Can you be married to someone with different political views?

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Anonymous wrote:Probably, there are other issues I will die on the sword for. One is women who don't like dogs. THEY DO EXIST! Last serious GF was a big cat person and couldn't stand dogs. I can't imagine I thought about marrying one of them.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have similar but slightly different views. Anyone married to someone with opposite views?

"Can you be married to someone with different morals? With different values? With different ethics?"

Probably not, especially if they are crappy morals and crappy values.

Politics is your values, your ethics. No you cannot hide from that, and it will eventually come back to bite you.

This isn't the 1950s in the northern US where both parties were run by college-educated elites and you had genteel disputes over non-major policy differences.

Today, one party wants to tear down democracy for power. If someone's in favor of that, they're a bad person, flat out.

Not every Bush staffer is a Trumper, but some are.

[Anonymous]

It's not really black or white, it really depends on the views and how much you're both invested in politics.

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Anonymous wrote:DH is apolitical and I’m a voter. It’s his decision and it doesn’t both me whether he votes or not. I lean democratic and he leans Republican. If he voted it would be for Trump and I’m voting Biden. I may have pushed him more to vote if it was for my candidate 😉

We don’t fight about politics. Neither one of us really cares.

Not caring about politics means not caring about other people. It means not having a position -- not caring -- about kids ripped away from their parents.

There's a reason why it's a Republican talking point that we shouldn't talk about politics or judge about politics. Because apathy always favors the party of the wealthy.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe. I could be married to someone with different political views, but I would have a really hard time being married to a person who supported putting children in cages.

Obama administration built the cages.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe. I could be married to someone with different political views, but I would have a really hard time being married to a person who supported putting children in cages.

Obama administration built the cages.

For unaccompanied minors and they stayed for less than 72 hours.

They were not used to rip children from their parents and keep the apart for months.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH is apolitical and I’m a voter. It’s his decision and it doesn’t both me whether he votes or not. I lean democratic and he leans Republican. If he voted it would be for Trump and I’m voting Biden. I may have pushed him more to vote if it was for my candidate 😉

We don’t fight about politics. Neither one of us really cares.

Not caring about politics means not caring about other people. It means not having a position -- not caring -- about kids ripped away from their parents.

There's a reason why it's a Republican talking point that we shouldn't talk about politics or judge about politics. Because apathy always favors the party of the wealthy.

Ignoring isn’t the same as ignorance, you have to work at it. -Atwood

[Anonymous]

Depends on i) how important politics is to you, ii) how big the gulf is, and iii) whether you agree on the issues you hold most deeply.

For example, my aunt cares a lot about politics. She's liberal, and my uncle was quite conservative...but he wasn't very vocal about his politics. They also agreed on women's issues, which are the most important to my aunt. They had a great, long marriage before my uncle passed away.

DH and I are similar in a lot of ways, though DH is much less conservative than my uncle was (i.e. our gulf is narrower). If DH were a Trump-supporter, though, I couldn't stay married to him. I'm the DD of immigrants, and our kids are mixed ethnicity. To me, it's very clear that one of the President's highest priorities is keeping people like me out of this country...so I could not be married to someone who supported him.

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Nope. I believe all politics are personal. Politics affect everything, whether you see it or not. A person’s politics reflect their values. I could not be married to someone whose values differed significantly from mine. My DH and I have some minor differences or we might vary in the degree to which we care about some things, but we are largely in agreement on almost everything politically.

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Anonymous wrote:I could not be married to a man who did not believe a woman has the right to make decisions over her own body. Yuck.

So it depends, you could have a fantastic marriage to someone with different and even opposite political views to you. However, if you have certain views that are tied to your moral values, or single issues that are make or break, probably not. PP could never be married to someone who supports life, where I could never be married to someone who is for killing babies. Values.

Nobody supports “killing babies”. And it that’s what you think the pro-choice movement is about you should educate yourself about it instead of supporting a movement for ignorant reasons and causing tremendous pain and suffering for ignorant reasons.

[Anonymous]

DH is a Trumper and I'm a never Trumper. We are struggling because of the difference in world views. He didn't even realize that the Senate adjourned until after the election without passing a relief bill. I'm pretty done with him right now.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a D and he's a R but we are both moderates. We are both voting for Biden but there have been times when he went R and I went D and the marriage survived. But this year if he went for Trump it would have been a problem. If Sanders was the Dem we would have had a problem.

This is my situation too. Both moderates but I vote Dem but on social issues we are aligned. He didn’t vote for Hilary or Trump. And def is going with Biden this time

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Anonymous wrote:I could not be married to a man who did not believe a woman has the right to make decisions over her own body. Yuck.

So it depends, you could have a fantastic marriage to someone with different and even opposite political views to you. However, if you have certain views that are tied to your moral values, or single issues that are make or break, probably not. PP could never be married to someone who supports life, where I could never be married to someone who is for killing babies. Values.

How are you on treating babies once they grow up, if they're not white?

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Anonymous wrote:DH is a Dem, I'm a Republican .... have cancelled out each others votes for 25 plus years. This year we are both voting for Trump.

Super believable!

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Anonymous wrote:Probably, there are other issues I will die on the sword for. One is women who don't like dogs. THEY DO EXIST! Last serious GF was a big cat person and couldn't stand dogs. I can't imagine I thought about marrying one of them.

I'm a woman who doesn't like any kind of pets. Good thing I'm married