Best sleeper sofas for picky in-laws 😬

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.havertys.com/furniture/sleepers/ellis-sleeper

This one, with a memory foam mattress topper. We were told that it's the same design as the Pottery Barn one, I'm not sure on the price difference though.

Sorry, just saw you had a $1200 limit. We searched and searched and couldn't find a cheap one that was nearly as comfortable as this one. The sofas in that price range all have that metal bar situation that is horrible on your back.

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Anonymous wrote:Let the inlaws use your room, and you take the sofa.

+1 Same.

+2 My husband and I would never, ever allow either set of parents or any of our elders to sleep on the sofa. They need the bed in the primary bedroom and OP/spouse need to sleep on the sofa. Or kick kids out of their bedrooms, put two beds side-by-side and let the parents or elders sleep there. The kids can bunk up with their parents.

How is this even a question!?! Who would treat guests that way by putting them on a sofa??? Yikes!

In my family, we don’t impose on people who don’t have enough space/enough comfortable sleeping spaces. That’s because we’re not cheap.

Yes, honestly, I'd rather pay for a hotel for guests. But my family did not grow up that way, and it is just expected that we all cram together. As my parents age, I will give up my bed. But I would resent being kicked out to the living room in my own home. Just, no.

I also hate the expectation to have a bed set up in a guest room when we have guests <5% of the time. We have a spare room, but it is a home office, and a full bed in it would be crowded

OP here. Yes. This is us. We have a guest room, and there is currently a Queen bed in it for my in-laws, but they visit once every 2-3 months. We have a small home and we would like to use the guest room for a home office and/or gaming room for my kids. I thought putting in a pull-out sofa was the perfect solution.

I understand, but sleep sofas just aren’t great especially for older people. We have a daybed from west elm with a regular twin mattress in it from Macy’s and it can be made up to sort of look like a couch. That’s what I would do for one person and if you need to sleep 2 get a daybed with a trundle. If your kids play games in there they will be fine with it as opposed to a couch.

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Anonymous wrote:Let the inlaws use your room, and you take the sofa.

+1 Same.

+2 My husband and I would never, ever allow either set of parents or any of our elders to sleep on the sofa. They need the bed in the primary bedroom and OP/spouse need to sleep on the sofa. Or kick kids out of their bedrooms, put two beds side-by-side and let the parents or elders sleep there. The kids can bunk up with their parents.

How is this even a question!?! Who would treat guests that way by putting them on a sofa??? Yikes!

In my family, we don’t impose on people who don’t have enough space/enough comfortable sleeping spaces. That’s because we’re not cheap.

Yes, honestly, I'd rather pay for a hotel for guests. But my family did not grow up that way, and it is just expected that we all cram together. As my parents age, I will give up my bed. But I would resent being kicked out to the living room in my own home. Just, no.

I also hate the expectation to have a bed set up in a guest room when we have guests <5% of the time. We have a spare room, but it is a home office, and a full bed in it would be crowded

OP here. Yes. This is us. We have a guest room, and there is currently a Queen bed in it for my in-laws, but they visit once every 2-3 months. We have a small home and we would like to use the guest room for a home office and/or gaming room for my kids. I thought putting in a pull-out sofa was the perfect solution.

I understand, but sleep sofas just aren’t great especially for older people. We have a daybed from west elm with a regular twin mattress in it from Macy’s and it can be made up to sort of look like a couch. That’s what I would do for one person and if you need to sleep 2 get a daybed with a trundle. If your kids play games in there they will be fine with it as opposed to a couch.

I’m a PP with a sofa bed and older parents. If there are two people in your day/trundle bed, won’t one of them be on the wall? I worried about our parents climbing over one another to get in and out of bed when I considered that option. If PP’s budget is $1300, I think a sofa bed with a proper mattress is likely the best solution.

[Anonymous]

It’s’ exclusively your home 355 days a year, and guest quarters for maybe 10 days a year, right?

Make it the house you want to live in, with the configuration and furniture YOU want to live with.

Buy the sleeper sofa or air mattress with frame or futon or whatever you want and you can afford. If guests don’t like it, they can stop being cheap and go stay at a local hotel.

My sister has a lovely home, but it is small. We don’t need to add four extra people to the mix. We’re not cheap, so we stay at a hotel and don’t put a burden on our hosts.

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Murphy bed

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Anonymous wrote:Let the inlaws use your room, and you take the sofa.

+1 Same.

+2 My husband and I would never, ever allow either set of parents or any of our elders to sleep on the sofa. They need the bed in the primary bedroom and OP/spouse need to sleep on the sofa. Or kick kids out of their bedrooms, put two beds side-by-side and let the parents or elders sleep there. The kids can bunk up with their parents.

How is this even a question!?! Who would treat guests that way by putting them on a sofa??? Yikes!

In my family, we don’t impose on people who don’t have enough space/enough comfortable sleeping spaces. That’s because we’re not cheap.

Yes, honestly, I'd rather pay for a hotel for guests. But my family did not grow up that way, and it is just expected that we all cram together. As my parents age, I will give up my bed. But I would resent being kicked out to the living room in my own home. Just, no.

I also hate the expectation to have a bed set up in a guest room when we have guests <5% of the time. We have a spare room, but it is a home office, and a full bed in it would be crowded

OP here. Yes. This is us. We have a guest room, and there is currently a Queen bed in it for my in-laws, but they visit once every 2-3 months. We have a small home and we would like to use the guest room for a home office and/or gaming room for my kids. I thought putting in a pull-out sofa was the perfect solution.

Then a day bed with a pop-up trundle is your best bet. This is what I have on my office/guest room. It is an actual bed and very comfortable and would be fine for kids to sit or lay on to play.

Problem solved!

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Anonymous wrote:Let the inlaws use your room, and you take the sofa.

+1 Same.

+2 My husband and I would never, ever allow either set of parents or any of our elders to sleep on the sofa. They need the bed in the primary bedroom and OP/spouse need to sleep on the sofa. Or kick kids out of their bedrooms, put two beds side-by-side and let the parents or elders sleep there. The kids can bunk up with their parents.

How is this even a question!?! Who would treat guests that way by putting them on a sofa??? Yikes!

In my family, we don’t impose on people who don’t have enough space/enough comfortable sleeping spaces. That’s because we’re not cheap.

We like our parents and elders, and we want them to stay with us because we enjoy their company. I understand that other families are different. Do what works for you.

In the meantime, we would give our bedroom to our parents and elders while we slept elsewhere in the house.

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Anonymous wrote:Let the inlaws use your room, and you take the sofa.

+1 Same.

+2 My husband and I would never, ever allow either set of parents or any of our elders to sleep on the sofa. They need the bed in the primary bedroom and OP/spouse need to sleep on the sofa. Or kick kids out of their bedrooms, put two beds side-by-side and let the parents or elders sleep there. The kids can bunk up with their parents.

How is this even a question!?! Who would treat guests that way by putting them on a sofa??? Yikes!

In my family, we don’t impose on people who don’t have enough space/enough comfortable sleeping spaces. That’s because we’re not cheap.

Yes, honestly, I'd rather pay for a hotel for guests. But my family did not grow up that way, and it is just expected that we all cram together. As my parents age, I will give up my bed. But I would resent being kicked out to the living room in my own home. Just, no.

I also hate the expectation to have a bed set up in a guest room when we have guests <5% of the time. We have a spare room, but it is a home office, and a full bed in it would be crowded

OP here. Yes. This is us. We have a guest room, and there is currently a Queen bed in it for my in-laws, but they visit once every 2-3 months. We have a small home and we would like to use the guest room for a home office and/or gaming room for my kids. I thought putting in a pull-out sofa was the perfect solution.

I understand, but sleep sofas just aren’t great especially for older people. We have a daybed from west elm with a regular twin mattress in it from Macy’s and it can be made up to sort of look like a couch. That’s what I would do for one person and if you need to sleep 2 get a daybed with a trundle. If your kids play games in there they will be fine with it as opposed to a couch.

I’m a PP with a sofa bed and older parents. If there are two people in your day/trundle bed, won’t one of them be on the wall? I worried about our parents climbing over one another to get in and out of bed when I considered that option. If PP’s budget is $1300, I think a sofa bed with a proper mattress is likely the best solution.

I’m the PP and it’s a valid point but I think most would still prefer it to a sleep sofa. Also if you get a daybed without a sofa type back, you could always move it off the wall when guests visit so you can get out from either side. While I see what people are saying about a hotel, many of us really want the older relatives to be able to stay with us comfortably so will make bedding arrangements accordingly. I know I do not want to sleep on air mattresses or sleep sofas when I visit people (and would certainly stay in a hotel rather than expect anything else at a friend’s house etc).

[Anonymous]

You could rent a bed when they are coming to visit.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let the inlaws use your room, and you take the sofa.

+1 Same.

+2 My husband and I would never, ever allow either set of parents or any of our elders to sleep on the sofa. They need the bed in the primary bedroom and OP/spouse need to sleep on the sofa. Or kick kids out of their bedrooms, put two beds side-by-side and let the parents or elders sleep there. The kids can bunk up with their parents.

How is this even a question!?! Who would treat guests that way by putting them on a sofa??? Yikes!

In my family, we don’t impose on people who don’t have enough space/enough comfortable sleeping spaces. That’s because we’re not cheap.

We like our parents and elders, and we want them to stay with us because we enjoy their company. I understand that other families are different. Do what works for you.

In the meantime, we would give our bedroom to our parents and elders while we slept elsewhere in the house.

Thanks for the suggestion. I don’t think my in laws would want to sleep in our bedroom. That would be strange for all.

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OP, I think I'd put in a daybed with a trundle. Find one that can accommodate real mattresses. Can you move the queen bed into one of your kid's rooms? That way you could always put the in-laws in the kid's room, and the kid could sleep in the guest room.

We just got rid of the queen bed in our guest room, and put in a trundle. We just don't have enough guests (maybe 5 nights a year) and with both my DH and I working from home so much more, we needed the space for our daily living.

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My sister has the IKEA Friheten and our mother has slept on it with a foam topper. Mom (who definitely qualifies as picky) said it was very comfortable so she is now planning to get one for guests. I am planning to get one for the living room in our guest house to replace the daybed that's in there now but the fabric that I like has been out of stock for months.

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I stayed at a Marriott a few years ago—it might have been the grande ocean in Hilton head —and they had the most outrageously comfortable sofa bed. It was a fold out kind with no bar—like a thick mattress so no metal or mechanical pieces underneath. I always wondered what brand it was.

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Don’t have much to add other than I’m not a picky sleeper but if given the choice between ANY sleeper sofa and the floor, I’ll choose the floor.

Also, I feel bad for these people who “won’t put their families” out by staying with them. It’s not being cheap. I would be appalled if my family thought they needed to stay elsewhere for my sake. We all love being together and staying in the same house is really fun, especially for my kids. It has nothing to do with money. It’s very odd that’s some people’s assumption.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let the inlaws use your room, and you take the sofa.

+1 Same.

+2 My husband and I would never, ever allow either set of parents or any of our elders to sleep on the sofa. They need the bed in the primary bedroom and OP/spouse need to sleep on the sofa. Or kick kids out of their bedrooms, put two beds side-by-side and let the parents or elders sleep there. The kids can bunk up with their parents.

How is this even a question!?! Who would treat guests that way by putting them on a sofa??? Yikes!

In my family, we don’t impose on people who don’t have enough space/enough comfortable sleeping spaces. That’s because we’re not cheap.

We like our parents and elders, and we want them to stay with us because we enjoy their company. I understand that other families are different. Do what works for you.

In the meantime, we would give our bedroom to our parents and elders while we slept elsewhere in the house.

Thanks for the suggestion. I don’t think my in laws would want to sleep in our bedroom. That would be strange for all.

Agreed- it seems some people have no need for privacy/boundaries but I would be appalled both by the idea of my father in law and mother in law taking over my bedroom and equally by the idea of taking over the bedroom of my married daughter and son-in-law.