Very superficial, but driving me crazy! Young adult DD has been calling me...
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Anonymous
| mama. uggh. can't stand it, grates horribly on my nerves. plus she says it in a babyish voice. can i ask her to please not call me this? or do i need to just suck it up? she always called me "mom" before this started a few months ago. ps: she is currently living at home looking for a fulltime job. |
Anonymous
I hate that also OP. 
My daughter is only 5 but she has started using a high-pitched babyish voice, saying "like" as a filler word, and occasionally calling me mama. I am correcting all of those things and she's 5! You can bet your bottom dollar that anyone old enough to be looking for a full-time job would not be allowed to talk to me that way. |
Anonymous
j OP here, haha you're right! I will correct her next time! She does the same with DH, but I think he kind of likes it. 'daddy" |
Anonymous
I'm annoyed just reading that! Def cut it off now, OP. |
Anonymous
| Why on earth would she start that out of the blue? I would irritate me to and I am from a country where we say mama, all the time. I still call my mom mama over there in Eastern Europe, yet to have my 17 year old start calling me that out of the blue when in English I have always been mom, would be beyond weird. Did she just watch the Heart of Dixie? |
Anonymous
| Yes, just tell her matter of factly to stop calling you this because it grates on your nerves. |
Anonymous
| Where is it coming from? I'd talk to your daughter. Maybe she's going through the transitition of growing into adulthood and is looking for some comfort. |
Anonymous
NP here. Not sure about the idea of comfort but I do agree that OP could just calmly ask her daughter what's up with that, rather than saying "It's irritating, stop it!" I would wonder whether DD just thinks it's funny, or is basing it (as someone said above) on some movie or TV show she's into at the moment, or got it from friends, whatever. Just ask, OP. Why wouldn't you? Does your DD occasionally needle you just a little to see if she can get a reaction? (I have a teen DD too, can you tell?) I get where you're coming from. I am a Mama by choice (as was my own mother and her mother too) I'd react with as much irritation if my teen DD started calling me Mom or (shudder) Mommy as you're reacting to being called Mama....And yeah, we're from the South, so maybe it's cultural. But I do get your frustration, just would advise not turning this into a battle but just asking and saying clearly that you don't like Mama but want her to call you Mom; point out that if you started calling her by some other name she disliked, she'd want you to stop, right? |
Anonymous
gross. |
Anonymous
| Disown her. So sayeth DCUM. |
Anonymous
What's so offensive about your 5-year-old calling you mama? |
Anonymous
It's not PP's name. You decide what you are going by, and that's it. If your name is Elizabeth, and someone keeps calling you Liz, when that's not a nickname you want to use, they need to be corrected, and they need to stop doing it. A 5 year old can understand that, and OP's young adult DD can definitely understand it. |
Anonymous
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With a young adult, instead of concentrating on a behavior that bothers you, look at the behavior as a symptom.
A young adult engaging in a regressive behavior (mama instead of mom) is signalling anxiety and fear. What is going on in her world? |
Anonymous
| People are so rigid. |
Anonymous
| Wow. Really OP? #firstworldproblems |