kids are friends but somehow the adults just don't want to get to know me and my husband I guess. When we moved in, I feel like we were very friendly toward them, went over and introduced ourselves on a nice day when they were all outside casually chatting while kids played and they just...looked at us like "why are you talking to us?" It was so awkward. And it's been awkward since though I have still tried to make an effort to be friendly. I will say hi to the moms at school pick up and they will literally stare at me and say nothing back. It is super weird. They are definitely a clique and they definitely don't like me for some reason. I think we are good neighbors: we keep our yard and house looking nice, don't park in their area, aren't loud, don't have a dog/pet, our kids are well behaved, etc. Then one time when my youngest was in kindergarten I was volunteering at school and overheard another kindergarten mom telling someone about how "all the girl moms from Ms. Smith's class" stand around in a circle at pick up and don't include her or welcome her to the group. I had honestly never noticed this person before, didn't know that she even had a kid in my kid's class because she wasn't at pick up often as she worked but I felt really bad about it and made an effort to include her after that. |
+1 |
I think Covid caused some cliques to accidentally form. There is a group of families at our school (all with kids in my kid's class, so I interact with them a fair bit) who created pod during Covid. They hired a teacher and their kids went to school together on a rotation among their houses, as they all live on the same block of a pretty dense neighborhood.
I don't think they meant to become exclusive, but Covid forced a kind of exclusivity, and you can still see it now several years later. One of the kids in that group became good friends with my child over the last year (1st grade) -- they were pretty inseparable both at school and aftercare. They'd run up to me at pick up and ask for a playdate. I tried to set one up several times with the mom but she kept saying they had a conflict. She never offered to host the playdate. Then the kid had a birthday party and it was just family's from that pod (even though it's four years later!) and my kid was not invited. To me it is just sad. I feel bad for my kid but also her kid, because I don't think they should be limited to the friends from their Covid pod for the rest of elementary school. |
Yes, I agree w/ this. And I also have experienced what you describe about parents not supporting a friendship between kids even though the kids are clearly friends/want to be closer. My kid is in 1st and has a girl in her class she has repeatedly asked for a play date with so I have tried to arrange a play date 3 times with the mom and every time she mentioned a conflict they had but never offered to any alternative or said anything to indicate she'd be interested in a future play date (if someone asks me for a play date w/ my kid and we can't do it I'll say "we can't do it that day but we'd love to get the kids together soon!" and then I'll offer some alternative dates/times we could get together and/or offer to host their kid--because I want to encourage the friendship!) I got the message. I will not keep inviting this kid but I feel so bad for my kid and hers like you said! They clearly like each other a lot and want to hang out outside of school. |
That's not a clique.
That's just friends getting together for a drink |