Interpret this online dating behavior

[Anonymous]

Three dates in quick succession. Lunch, dinner, lunch. Second date (dinner) was followed by a nice stroll around town and some hand holding and kissing. After third date he said it was time for a real date. Then the holidays intervened.

We were supposed to see each other last week, and he begged off sick.

We then text bantered about doing something next weekend. Several flirty texts went back and forth about that. I also suggested we get together one night this week for another walk since it had been so long since we had seen each other. He said it sounded good but has not yet made a specific plan, although I invited him to.

I get a short text every day at least and sometimes it turns into a text exchange. He did text me at midnight on NYE.

I can't for the life of me figure out if he's really interested or just back burnering me until he sees how something else works out. He does not give off a player vibe and has been respectful, so I doubt he's juggling 6 people, but I guess no one ever thinks it is that.

Have I mentioned how much online dating sucks in middle age? It was so much easier when you just met people and got to know them in real life, but of course everyone is married now and the divorced set is forced online. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

I have no answer but would be interested in opinions. Online (or any) dating sucks.

[Anonymous]

I would ask "hey, are you free on x,y or z date for..." and see what he says. If that isn't followed through, I would move on.

[Anonymous]

I'm divorced and online dating and I'm also finding hat a lot of it is about momentum. I've lost interest in many guys if the momentum was t sustained. Likewise, many guys have held my interest despite a loss in momentum. But here, you might just need to be direct and ask.

[Anonymous]

I would go radio silent. Get busy with other things. Just assume the momentum has been lost.

If he's interested he'll initiate, if you don't hear from him you have your answer.

[Anonymous]

Young people date online too. Even in college, where you would assume it's never easier to meet someone.

[Anonymous]

You're on hold. I second going radio silent and moving on. It doesn't mean he won't resurface later on, but at this point it's not worth pursuing him or giving him much thought.

[Anonymous]

Threads like this make me pray I will never be single again. I would flunk Dating 101.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're on hold. I second going radio silent and moving on. It doesn't mean he won't resurface later on, but at this point it's not worth pursuing him or giving him much thought.

+1; he is exploring "other" options.....you should be exploring other options as well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Threads like this make me pray I will never be single again. I would flunk Dating 101.

I am single. I used to think that I was pretty good at dating. Have had several long term relationships and never had a hard time finding someone to spend time with. Now, it seems everything is different and I am flunking miserably.

[Anonymous]

I bet he is just sitting at home and masturbating by himself because it's easier. Also, it's not a nice weather this week to go for a walk and maybe walking sounds boring to him.

[Anonymous]

You've been back burnered.

[Anonymous]

I pick up checks, hold doors, and open car doors for my male dates. But sometimes, you gotta let the guy lead the dance. You have signaled your interest; he's got to take it from here.

[Anonymous]

OP here. So then do I just ignore his texts? I don't text him unless he texts me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Threads like this make me pray I will never be single again. I would flunk Dating 101.

Oh God people this is nothing. He got distracted by a slinkier woman; they hadn't even argued over sleeping on the wet spot yet . Life goes on.