How to handle narcissist mother?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you might be more forgiving when you come into your mother’s shoes as a parent with adult children. You may not know exactly why she is emphasizing praise to your brother. Maybe your brother is secretly suffering from depression and needs the extra attention? Maybe she is trying to get him to participate and do more? She probably thinks you are a strong person and don’t need the extra attention that your no so mentally strong brother needs. Your mother is not perfect, and neither are you.

Brilliantly put PP. I agree. Most people posting things like that are truly childish and they do not give any slack to their parents and the word narcissistic is heavily overused here. Next time their mother SINS against the sensitivity with some simple aging person's quirks ask yourself .. does she have enough credit for raising you to let go your little drama?

Well my experience has been the opposite. As I became a mother and have grown older, I feel more and more horrified at things my mom did growing up.

I agree with this. I didn’t fully see how wrong the way my mom treated (and treats) me is until I had my own child. I cannot imagine treating my own child that way. Cannot imagine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I noticed that most those who accuse their mothers of being narcissists here are people who are narcissist themselves and give zero love or slack to their aging mothers who often ripped their guts out and carried big cross with them for decades.. yet got nothing in return so now they are trying to "collect" but OMG!
what a narcissist they are, they should have zero expectation of any love or support.. no wonder they
go after those kids and boy, what a drama to watch them bite back..

As a person who doesn’t have a narcissist parent with a best friend with a narcissist parent- you are 100% wrong.

The crap that woman has pulled on my bf and her husband the past 20 years is appalling and she deserves the Narcissistic B—- title she has. She is abusive.

If you have been called narcissistic, you might want to get evaluated because 1 irl accusation = 100s of instances behind your back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you might be more forgiving when you come into your mother’s shoes as a parent with adult children. You may not know exactly why she is emphasizing praise to your brother. Maybe your brother is secretly suffering from depression and needs the extra attention? Maybe she is trying to get him to participate and do more? She probably thinks you are a strong person and don’t need the extra attention that your no so mentally strong brother needs. Your mother is not perfect, and neither are you.

Brilliantly put PP. I agree. Most people posting things like that are truly childish and they do not give any slack to their parents and the word narcissistic is heavily overused here. Next time their mother SINS against the sensitivity with some simple aging person's quirks ask yourself .. does she have enough credit for raising you to let go your little drama?

You sound like you love hearing yourself talk.

It does sound like it’s the same poster. Or at least two narcissists who have no contact with their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you might be more forgiving when you come into your mother’s shoes as a parent with adult children. You may not know exactly why she is emphasizing praise to your brother. Maybe your brother is secretly suffering from depression and needs the extra attention? Maybe she is trying to get him to participate and do more? She probably thinks you are a strong person and don’t need the extra attention that your no so mentally strong brother needs. Your mother is not perfect, and neither are you.

Brilliantly put PP. I agree. Most people posting things like that are truly childish and they do not give any slack to their parents and the word narcissistic is heavily overused here. Next time their mother SINS against the sensitivity with some simple aging person's quirks ask yourself .. does she have enough credit for raising you to let go your little drama?

You sound like you love hearing yourself talk.

It does sound like it’s the same poster. Or at least two narcissists who have no contact with their parents.

Oops- progeny.