How do you get your 10yr old up?
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Anonymous
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Next year is middle school. The bus comes at 7:30. That means he has to be up by 6:45--7 at the latest. And he's a morning slow poke.
He has an alarm clock. It shrieks. We all sleep with the doors closed. I hear it in my room and have to go turn it off. He does not hear it. It sits on the bed next to his head. I shake him. Come back a few minutes more and shake again. Usually, I have to give up and pull him out of bed onto the floor. Then he at least opens his eyes. And then the morning fun of getting dressed, brushing teeth, and eating breakfast begins. We pack the backpack and lunch the night before. Currently, his alarm clock goes off at 7 and by 7:20 I'm pulling him out of bed. By 7:45 I'm losing my mind that we need to be out the door. On a good day, we're out the door by 8:00 but it is not pleasant. On the weekends, he sleeps until 9:30/10. He goes to bed at 8:30. How can I start working with him to get himself up when the alarm lock rings? |
Anonymous
| My DS is 11 and started MS this year. If he doesn't get out of bed by himself after pushing snooze once, he loses video games for half a day on the weekend. It didn't take long for him to figure it out. |
Anonymous
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Have you tried one of those alarm clocks with a light / blinking light? Maybe that will help? Also, as you swing by his bedroom at 7, turn on the light, and if he normally sleeps with shades down, open them.
You also may want to consider working with him to lighten up his sleeping conditions so that he doesn't blackout his room (make it so that it gets natural 'light' even at night) so he can begin to wake when the sky begins to lighten. |
Anonymous
| Does he actually fall asleep at 8:30? He sounds tired. Maybe he just needs more sleep even though what he is getting would be good for many kids. Some kids are just different. |
Anonymous
You must be very naive. He hears it. Trust me he hears it. He is making you play right into his hands. He is manipulating you and in no time will get whatever else he wants. Wise up. Dump his lazy ass out of bed if he doesn't get up at the first sound of the alarm. |
Anonymous
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DS is 10y and I wake him every morning. We have to be out the door by 7:05.
6:25ish - I go in, turn off white noise machine, and turn on hall light. 6:30 - remind him to get up while I am finishing getting ready 6:35 - remind him again. Get stern. He gets up. I go downstairs to fix breakfast while he gets up. 6:40ish - he comes downstairs and eats while I pack lunches 6:50ish - goes upstairs to brush teeth and get backpack 7:00 - shoes 7:05 walk out the door When kids have had a hard time getting out of bed, I wake them up 5m earlier the next morning. Setting alarms hasn't helped as he has horrible executive functioning skills. |
Anonymous
| Glass of cold water should do the trick. |
Anonymous
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get him to sleep earlier. Make sure he has no screen time in the last hour or two before bed. Does he get exercise during the day? Eat well?
One thing I do in the winter that helps my children is I turn the light on in their room 30 minutes before it's time for them to wake up. I know this helps me, and I think it helps them as well. (The light signals their brain that it's morning before they even wake up.) |
Anonymous
| We don't have natural sleeper-inners (unfortunately) but our 10 yo DS is not a fan of getting up right away. He doesn't use an alarm; I go in, pull up his blinds, say good morning and leave for about five minutes to do my own thing. Then I come back in and tell him it's time to get up and have breakfast. Sometimes that works on the first try. Sometimes I have to call upstairs once more and he comes down. I think that allowing enough time for that gradual wake-up is helpful. |
Anonymous
| What consequences have you tried? I cannot imagine dragging someone out of bed each day. The mean mom is me would wake him up 1 hour earlier and let him get ready as usual and let him wait or miss the bus and let him walk. |
Anonymous
| My son is 11. I tell him to get up & take a shower. I turn music on in the bathroom. The music & shower help a lot. He always comes out awake & in a pleasant mood. Now if I could figure out a way to have him get ready and out the door faster I'd be VERY happy. |
Anonymous
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My son has a vibrating alarm. That works to wake him. He also sets another alarm with sound that he puts across his room so he has to get up to turn it off.
In our house, in MS you are responsible to get yourself up and moving in the morning. We talked about it long before MS. And, we talked about what he thought would make him successful - his idea was the vibrating alarm. Occasionally, I will have to get him up. But then I remind him that in order for our house to run successfully and for everyone to get where they need to be, each one of us has to be responsible for ourselves. It usually shapes him up, which is great because I can leave before him and trust that he will get himself to school on time. |
Anonymous
| Is he really asleep at 8:30? Or is he reading/on his phone? 8:30 to 10am on the weekends seems like a lot for a 10 old. I guess you have to make bedtime 7:30 or 8 until he can get up on his own. If he complains, then ask him to come up with solutions. Stop babying him. |
Anonymous
| My 11 and 13 year olds have alarms. I remind them to set them the night before. If they don't, they oversleep. I leave. But I DO SAH so although they will eventually get a ride from me they will be very late. They have a school that frowns upon them being late, but thankfully frowns directly at the child, not me. |
Anonymous
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Take away after school privileges of all kinds until he starts getting up in the mornings.
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