Type of woman a “high value” man would want

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Some "high value men" want someone to come to punk shows with them every other weekend. Others want a partner who can go rock climbing and loves to camp. Some want someone who knows how to boat, is a diver, and can bait her own hook. Some want one who will come to football games and tailgate every weekend.

Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but "high value" doesn't mean "boring WASP". Men from just about every subculture can be "high value". $150k? Talk to some plumbers. Many of them will laugh if you think they want some Muffy stereotype. Men aren't a monolith, and "high value" men aren't either.


$150k isn’t high value. I’m a woman making $200k.

Wtf?
Anonymous
Someone they go to school with between the ages of 22-25

OR

Someone they work with between the ages of 25-29

This covers about 95% of quality men. They’re already dating the woman they’re going to marry by the time they’re 30.

The remaining 5 % will wait longer and will have the luxury of being extremely in high demand and very picky. The women who could have easily dated these guys when they were in their 20’s will have no chance. That’s why so many perfectly nice, pretty single women in their 30’s complain about how hard it is to meet a nice guy.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some "high value men" want someone to come to punk shows with them every other weekend. Others want a partner who can go rock climbing and loves to camp. Some want someone who knows how to boat, is a diver, and can bait her own hook. Some want one who will come to football games and tailgate every weekend.

Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but "high value" doesn't mean "boring WASP". Men from just about every subculture can be "high value". $150k? Talk to some plumbers. Many of them will laugh if you think they want some Muffy stereotype. Men aren't a monolith, and "high value" men aren't either.


$150k isn’t high value. I’m a woman making $200k.

Wtf?


I think that was a number tossed out earlier.
Anonymous
Petite busty and preppy are my simple preferences.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is such a mysogynist subservient thread.

The title alone makes me puke.

RBG is rolling over in her grave.



Now RBG had a great marriage, exactly the kind of marriage to which I hope my daughter aspires. Mine is close, though DH can't cook sadly. Partnerships come in different forms, but this is the kind I prefer to model for my kids.


Ab-suh-f@king-lutely!


+100

Wonderful love story. Wonderful marriage.

They remind me a lot of how my parents supported one another and the undying love they had their entire marriage.

That’s why I don’t understand 99% of the dysfunction and broken people on this Board.

I was lucky to be raised by a father and mother that taught me girls could do anything, I should always have my own income and never settle. They told me not to rely on my beauty ...in fact it was never mentioned in our house. It was from people in the outside that would tell me how beautiful I was. My parents valued hard work and character and didn’t praise superficial things. It allowed me to play a competitive contact sport at the collegiate level and go into a STEM field...and find a mate that loved my brain as well as my hotness. He often brags about my job to others.
Anonymous
^ that’s a high value woman right there! You go girl!

Don’t be a servant to some man. Let him fame over you and make you dinner.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:^ that’s a high value woman right there! You go girl!

Don’t be a servant to some man. Let him fame over you and make you dinner.


*fawn
Anonymous
I married a “high value” man.

It’s WAY easier - and way less stress - to just make your own money.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^ that’s a high value woman right there! You go girl!

Don’t be a servant to some man. Let him fame over you and make you dinner.


*fawn


Praise Be. Ha.

Reading this message board is like going back to the 1940s and the “Mrs.” degrees. So pathetic in 2020 that grown woman want a daddy to support them their entire lives and contribute nothing.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My husband wanted someone pretty and thin (I'm very thin) and easygoing, not feminist, gets along w people, highly intelligent. I fit the bill.

We are pretty happy together 10 years and 3 kids later. I'm a sahm and he's happy with that. I don't expect him to lift a finger at home.

Are you dying of boredom?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^ that’s a high value woman right there! You go girl!

Don’t be a servant to some man. Let him fame over you and make you dinner.


*fawn


Praise Be. Ha.

Reading this message board is like going back to the 1940s and the “Mrs.” degrees. So pathetic in 2020 that grown woman want a daddy to support them their entire lives and contribute nothing.



Exactly. It’s so much more satisfying to know that you can support yourself and that you don’t have to depend on anyone else and don’t have to put up with shit. I tell my daughter that you should work to your potential regardless of how much your spouse makes. Knowing you have options makes you and your marriage stronger.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^ that’s a high value woman right there! You go girl!

Don’t be a servant to some man. Let him fame over you and make you dinner.


*fawn


Praise Be. Ha.

Reading this message board is like going back to the 1940s and the “Mrs.” degrees. So pathetic in 2020 that grown woman want a daddy to support them their entire lives and contribute nothing.



Exactly. It’s so much more satisfying to know that you can support yourself and that you don’t have to depend on anyone else and don’t have to put up with shit. I tell my daughter that you should work to your potential regardless of how much your spouse makes. Knowing you have options makes you and your marriage stronger.


And they respect you a helluva lot more too. The pressure to be the sole/only breadwinner is intense.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband wanted someone pretty and thin (I'm very thin) and easygoing, not feminist, gets along w people, highly intelligent. I fit the bill.

We are pretty happy together 10 years and 3 kids later. I'm a sahm and he's happy with that. I don't expect him to lift a finger at home.

Are you dying of boredom?

No.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^ that’s a high value woman right there! You go girl!

Don’t be a servant to some man. Let him fame over you and make you dinner.


*fawn


Praise Be. Ha.

Reading this message board is like going back to the 1940s and the “Mrs.” degrees. So pathetic in 2020 that grown woman want a daddy to support them their entire lives and contribute nothing.



Exactly. It’s so much more satisfying to know that you can support yourself and that you don’t have to depend on anyone else and don’t have to put up with shit. I tell my daughter that you should work to your potential regardless of how much your spouse makes. Knowing you have options makes you and your marriage stronger.


You can’t raise a daughter any other way. It’s irresponsible too.
Anonymous
Based on my observations of friends who have married these types of guys, see below:

1. Looks

These types of guys seem to go for a certain type of look in their girlfriends and wives. Thin with a tendency towards skinny, and in shape. Your body should be toned and trim by workouts such as The Bar Method and The Tracy Anderson Method.



When it comes to hair and makeup, keep things simple. Do not go down the Kylie Jenner Lip Kit path. Well-to-do men want classic beauty and elegance. The focus is on presenting yourself in a way that you are neat, well groomed and a vision of health. Master the no makeup makeup, and realize this does not mean not wearing any makeup.


Hair should be simple and a within a few shades of your natural hair color. No crazy hair dyes or quirky bangs.

Your outfits are clean, classic, preppy and feminine. Emphasize the fact that you are a woman. Think dresses, soft fabrics and flattering feminine silhouettes.





You do not have to be a 10, but you must style yourself and take care of yourself as if you are one.

2. Intelligence

It is a myth that high value men prefer hot dumb bimbos. These women spend a lot of energy and time on their looks but they also are very intelligent. Some of them may not be book smarts but behind their beautiful and well manicured facade, they bring a lot of emotional and social intelligence. They understand that what their man wants from them is pure femininity and everything that comes with that. They are the social gatekeepers and the determine the values upheld by their social class. They have to be quick witted, be able to socialize and charm people with many different personalities and social stations. They also need to be able to keep up with the news and business so they can keep their hard working husbands engaged. Schooling and educating children is a priority and there is more to it than picking out the right pre-school or nanny. You also want to be able to succeed and thrive among the women in that class so social skills and approval of the other women is very important.

You need to keep up with current and classic trends in fashion, food, entertaining and decor. You ARE the one who will be setting the standards. Impress his colleagues and their wives.

3. Personality

Every girl I know who is dating or married to a high earning man, seems to intuitively understand that he comes first. She is laid back and goes with the flow. He sets the schedule and the rules. She of course has power and can provide input on where to eat or where to buy the house, but he has final say. She does not think this is odd; she trusts his judgement and respects him. She adores and celebrates her man and lets him know that as far as she is concerned, he is the most important person in the room. Nagging wives need not apply!

Be easy going and easy to please. Everything he does for you is the best thing ever. Stroke his ego.

4. Girly

Take pleasure in your femininity and womanhood. Relax that frown and smile and be inviting, warm and pleasant. Stay away from drama. Do not yell or have strong ugly opinions. Be a lady.

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