And Texas A&M is a great school. Weather nice, excellent location. Very surprised it is not more popular in DMV compared to big ten schools. |
Where's the data "it's more popular than ever before" poster? All I see in the news are negative stories about Greek life especially regarding COVID-19 outbreaks. See Duke, UVA et al.
If you've got some numbers, I'd like to see them. I could certainly see interest remaining strong at 'Bama, FSU or South Carolina. |
OP here Ok, I see now. I'm sorry for misunderstanding. In response to the other poster: "Why is your son so turned off by frats, OP? Is he a timid kid? Is he afraid that he'll rush and not get a bid? Is he popular in high school?" I really don't know if he's afraid he wouldn't get a bid. He's not timid, and he is generally well liked. He's often been "voted in" to other things (mostly leadership positions in clubs) but he's never ran for anything big--like student body president or prom king. Neither my husband nor I were in Greek life in college so I really don't know how competitive it gets, and it probably depends on the specific fraternity/school anyway. I do know that in that video about Nolan Burch, everyone talks about how well liked and popular he was. Everyone loved him. That still didn't stop his "friends" from laughing as he lay dying from alcohol poisoning. And no, it's not just "those kids" from "that fraternity" at "that school." Hazing deaths happen every year at schools across the country, even more prestigious schools like MIT, Cornell, etc. When he's in college he will be an adult and can make his own choices. But right now he says he's not interested so I'm just going to be happy and offer suggestions on schools where frat parties aren't the main source of social life. |
I went to a school with no Greek life and we had clubs that functioned EXACTLY like fraternities and sororities. I was hazed into a volunteer group. A volunteer group! The other groups that hazed: the newspaper, student government, the programming board, etc.
The thing is that there was zero oversight. No rules of conduct from a national org. No ramifications for the hazing. When I visited friends and went to frat parties, they were exactly like our parties. Don't assume that the absence of Greek letters means people aren't doing the same things that frats and sororities do. |
OP here You are definitely right about that. In my university (early-mid 90s in California) I was hazed in marching band! It was crazy, and I had no idea what I was getting into. |
OP again. Wow! I actually hadn't really thought about it in years, but it made me just look up the university's band. It was actually shut down a couple years ago for hazing! https://www.sacbee.com/news/local/education/article234673882.html |
UW-Madison. |
Any non-drinkers joined a frat and enjoyed the experience? DS does not like to drink and took some colleges off his list because of the dominant drinking culture. If he does join a Frat for other reasons, is drinking part of the expectation? |
Sounds familiar. I wound up huddled, blindfolded with other people in rough shape in a basement and the police wound up coming into the hazing "party." They did nothing but laugh and leave. Worst kept secret on that campus was that we were all hazed mercilessly. I refused to participate and only "delivered" my initiates to the party at the very last second so they missed the bulk of it. |
I was in a large fraternity enjoyed the experience and never drank, had several other members that did the same, wasn't a big deal but then again every one is different, that's the point of rush to find the right fit for both entities. |
What exactly did they make you do/do to you? Why did you continue to stay in the frat? Why not just ask them to fu*k off and leave? |
Read the entire thread. PP was a band nerd, not a frat god. Point is hazing is prevalent in just about every club or organization in college, not just frats. |
<<hazing is prevalent in just about every club or organization in college>>
But times they are a changing, despite attitudes like yours. Hazing is illegal. Schools get in BIG trouble (think 60 minutes) when they are associated with such activities. More and more schools are RUNNING the other way from this sick/bootcamp/mentality. On most of the tours my DC went on, they made a point to distance themselves from fraternities, and other clubs that were not open to all members. So, you need to get some new material. |
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