I'm 29, my husband is 41. Anyone else with large age gaps?

[Anonymous]

I have more respect for age gap relationships that start when the younger partner is over 30. I’m 34 and my partner is 45, we’ve been together for three years.

However when the younger partner is a girl in her early 20s, that screams sugar daddy and shallow. Women in their early 20s are among the most vapid and dumbest beings on the planet, second only to 20something men. Get some life experience first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have more respect for age gap relationships that start when the younger partner is over 30. I’m 34 and my partner is 45, we’ve been together for three years.

However when the younger partner is a girl in her early 20s, that screams sugar daddy and shallow. Women in their early 20s are among the most vapid and dumbest beings on the planet, second only to 20something men. Get some life experience first.

Same but my respect is only for when they meet after 32. Can't get down with anything before that and it just seems weird to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met my husband (and married him 6 months later) when i was 43 and he was 34. 16 years later we are good as ever. 3 kids. (I had one, he had 2.)

Im impressed that he had two kids! Impressive for a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Met my husband when I was 27 and he was 39. Anyone else have large age gaps?

64 here, she is 52. It's actually perfect for us.

Says the old man in the marriage.

I see you speak for her also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a 14 year gap. It’s really showing as he gets closer to 60. He’s always in pain and cares less about hygiene than he once did. Not happy about it.

Have fun when he is in his 70's and 80's.

Not sure why younger wives cannot see this phase coming.

Would ANY of them have married a much older man who was poor????????

Just wondering if there is an association there...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:36 me and 49 DH. We met when I was 26 and he was 29. I always liked older men, but he was the oldest I had ever dated. He has a very young spirit, he is very athletic, loves sex (possibly too much), and he is never tired. We have 3 kids and are happy

You know that is going to change as he ages, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My work requires me to work with a group of older senior women. What has stood out to me is that most of them have husbands who are ~10 years older than them. Most of their husbands have passed on or are in steep decline. Women already live longer than men, but when you add-on the age gap, it's more pronounced--so many still vibrant women in their 60s-80s taking care of sick and declining men. Obviously, lifespan has no guarantees, but I wouldn't want that for myself or my daughter.

This is why I (early 60's) have no desire to start dating someone now.

They will likely be in their 70's and need a LPN any day now. No thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:36 me and 49 DH. We met when I was 26 and he was 29. I always liked older men, but he was the oldest I had ever dated. He has a very young spirit, he is very athletic, loves sex (possibly too much), and he is never tired. We have 3 kids and are happy

You know that is going to change as he ages, right?

I’m 58 and my husband is 69 and he still has the sexual energy of an energizer bunny with no medical assistance needed. I’m not one to test if he can go every day or multiple times on one occasion but a couple of times a week he is as good as he was 35 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My work requires me to work with a group of older senior women. What has stood out to me is that most of them have husbands who are ~10 years older than them. Most of their husbands have passed on or are in steep decline. Women already live longer than men, but when you add-on the age gap, it's more pronounced--so many still vibrant women in their 60s-80s taking care of sick and declining men. Obviously, lifespan has no guarantees, but I wouldn't want that for myself or my daughter.

This is why I (early 60's) have no desire to start dating someone now.

They will likely be in their 70's and need a LPN any day now. No thank you.

My mil is 60s and her boyfriend is 81 I think and they want to move in together. Seems like a bad idea for that reason but it’s her life.

[Anonymous]

Wow, so many haters! Why do you all so passionately care if someone is married to someone much older/younger??

[Anonymous]

I'm 41, husband is 52. But he is very athletic, looks much younger (he's asian, so good genes). I don't think age difference is that obvious in our case. We have 2 kids.

[Anonymous]

Nope. But in my 20s I always dated men at least 10+ years older. I loved older men.

Couldn't imagine being 45 and having a husband now in his late 50s.

[Anonymous]

I'm 35 and he's 51 We met when I was 26.

It's clearly not a sugar baby situation because he has always been a lot more attractive than me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:36 me and 49 DH. We met when I was 26 and he was 29. I always liked older men, but he was the oldest I had ever dated. He has a very young spirit, he is very athletic, loves sex (possibly too much), and he is never tired. We have 3 kids and are happy

You know that is going to change as he ages, right?

For her as well. Thanks for playing.

[Anonymous]

I'm 35 and he's 46. Married at 25. It's honestly perfect. He was a mature, stable earner by the time we got married and we started a family young - now expecting our 4th. But my career has thrived because his financial stability allowed me flexibility and the kind of childcare/support I needed to thrive professionally. I'm a big fan of the 10 year age gap thing, I swear most women are a decade ahead of their male peers.