what do you think is the appropriate age is for wearing a 2-piece bathing suit?

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Anonymous wrote:You never thought of your daughter possibly being prematurely sexualized by wearing a bikini at a young age?
-OP

No, I didn’t.

+1. Actually covering non-existent breasts in a young child is what is sexualizing.

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If this is where your mind goes to, you are going to have lots of things to work out, op.

Come off it. All bathing suits cover non existent breasts. Having a child bathing suit cut like an adult string bikini is what's sexualizing. Same reason I wouldn't let my seven year old wear red nail polish or lipstick or high heels. It's sexualizing.

No one but you mentioned a “string bikini.“

So? Did it occur to you and the other posters arguing with me that I'm delineating between appropriate and inappropriate bathing suits? I have no problem with two pieces, but to pretend that there aren't trashy, overly sexualizing bikinis for CHILDREN out there is willfully ignorant. Our society gets its hooks into our girls early and I want to teach them that they don't have to wear clothes like that. Let me guess, you put your daughters in "I drive the boys crazy" and your sons in "lady killer" shirts? Kids clothes don't need to be sexualized.

Post an example of something that is not appropriate for a child. I have never come across one at the stores where I get my daughter’s clothing (90% comes from Hanna, Boden, Tea, and Jacadi; they all have very child-appropriate stuff with animals and fruits and bright colors and flowers and child-like stuff).

If you want to put your child in a bikini that's fine, but quit pretending it's just oh so weird and bizarre that others find that odd. My kids don't wear clothes meant for adults. They wear rash guards and shorts because they need sun coverage and comfort. But you do you.

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Anonymous wrote:Unclench and buy a two piece on Boden. Everything is going to be ok.

My 6 yo wears two pieces from Boden. They are cute and it is easier to use the restroom than with a one piece.

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/nostalgic-smocked-bikini-multi-rainbow-gingham/sty-g2594-mul?cat=c1_s13_sh1865

This is what my daughter wears. Not a tankini. Her belly shows. But also not a string bikini.

If anyone finds this sexualizing something is very seriously wrong with them

So why wear the top at all? Why not just have her in the bottoms or naked?

We are required to wear swimsuits at our pool. My son wears a rash guard.

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Anonymous wrote:You never thought of your daughter possibly being prematurely sexualized by wearing a bikini at a young age?
-OP

No, I didn’t.

+1. Actually covering non-existent breasts in a young child is what is sexualizing.

+2
If this is where your mind goes to, you are going to have lots of things to work out, op.

Come off it. All bathing suits cover non existent breasts. Having a child bathing suit cut like an adult string bikini is what's sexualizing. Same reason I wouldn't let my seven year old wear red nail polish or lipstick or high heels. It's sexualizing.

No one but you mentioned a “string bikini.“

So? Did it occur to you and the other posters arguing with me that I'm delineating between appropriate and inappropriate bathing suits? I have no problem with two pieces, but to pretend that there aren't trashy, overly sexualizing bikinis for CHILDREN out there is willfully ignorant. Our society gets its hooks into our girls early and I want to teach them that they don't have to wear clothes like that. Let me guess, you put your daughters in "I drive the boys crazy" and your sons in "lady killer" shirts? Kids clothes don't need to be sexualized.

Post an example of something that is not appropriate for a child. I have never come across one at the stores where I get my daughter’s clothing (90% comes from Hanna, Boden, Tea, and Jacadi; they all have very child-appropriate stuff with animals and fruits and bright colors and flowers and child-like stuff).

If you want to put your child in a bikini that's fine, but quit pretending it's just oh so weird and bizarre that others find that odd. My kids don't wear clothes meant for adults. They wear rash guards and shorts because they need sun coverage and comfort. But you do you.

My kids don’t wear clothing meant for adults either. They wear child-like clothing. I really want to see what you think is inappropriate. Because you seem like a total nut!

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Anonymous wrote:Unclench and buy a two piece on Boden. Everything is going to be ok.

My 6 yo wears two pieces from Boden. They are cute and it is easier to use the restroom than with a one piece.

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/nostalgic-smocked-bikini-multi-rainbow-gingham/sty-g2594-mul?cat=c1_s13_sh1865

This is what my daughter wears. Not a tankini. Her belly shows. But also not a string bikini.

If anyone finds this sexualizing something is very seriously wrong with them

So why wear the top at all? Why not just have her in the bottoms or naked?

We are required to wear swimsuits at our pool. My son wears a rash guard.

Your SON wears a rash guard? Do you have a daughter? What does she wear? Why are you putting your daughter in a bikini and your son in a rash guard? Almost like you're...sexualizing her?

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Anonymous wrote:Unclench and buy a two piece on Boden. Everything is going to be ok.

My 6 yo wears two pieces from Boden. They are cute and it is easier to use the restroom than with a one piece.

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/nostalgic-smocked-bikini-multi-rainbow-gingham/sty-g2594-mul?cat=c1_s13_sh1865

This is what my daughter wears. Not a tankini. Her belly shows. But also not a string bikini.

If anyone finds this sexualizing something is very seriously wrong with them

So why wear the top at all? Why not just have her in the bottoms or naked?

Because we live in a culture where taking you naked or topless 10 year old girl to a large public beach will at best result in looks/people stage whispering about you/kids making mean comments to your child and at worst people calling CPS on you. I'm not arguing that the rules of our society make sense, but I'm not going to hurt my child by making her break the cultural rules, and I have a 10 year old and she would be mortified to be on a beach naked or without a top-that's not because of anything I've said but because she has internalized the rules of our culture.

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No triangle tops. Sports-bra looking top or tankini fine.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate seeing bikini tops on little girls with no breasts. My girls worn just the bikini bottoms until around six or seven. Definitely by ten. Girls are grown now and no worse for my choices of bathing costumes for them.

I am with you, but I am European. Here in the US all girls wear a bikini top. I had a horrible experience when my first girl was 3. We were at a public pool and she was wearing a one-piece bathing suit. When she came out of the water, she was a little cold so I pulled down the top part so that she could dry in the sun. The lifeguard came angry at me telling me that my daughter needed to cover her “breasts”. She was 3 and it was absolutely crazy and ridiculous. I hated it and left immediately.

All of this is stupid and only happens in this country

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Anonymous wrote:Unclench and buy a two piece on Boden. Everything is going to be ok.

My 6 yo wears two pieces from Boden. They are cute and it is easier to use the restroom than with a one piece.

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/nostalgic-smocked-bikini-multi-rainbow-gingham/sty-g2594-mul?cat=c1_s13_sh1865

This is what my daughter wears. Not a tankini. Her belly shows. But also not a string bikini.

If anyone finds this sexualizing something is very seriously wrong with them

So why wear the top at all? Why not just have her in the bottoms or naked?

We are required to wear swimsuits at our pool. My son wears a rash guard.

Your SON wears a rash guard? Do you have a daughter? What does she wear? Why are you putting your daughter in a bikini and your son in a rash guard? Almost like you're...sexualizing her?

I let them pick from appropriate things. I believe in empowering children and not being a weirdo.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a girl but grew up in the competitive and professional dance world and for those who don’t think two pieces are sexualizing, I beg of you to do a little digging into when and how they became popular. When I was growing up it was very “popular” to start putting 4 & 5 year olds in two piece costumes and dance suggestively. I do think a lot of dance companies are starting to come off of that, but it was then - when competitive dance started meaning two piece costumes and grinding - that two piece swimsuits for little girls took off. There’s been a lot of debate in the dance world since and I do think they’re starting to correct it but those that think it didn’t have a sexualizing origin are just naive.

So what are the specializing origins of boys’ stomachs/chests being exposed? Because if it’s sexualizing for girls to show stomach, it must be for boys, too. Or are boys’ bodies not sexual?

Huh. It's hard to even know where to start. It's like if an alien landed on Earth and we had to explain the concepts of culture, gender, and sexuality.

+1. These posters are playing dumb so they can dress their kids up "like mini me!" for Instagram

I don’t have Instagram and my daughter and I dress completely differently. I do understand our puritanical culture and the origins of sexualizing females. I’m tired of it, and I want better for my daughter. It starts with rejected sexualization and having the same standards for girls that we do for boys. Girls’ bodies are no more sexual than boys’ bodies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unclench and buy a two piece on Boden. Everything is going to be ok.

My 6 yo wears two pieces from Boden. They are cute and it is easier to use the restroom than with a one piece.

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/nostalgic-smocked-bikini-multi-rainbow-gingham/sty-g2594-mul?cat=c1_s13_sh1865

This is what my daughter wears. Not a tankini. Her belly shows. But also not a string bikini.

If anyone finds this sexualizing something is very seriously wrong with them

So why wear the top at all? Why not just have her in the bottoms or naked?

We are required to wear swimsuits at our pool. My son wears a rash guard.

Your SON wears a rash guard? Do you have a daughter? What does she wear? Why are you putting your daughter in a bikini and your son in a rash guard? Almost like you're...sexualizing her?

I let them pick from appropriate things. I believe in empowering children and not being a weirdo.

Uh huh. So your son gets to wear a comfortable and sun protective top and your daughter is offered a bikini.
Pointless in arguing with you people. If you don't see the problem you never will. You are the ones sexualizing your children with their clothing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a girl but grew up in the competitive and professional dance world and for those who don’t think two pieces are sexualizing, I beg of you to do a little digging into when and how they became popular. When I was growing up it was very “popular” to start putting 4 & 5 year olds in two piece costumes and dance suggestively. I do think a lot of dance companies are starting to come off of that, but it was then - when competitive dance started meaning two piece costumes and grinding - that two piece swimsuits for little girls took off. There’s been a lot of debate in the dance world since and I do think they’re starting to correct it but those that think it didn’t have a sexualizing origin are just naive.

So what are the specializing origins of boys’ stomachs/chests being exposed? Because if it’s sexualizing for girls to show stomach, it must be for boys, too. Or are boys’ bodies not sexual?

Huh. It's hard to even know where to start. It's like if an alien landed on Earth and we had to explain the concepts of culture, gender, and sexuality.

+1. These posters are playing dumb so they can dress their kids up "like mini me!" for Instagram

I don’t have Instagram and my daughter and I dress completely differently. I do understand our puritanical culture and the origins of sexualizing females. I’m tired of it, and I want better for my daughter. It starts with rejected sexualization and having the same standards for girls that we do for boys. Girls’ bodies are no more sexual than boys’ bodies.

Ok so then why are they in different suits? Why do boys wear rash guards and girls bikinis?
Both my kids (boy and girl) wear rash guards and board shorts. Because kids need sun protection and comfort to run and play. I'm not dressing them differently because they are different genders.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unclench and buy a two piece on Boden. Everything is going to be ok.

My 6 yo wears two pieces from Boden. They are cute and it is easier to use the restroom than with a one piece.

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/nostalgic-smocked-bikini-multi-rainbow-gingham/sty-g2594-mul?cat=c1_s13_sh1865

This is what my daughter wears. Not a tankini. Her belly shows. But also not a string bikini.

If anyone finds this sexualizing something is very seriously wrong with them

So why wear the top at all? Why not just have her in the bottoms or naked?

We are required to wear swimsuits at our pool. My son wears a rash guard.

Your SON wears a rash guard? Do you have a daughter? What does she wear? Why are you putting your daughter in a bikini and your son in a rash guard? Almost like you're...sexualizing her?

I let them pick from appropriate things. I believe in empowering children and not being a weirdo.

Uh huh. So your son gets to wear a comfortable and sun protective top and your daughter is offered a bikini.
Pointless in arguing with you people. If you don't see the problem you never will. You are the ones sexualizing your children with their clothing.

Lady, you are nuts. We sit at the computer and my kids scroll through the Boden site and pick out what they want. The end. If my daughter wanted a rash guard, she could have it. When my son wanted pink shoes, he got them.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unclench and buy a two piece on Boden. Everything is going to be ok.

My 6 yo wears two pieces from Boden. They are cute and it is easier to use the restroom than with a one piece.

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/nostalgic-smocked-bikini-multi-rainbow-gingham/sty-g2594-mul?cat=c1_s13_sh1865

This is what my daughter wears. Not a tankini. Her belly shows. But also not a string bikini.

If anyone finds this sexualizing something is very seriously wrong with them

So why wear the top at all? Why not just have her in the bottoms or naked?

We are required to wear swimsuits at our pool. My son wears a rash guard.

Your SON wears a rash guard? Do you have a daughter? What does she wear? Why are you putting your daughter in a bikini and your son in a rash guard? Almost like you're...sexualizing her?

I let them pick from appropriate things. I believe in empowering children and not being a weirdo.

Uh huh. So your son gets to wear a comfortable and sun protective top and your daughter is offered a bikini.
Pointless in arguing with you people. If you don't see the problem you never will. You are the ones sexualizing your children with their clothing.

Lady, you are nuts. We sit at the computer and my kids scroll through the Boden site and pick out what they want. The end. If my daughter wanted a rash guard, she could have it. When my son wanted pink shoes, he got them.

And lady you are nuts for letting your daughter run around in something less than sun protective because she wants it because it looks like something grown up girls wear. Grow a pair and be a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You never thought of your daughter possibly being prematurely sexualized by wearing a bikini at a young age?
-OP

Not PP but even one piece suits can sexualize the wearer.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unclench and buy a two piece on Boden. Everything is going to be ok.

My 6 yo wears two pieces from Boden. They are cute and it is easier to use the restroom than with a one piece.

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/nostalgic-smocked-bikini-multi-rainbow-gingham/sty-g2594-mul?cat=c1_s13_sh1865

This is what my daughter wears. Not a tankini. Her belly shows. But also not a string bikini.

If anyone finds this sexualizing something is very seriously wrong with them

So why wear the top at all? Why not just have her in the bottoms or naked?

We are required to wear swimsuits at our pool. My son wears a rash guard.

Your SON wears a rash guard? Do you have a daughter? What does she wear? Why are you putting your daughter in a bikini and your son in a rash guard? Almost like you're...sexualizing her?

I let them pick from appropriate things. I believe in empowering children and not being a weirdo.

Uh huh. So your son gets to wear a comfortable and sun protective top and your daughter is offered a bikini.
Pointless in arguing with you people. If you don't see the problem you never will. You are the ones sexualizing your children with their clothing.

Lady, you are nuts. We sit at the computer and my kids scroll through the Boden site and pick out what they want. The end. If my daughter wanted a rash guard, she could have it. When my son wanted pink shoes, he got them.

And lady you are nuts for letting your daughter run around in something less than sun protective because she wants it because it looks like something grown up girls wear. Grow a pair and be a parent.

Grow a pair? This certainly explains a lot!