My mom hates my fiancé

[Anonymous]

Your Mom is jealous of the new woman in your life, and is being unreasonable. This behavior will escalate, if you allow it. Firm boundaries, less sharing, more support for your wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

1. Not a race/class issue. Fiancée is white with MC background.

2. About the long engagement. We were engaged when I was finishing my time in the navy and waited until we could afford a house and wedding without taking on debt. Covid added a year to our engagement time.

I appreciate the helpful responses. This is agonizing on many levels for both of us. I don’t know how my mom will be long term.

Why does she think your fiancée is a “thug”?

Maybe she is like one of those women in An Offer and a Gentleman? While the military isn’t exactly a lucrative career field, it does sometimes attract a certain type of woman. Thug probably isn’t the right term, but given how you describe the fighting, I can see where mom might be coming from

Uh no, dude only did four years in the military. These ‘types’ want the twenty year kind - for the pension and the sweet Northrop Grumman SVP gig at the end. Nope, this is all on Narcissistic Mom.