I want a simple wedding the second time around. Creative suggestions?

[Anonymous]

I'm getting remarried in the summer and hated my first wedding. I don't look good in white, am allergic to flowers, not into flashy anything.

For this wedding we both want small, cozy, personal. We may just dress up and go down to the courthouse, then have a party afterwards.

Of the weddings you've been to, what are the special details or moments that made it memorable?

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Courthouse works. Restaurant works. Small park works. Anything can work. Don't overthink it because it doesn't really matter as much as what comes after.

I'd say what will make the wedding memorable will be following it up with a lasting marriage.

[Anonymous]

Good food and good drink. The rest is just details. Go for broke to feed and hydrate your guests well!

[Anonymous]

Went to a wedding recently where they rented a comedy club for the night. One of the comedians (they chose them in advance) was certified to perform weddings too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good food and good drink. The rest is just details. Go for broke to feed and hydrate your guests well!

This! I honestly don't remember any kind of decorations or centerpieces or photo displays or anything from the weddings I've attended. I only remember if the food was good and the music fun. I'm in the same boat you are, and I'm really not worried at all about the venue or decorations. I care the most about my dress, the food and drink, and the music. Everything else gets forgotten.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Courthouse works. Restaurant works. Small park works. Anything can work. Don't overthink it because it doesn't really matter as much as what comes after.

I'd say what will make the wedding memorable will be following it up with a lasting marriage.

+1.

You got the big wedding out of the way, so just focus on the marriage this time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Courthouse works. Restaurant works. Small park works. Anything can work. Don't overthink it because it doesn't really matter as much as what comes after.

I'd say what will make the wedding memorable will be following it up with a lasting marriage.

+1.

You got the big wedding out of the way, so just focus on the marriage this time.

It wasn't even a big wedding, I just didn't like all the traditional elements. We're not doing an engagement ring, just going to put that money into a few amazing trips. Husband #two is a keeper, a much better fit for me in every way.

[Anonymous]

I went to a lovely backyard second wedding and really enjoyed it.

Alcohol/Food was bought from costco. Wedding cake was fancy. Music was home sound system. We were well fed, enjoying drinks, there was a nice wedding, and then a normal fun backyard party.

Only gripe: I wish that there had been a sharpie for writing on plastic glasses or wine charms or something.

Perhaps the wedding favor could be some way to mark your glass?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to a lovely backyard second wedding and really enjoyed it.

Alcohol/Food was bought from costco. Wedding cake was fancy. Music was home sound system. We were well fed, enjoying drinks, there was a nice wedding, and then a normal fun backyard party.

Only gripe: I wish that there had been a sharpie for writing on plastic glasses or wine charms or something.

Perhaps the wedding favor could be some way to mark your glass?

+1

If I was willing to remarry I would do a backyard wedding, although if you have allergies that might not work. Second choice is a beach wedding. I would never sign the marriage license again though, personally.

[Anonymous]

PP here (the one suggesting focusing on the marriage). We used to be wedding photographers. Our favorite weddings were the ones where the couples and guests looked like they were having a hell of a time. Dance dance dance!

[Anonymous]

Why would you go through this again? Men are shit. Read every thread here and you will change your mind. You're welcome

[Anonymous]

This was the 2nd marriage for both DH and I. I had a more traditional wedding the first time around, he had a courthouse ceremony, and no subsequent celebrations after. We decided to meet in the middle for our wedding.

We got the last appt at the courthouse on a Friday, with only immediate family. Then we had dinner in a private room with our families, it was nice and low key. Afterwards we invited local friends to a hotel bar that had a really nice patio area - it was about 25 people and we pre-ordered some food and covered everyone's drinks.

A few weeks later, we hosted our closest friends (many from out of town) at a private room at our favorite steakhouse. It was a lovely evening, started off with a cocktail hour and then we were seated for dinner.

We loved it. Exactly what we wanted. Good food, good drinks, minimal planning.

[Anonymous]

How about lunch or dinner at Inn at Little Washington, or Volt in Frederick. Amazing meal, quaint setting, great photos.

[Anonymous]

If you want it to be "simple" don't go looking for "creative ideas." Just rent a room at a restaurant. Don't futz around with outdoor venues (backyards or beaches) because then you have to rent tents, tables, plates, glasses, etc.

[Anonymous]

We had a ceremony with just the two of us then we had a party at a small venue like a fire hall with kegs, wine and a fried chicken buffet. I think it was really fun. There were little kids, dogs and unexpected foreign soliders who were brought along by DH's cousin. Every photo we have of the event everyone was smiling and laughing.