Very superficial, but driving me crazy! Young adult DD has been calling me...

[Anonymous]

Did she go to college in the south? Maybe she has friends who call their moms that and she thinks it's cool. I'd just ask her nicely to stop.

[Anonymous]

I am so sad that one day my toddler WON'T call me Mama. So yeah I don't see this as a problem.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate that also OP.

My daughter is only 5 but she has started using a high-pitched babyish voice, saying "like" as a filler word, and occasionally calling me mama. I am correcting all of those things and she's 5! You can bet your bottom dollar that anyone old enough to be looking for a full-time job would not be allowed to talk to me that way.

What's so offensive about your 5-year-old calling you mama?

It's not PP's name. You decide what you are going by, and that's it. If your name is Elizabeth, and someone keeps calling you Liz, when that's not a nickname you want to use, they need to be corrected, and they need to stop doing it. A 5 year old can understand that, and OP's young adult DD can definitely understand it.

The adult daughter not withstanding, I just don't see the problem with a young child calling her mother "mama" if that's what she suddenly decides to call her. It's not like she's calling her Dorothy or Rover. My 5-year-old calls me Mommy (well, Mummy sometimes, when she's in Peppa Pig mode). I imagine someday that will become Mom. I don't dictate it. Seems like a totally different scenario than a grown-up. I guess I would just expect a parent to be a little more understanding with a kindergartner and maybe, I don't know, think it's cute.

[Anonymous]

Wow op. My mom hated me calling her "mom" and wanted me to call her "mama." Sometimes you just can't please people.

If your daughter is doing this, maybe she need reassurance, maybe she's scared, maybe she's pissed off at you. Who knows? Talk to her.
Or, decide to hate her and threaten to disown her like my mom did eventually cause I didn't do everything exactly the way she wanted.

[Anonymous]

Pray that her BC will fail and then you can mockingly call her "mama"? Then ask her how she feels about it. That will serve her right!

[Anonymous]

I'm 35 and still call my parents mommy and daddy. I've gotten so much DCUM and UB hate for it but I don't care! Sue me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and still call my parents mommy and daddy. I've gotten so much DCUM and UB hate for it but I don't care! Sue me.

Same with me. Except I call my mom "Mummy" and "Mama". I call my dad "daddy" or "Daddy Mr (Insert Last Name)"

I have several siblings, older and younger, and we call our parents different things at different times. And the names change. lol. Our parents have no problems with it. lol

Sometimes adult children get bored and want to shake things up a little bit. lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hate that also OP.

My daughter is only 5 but she has started using a high-pitched babyish voice, saying "like" as a filler word, and occasionally calling me mama. I am correcting all of those things and she's 5! You can bet your bottom dollar that anyone old enough to be looking for a full-time job would not be allowed to talk to me that way.

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OP here, haha you're right! I will correct her next time! She does the same with DH, but I think he kind of likes it. 'daddy"

Wait...WHAT??! When did 'mama' and 'daddy' become insults?

[Anonymous]

Mom, mama, mother, mommy, mum....WTF difference does it make?

[Anonymous]

I'm from the South and never heard anyone refer to their mother as Mama. All say Ma. My kids called me by my name. It's funny.

Unlike my stupid 30 year old neighbor that calls her mother Mommy. How fruit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and still call my parents mommy and daddy. I've gotten so much DCUM and UB hate for it but I don't care! Sue me.

+1 except I'm 43!

[Anonymous]

I only call my mom momma however not in a babyish voice. I also call my dad Pa. I won't change for anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With a young adult, instead of concentrating on a behavior that bothers you, look at the behavior as a symptom.

A young adult engaging in a regressive behavior (mama instead of mom) is signalling anxiety and fear.

What is going on in her world?

This. She's regressing OP, and probably anxious. Talk to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pray that her BC will fail and then you can mockingly call her "mama"? Then ask her how she feels about it. That will serve her right!

The child is FIVE. Little early for plotting one's revenge upon, don't you think?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Really OP? #firstworldproblems

Yeah well, I'm pretty sure op doesn't live in the third world, so most definitely has "first world problems." This is such a silly remark.