wife "finds herself" in NYC art shows and starts sleeping with other men

[Anonymous]

http://nymag.com/thecut/2017/01/both-sides-of-a-breakup-an-open-marriage-made-him-feel-sick.html

David: She had gained a lot of weight, which never mattered to me. But it was a sign of something else. We never kept secrets, so I just asked her to tell me what was going on with her. What could I do? I would have done anything for her. Really.

Lana: I remember these explosive tears and just bawling to him about hating my life. Loving my kids, but hating my life. This was around my 30th birthday. We decided that, first of all, he was going to work less. He could afford to do it because he had inherited some family money by then. With him around more, I could join a gym. In about six months, I lost something like 68 pounds. I was a size 2. I had made friends at the gym. I was doing things I never did in the city, like going to art shows, poetry nights, open-mike nights. By 32, I found myself in New York City.

Lana: One night I partied a little too hard and came home really sick. I admitted to David I had done coke and my heart rate was really high — I was really scared. We called an ambulance and then sent them home, because we were just … scared. Like, that one stupid night would affect our kids for the rest of their lives. Next day, horrific hangover. Next few days, lots of long talks.

David: The good news is, she never really drank or drugged again. The less-good news: We decided in order to save our marriage, Lana needed freedom to explore her sexuality. She really thought that was the root of her wild behavior. Again, I went with it, even though my gut was like, “Oh, fuck. Here we go …”

Lana: I had met other guys here and there and never cheated. But I wanted to. I still had these unmanageable X-rated fantasies pretty much nonstop. When we decided to test out an open marriage, I was excited. I wasn’t sure I’d act on it, but the option to be free was almost enough. The first man I hit on … well, this is really embarrassing, but I remember putting the vibe out there to one of my kid’s teachers. He did not respond well. He shut it down. I kinda liked how the rejection felt. At least it was something! The next guy I hit on was someone named Billy, a writer for a big magazine (which I thought was sooo cool) and a Buddhist … and he was game. And then there were a couple more.

David: The only rule was to tell each other anything we wanted to know. If I didn’t want to hear about it, that was that. If I wanted to hear every single detail, then I got it. With Billy, because it was our first time in the new situation, I stupidly asked for every detail. Let me tell you, those details still haunt me — and it’s been ten years. I can’t even talk to a Buddhist without wanting to barf.

Lana: David never went out with anyone else, even though I genuinely wanted him to. It just didn’t interest him. I felt bad, but I didn’t feel that bad because we had talked about everything. Nothing I did was “against the rules.” There was never one lie in our marriage. No betrayal. We just wanted different lifestyles in the end.

David: Our open-marriage trial didn’t last long. Maybe a year. I found it completely unbearable. Devastating.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. He deserves better. Hope he found it.

[Anonymous]

So many cucks.

[Anonymous]

Is the moral not to let your wife go to art shows or poetry readings?

[Anonymous]

"I'm basically happy, everything worked out, can't look at a buddhist without barfing and still think about my wife getting railed by another man ten years later. We're a big happy modern family."

[Anonymous]

Klassy to hit on a kid's teacher. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

This is typical. Many men think that it's their wives holding them back from banging lots of ladies. Pure delusion, because it's the other way around.

[Anonymous]

It's obviously fiction disguised as fact. These people don't really exist. It's journalistic fraud.

[Anonymous]

WTF. No way, no how.

[Anonymous]

Husband goals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many cucks.

what is causing the massive increase in cucks?

[Anonymous]

I love how angry this story is making the men of DCUM. Lolol

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous, but I'm so glad you posted it. I want to keep reading the series. I also really like unhitched by the New York Times. They're interesting

[Anonymous]

Why are people so mad at her? He remarried, the kids are well, they live close to each other, she's been with others. She was honest with him, he tried, she tried, they split.

Just to be clear, those criticizing her are pissed that she changed her life and isn't suffering for it. People can and do change, if rarely.

Nothing's causing 'cucks' to be increased. Men who talk like that desperately need to believe THEY are more macho and testosterone-y than other men who managed to marry women they love. Go back to YouPorn and concentrate your FSA on therapy, bros.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are people so mad at her? He remarried, the kids are well, they live close to each other, she's been with others. She was honest with him, he tried, she tried, they split.

Just to be clear, those criticizing her are pissed that she changed her life and isn't suffering for it. People can and do change, if rarely.

Nothing's causing 'cucks' to be increased. Men who talk like that desperately need to believe THEY are more macho and testosterone-y than other men who managed to marry women they love. Go back to YouPorn and concentrate your FSA on therapy, bros.

Because she has a sex life these men can only dream of and that makes them sad, jealous, and angry.