Anyone divorce and happily single forever?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was married for 24 years and got alimony for life. Alimony stops if I remarry. So, no.

What a winner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know I will be once it finally happens. TBH, I see no advantage to dealing with men's needs anymore. I don't care about sex too much (but am attractive and fit and I am sure I could easily date and have sex occasionally if I wanted), and as far as the other stuff, no thanks. I need the companionship of my children, friends, and family. Living with a needy, volatile, low-empathy, self-obsessed, insulting man for 15 years, on top of all the obnoxious men I have dealt with in my career, has just turned me off to them for good.

Sing it, sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know I will be once it finally happens. TBH, I see no advantage to dealing with men's needs anymore. I don't care about sex too much (but am attractive and fit and I am sure I could easily date and have sex occasionally if I wanted), and as far as the other stuff, no thanks. I need the companionship of my children, friends, and family. Living with a needy, volatile, low-empathy, self-obsessed, insulting man for 15 years, on top of all the obnoxious men I have dealt with in my career, has just turned me off to them for good.

Sing it, sister.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am very single, not even dating. Have been separated for 1.5 years now and divorce will be finalized anytime. I have a young child that lives with me full time and I just can't imagine finding the time to date, or really, even handle a first date just to get to know someone- at this point in my life, seems like a waste of time.

Spending time with my kid, friends, and family are much more valuable and enjoyable to me right now. So yes, I am very happy. I love that when I put my child to bed, it is WHATEVER I want to do!!! In my house! Maybe one day I'll want to share space again, but I am truly enjoying doing whatever and whenever, when I want...I will never underestimate this again!

This is me too! I have been divorced for 2 years, and the divorce itself took two nightmare years to finalize. Never dated at any point during that time and currently still not dating. I also have one young child and I have primary/majority custody. I feel the same way after I put my child to bed. The happiness of not being married to and sharing a home with an abusive a-hole is AMAZING. After I tuck my kiddo into bed, I enjoy ME time in my happy, quiet, peaceful home. It's wonderful. I am fulfilled in my life with my child, my family, and my friends. No desire to bring a new man into the picture anytime soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know I will be once it finally happens. TBH, I see no advantage to dealing with men's needs anymore. I don't care about sex too much (but am attractive and fit and I am sure I could easily date and have sex occasionally if I wanted), and as far as the other stuff, no thanks. I need the companionship of my children, friends, and family. Living with a needy, volatile, low-empathy, self-obsessed, insulting man for 15 years, on top of all the obnoxious men I have dealt with in my career, has just turned me off to them for good.

Sing it, sister.

+1,000

+1,000,000 buy bye, dudes you are overrated on the whole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am very single, not even dating. Have been separated for 1.5 years now and divorce will be finalized anytime. I have a young child that lives with me full time and I just can't imagine finding the time to date, or really, even handle a first date just to get to know someone- at this point in my life, seems like a waste of time.

Spending time with my kid, friends, and family are much more valuable and enjoyable to me right now. So yes, I am very happy. I love that when I put my child to bed, it is WHATEVER I want to do!!! In my house! Maybe one day I'll want to share space again, but I am truly enjoying doing whatever and whenever, when I want...I will never underestimate this again!

This is me too! I have been divorced for 2 years, and the divorce itself took two nightmare years to finalize. Never dated at any point during that time and currently still not dating. I also have one young child and I have primary/majority custody. I feel the same way after I put my child to bed. The happiness of not being married to and sharing a home with an abusive a-hole is AMAZING. After I tuck my kiddo into bed, I enjoy ME time in my happy, quiet, peaceful home. It's wonderful. I am fulfilled in my life with my child, my family, and my friends. No desire to bring a new man into the picture anytime soon.

Congrats. Hope I get full custody from my a-hole STBX too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think brother is gay too.

You guys are funny. He’s lived with women and banged 1,000s. Furthest thing from gay there is.

But, my sister and I joke that when a man reaches a certain age and never married society says “he’s gay”. If a woman does “she’s a cat woman”.

Society can’t handle people that don’t follow the prescribed script: marriage, kids, etc.

He is 100% in the closet and you are ridiculously naive.

Why do you think he is gay? Just because he isn't getting married? That is so strange to me. Does that mean all single women are in the closet too? What is wrong with just not wanting to get married? Esp in NYC, it seems like it could be pretty fun to be a single, childless adult -- there is always stuff to do and not everyone there has kids like in the suburbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think brother is gay too.

You guys are funny. He’s lived with women and banged 1,000s. Furthest thing from gay there is.

But, my sister and I joke that when a man reaches a certain age and never married society says “he’s gay”. If a woman does “she’s a cat woman”.

Society can’t handle people that don’t follow the prescribed script: marriage, kids, etc.

He is 100% in the closet and you are ridiculously naive.

Why do you think he is gay? Just because he isn't getting married? That is so strange to me. Does that mean all single women are in the closet too? What is wrong with just not wanting to get married? Esp in NYC, it seems like it could be pretty fun to be a single, childless adult -- there is always stuff to do and not everyone there has kids like in the suburbs.

He's overcompensating.