Not hiding normal bodily functions from your spouse

[Anonymous]

question to all those that think farting is so rude. Do you also never burp around your spouse? Or throw up? If you are female, do you not go without make up? do you hide your tampons?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:question to all those that think farting is so rude. Do you also never burp around your spouse? Or throw up? If you are female, do you not go without make up? do you hide your tampons?

How in the world is going without make up the same as farting? Farting is gross. Our natural faces are also gross?

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a prude, but no. We don't poop or pee in front of each other. I mean--why would we? We have bathrooms. With DOORS. My mother used to use the bathroom in front of me all the time when I was a kid and teenager, and I really hated that she had such few boundaries with me about her body. I also try not to fart in front of my husband and I'm pretty sure he does the same. Does one slip out once in a while. LOL. Of course. But I'm not lettin her rip all the time!

a lot of you grew up in a household with more bathrooms than ppl and it shows

haha but seriously - we had five members of the family sharing ONE bathroom. DH had ten people sharing two bathroomns. You learn to pee in front of ppl, you gotta pee but someone's showering, you share the bathroom (but wait to poop with the door closed). But def learn to pee in front of ppl. I'll pee in front of DH, my gfs, mom, sister, anyone I am close with. I have no shame in a natural bodily function.

I grew up in a 2 bedroom farmhouse with 1 bathroom and 7 of us living in it (2 parents and 5 kids). In my own house, we have 5 people with 2 bathrooms. I have no problem with someone peeing while another is in the shower nor does anyone else in my family. Yet, it is common courtesy not to fart in front of others. It has nothing to do with shame or prudishness. It's courtesy.

Yup, i agree, I have no shame in my bodily functions. I don't fart openly around colleagues. I try not to subject my spouse to farts overtly, but I will let silent non smelly farts out around him without a thought. And I let him know if I am feeling particularly gassy or if some some reason they are smelly i apologize for the smell. But we live together, we have a small house, we have one bathroom, we overlap, he has seen a human come out of my vagina. he knows i fart. It's silly to stress over trying to hide a normal bodily function. The above response equating being comfortable with my own bodily functions to me not having boundaries, or the other PPs talking about how farting around your children will leave them damaged.... are clearly highly judgmental of very natural bodily functions.

I just think there is a strong correlation between those that are so judgmental about this natural bodily function and people who have always had the privilege of lots of privacy around bodily functions. We didn't all have the privilege of our own bathroom growing up. We had to pee in front of others, and normally if I am comfortable enough to pee in front of my sister, i am also fine farting in front of her if i have to. I dont make a show of it, but I also don't think its rude.

I can see your point about privilege, although I lived in dorms with communal bathrooms and still lived by my private preferences. But re the bolded, PPs were referring to a parent who said she held her kids down and farted in their face. That is way way different than farting 'around your children.'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:question to all those that think farting is so rude. Do you also never burp around your spouse? Or throw up? If you are female, do you not go without make up? do you hide your tampons?

1) No I do not burp. Well I mean I have occasionally but it is extremely uncommon and I will generally find a non intrusive/gentle way to let it out
2) Of course, my husband rubbed my back through three pregnancies with hyperemesis. When someone is ill all bets are off
3) What? What does this have to do with anything?
4) Bloody ones? I do not leave used feminine hygiene products at the top of the trash can no. Clean ones are kept in a drawer in our shared bathroom vanity.

My husband knows I'm a human with normal functions, I just prefer to keep the gross stuff under the air of mystery. I don't know why my husband needs to see my poop and menstrual blood to know the REAL ME.

[Anonymous]

This is totally one of those things that are a direct result of your childhood home. My parents never acknowledged passing gas at all. We locked restroom doors. To this day, I hate pooping if my DH is the next room. I never, ever pass gas when in the room with someone else.

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Anonymous wrote:question to all those that think farting is so rude. Do you also never burp around your spouse? Or throw up? If you are female, do you not go without make up? do you hide your tampons?

1) No I do not burp. Well I mean I have occasionally but it is extremely uncommon and I will generally find a non intrusive/gentle way to let it out
2) Of course, my husband rubbed my back through three pregnancies with hyperemesis. When someone is ill all bets are off
3) What? What does this have to do with anything?
4) Bloody ones? I do not leave used feminine hygiene products at the top of the trash can no. Clean ones are kept in a drawer in our shared bathroom vanity.

My husband knows I'm a human with normal functions, I just prefer to keep the gross stuff under the air of mystery. I don't know why my husband needs to see my poop and menstrual blood to know the REAL ME.

I don’t burp either. I don’t throw up in front of anyone, though during labor and delivery I did in front of my mom and husband. I don’t go without make-up, ever. I wash my face at night, but put on make-up before I get dressed in the morning. I use tampons, but I won’t have my DH buy them.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you have to know your audience. I have toddler boys. In the bounce house the other day I held them down and farted on their faces. They definitely thought I was the best mom ever and oh so hilarious.

I have hot boxed dh in bed before and that was super funny too. But I don't do it often. He still thinks I'm super hot. I close the door when I poop, but not pee.

If you can't hold in a fart though, there's something medically wrong with you. It's not an involuntary function.

You are reallly crude and gross, you know that?

Do you really want your boys to remember their mother doing this?

God, I feel bad for some of the kids of the parents on this board. Honestly the PP is seriously disgusting and just gross. Now we know why there are so many damaged kids running around

This. Have tons of friends with young boys, all kinds of housing and lifestyles. This is just disgusting and is teaching these boys directly to act like that with other kids. Come on, now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because I was raised to be polite. It's weird and quirky, I know, but generally I close the bathroom door when other people are around. Because I dont want to see/hear/smell others defecating and I generally try to extend the same coutesy.

WAS EVERYONE ON DCUM RAISED IN A TRAILER PARK?

I was raised in a trailer park, but I learned to shut the bathroom dour. Poor doesn’t equal gross.

[Anonymous]

I'm divorced now but while married, I never bodily functioned in front of or adjacent to my spouse. Ok maybe a burp. It's so easy (particularly in a big house with ### bathrooms) to just avoid these scenarios.

I work in medicine and I'm grossed out by very, very little (GI bleeds, anyone? check. bones sticking through skin, puke, phlegm, gangrenous wounds, you name it). So it's not that I don't understand that all these items are "natural" — of course they are. But unless you're really ill and you just _cannot_ control your fluids, why not attempt to keep it clean and neutral-smelling for your family members and coworkers?