Can you be married to someone with different political views?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a D and he's a R but we are both moderates. We are both voting for Biden but there have been times when he went R and I went D and the marriage survived. But this year if he went for Trump it would have been a problem. If Sanders was the Dem we would have had a problem.

This is my husband and I. We are both arrive at the same answer but him from a conservative place and me from a more liberal place.

That's fine, but does he vote for the Republicans who enable Trump? If he votes for a GOP Senator who voted to acquit Trump, he's just as a bad as a Trump voter.
This isn't just about Trump, it's about the moral rot of the Republican party.

[Anonymous]

DH and I started around the same place when we married 20 years ago but we have moved apart politically. He more right and me more left. If comes up in our conversations once every 4 years for about 6 months. He is a good dad, works hard, helps around the house. He treats others with respect. On politics we agree to disagree. We talk about our differences with kids all the time now and hopefully they will realize people come to different answers but it doesn't mean there is one group that is right on everything.

Can't imagine this scenario doesn't play out in many marriages and can't imagine divorcing someone after 20 years and 3 kids just because they vote R.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I started around the same place when we married 20 years ago but we have moved apart politically. He more right and me more left. If comes up in our conversations once every 4 years for about 6 months. He is a good dad, works hard, helps around the house. He treats others with respect. On politics we agree to disagree. We talk about our differences with kids all the time now and hopefully they will realize people come to different answers but it doesn't mean there is one group that is right on everything.

Can't imagine this scenario doesn't play out in many marriages and can't imagine divorcing someone after 20 years and 3 kids just because they vote R.

This is exactly my marriage. I’m pretty sure my husband will vote for Trump. I didn’t (voted 3rd party - don’t care for Biden either) and I’m 100% fine with that. His presidential vote does not, and never has, defined him as a person. Happily married for 15 years.

[Anonymous]

Dh and I differ on some things but share some of my big core beliefs (ex pro choice and gay marriage). Some of our financial opinions differ. I'd say we align with 80% of things (at least of things I care about).

[Anonymous]

To answer your title question: no, I could not be married to someone w different political views. Political views represent your true character and I couldn’t be married to a person with poor character traits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I started around the same place when we married 20 years ago but we have moved apart politically. He more right and me more left. If comes up in our conversations once every 4 years for about 6 months. He is a good dad, works hard, helps around the house. He treats others with respect. On politics we agree to disagree. We talk about our differences with kids all the time now and hopefully they will realize people come to different answers but it doesn't mean there is one group that is right on everything.

Can't imagine this scenario doesn't play out in many marriages and can't imagine divorcing someone after 20 years and 3 kids just because they vote R.

This is exactly my marriage. I’m pretty sure my husband will vote for Trump. I didn’t (voted 3rd party - don’t care for Biden either) and I’m 100% fine with that. His presidential vote does not, and never has, defined him as a person. Happily married for 15 years.

So if you voted third party you voted for trump too, you realize that right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To answer your title question: no, I could not be married to someone w different political views. Political views represent your true character and I couldn’t be married to a person with poor character traits.

That's the way I think of it too. Your politics reflect your values. Politics is not a game or a spectator sport - the people you choose to vote for and elect make a real difference in many people's lives. Those who choose a person that will hurt others are not people of good value and character, and I would not want to be married to them.

[Anonymous]

I'm and R and DH is a D but we are both moderate. Neither of us is politically involved beyond doing or civil duty to vote.

I think it would be problematic in one person was extreme and/or extremely politically involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I started around the same place when we married 20 years ago but we have moved apart politically. He more right and me more left. If comes up in our conversations once every 4 years for about 6 months. He is a good dad, works hard, helps around the house. He treats others with respect. On politics we agree to disagree. We talk about our differences with kids all the time now and hopefully they will realize people come to different answers but it doesn't mean there is one group that is right on everything.

Can't imagine this scenario doesn't play out in many marriages and can't imagine divorcing someone after 20 years and 3 kids just because they vote R.

This is exactly my marriage. I’m pretty sure my husband will vote for Trump. I didn’t (voted 3rd party - don’t care for Biden either) and I’m 100% fine with that. His presidential vote does not, and never has, defined him as a person. Happily married for 15 years.

So if you voted third party you voted for trump too, you realize that right?

Actually I didn’t. If I had voted for Trump I would have VOTED FOR TRUMP.

I can’t stand this line. You’re just pissed I didn’t vote your way. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

I could be with someone as far right as a Republican with similar views as Kasich (whose voting for Biden). Otherwise, can’t date a conservative. But also can’t date someone who votes for the Green Party or is a Bernie or Buster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a D and he's a R but we are both moderates. We are both voting for Biden but there have been times when he went R and I went D and the marriage survived. But this year if he went for Trump it would have been a problem. If Sanders was the Dem we would have had a problem.

This is my situation too. Both moderates but I vote Dem but on social issues we are aligned. He didn’t vote for Hilary or Trump. And def is going with Biden this time

Similar here, the only salvation is DH votes down ballot not for Trump. Voted third party last time but doesn't like Jorgensen. But I normally talk to my friends and neighbors about politics, not him.

[Anonymous]

As a black woman I can't see ever doing it. Our core values would not align.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a black woman I can't see ever doing it. Our core values would not align.

Oh here we go, why are you talking about your race?

[Anonymous]

Different? Yes. My husband is a libertarian and I am very liberal. Pro trump? No. He's voting EMPHATICALLY for Biden and would have voted for a paper bag over Trump.

As long as your morals and ethics are aligned, you can disagree on policies and remain married.

[Anonymous]

Sure. My husband and I differed slightly on a downballot bond issue and canceled each other out on that one.

Basic stuff like do black lives matter (yes) is the separation of parents and children at the border s a matter of policy a bad thing (yes), and should people be affirmed and supported and cared for as they are (yes)? That ain't politics, and I won't share a roof with someone who feels or votes or advocates differently.