What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are some aspects of our sex life that others would find ugly but work well for us.

Ugly? That is a strong word. Are these aspects of your sex life legal?

They are legal but would definitely be frowned upon by most couples given other people are involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our bedroom activities. People would be shocked if they knew.

Shocked maybe, envious definitely. I like to think that we are very adventurous in bed but since I have idea what others do we could be very tame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our bedroom activities. People would be shocked if they knew.

You can’t do that to us....! Give us a little insight. 😈

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:swingers and hotwifing.

Family, nice house, stay at home mom with the kids, very close with spouse, and appear very normal from the outside!

The sad part is your have kids and do this nonsense.

Wake the F up and be a better role model for your kids. Eventually kids find out everything...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:swingers and hotwifing.

Family, nice house, stay at home mom with the kids, very close with spouse, and appear very normal from the outside!

The sad part is your have kids and do this nonsense.

Wake the F up and be a better role model for your kids. Eventually kids find out everything...

Yep. How humiliating for teenagers. I’m 50 and still remember the swinger couple from our neighborhood. Their poor kids when the secret came out and spread like wildfire. Same with the Ashley Madison mom in our neighborhood. Her sons are mortified.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:swingers and hotwifing.

Family, nice house, stay at home mom with the kids, very close with spouse, and appear very normal from the outside!

The sad part is your have kids and do this nonsense.

Wake the F up and be a better role model for your kids. Eventually kids find out everything...

Yes! Don’t have a fun sex life! Have a dead bedroom or get divorced! Much better for kids . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:swingers and hotwifing.

Family, nice house, stay at home mom with the kids, very close with spouse, and appear very normal from the outside!

The sad part is your have kids and do this nonsense.

Wake the F up and be a better role model for your kids. Eventually kids find out everything...

Yes! Don’t have a fun sex life! Have a dead bedroom or get divorced! Much better for kids . . .

If you think the only way to have a fun sex life is to cheat or be a swinger, that's your dysfunction. Some of us are happy at home!

[Anonymous]

My husband has horrible tantrums when he doesn’t get his way. Very abusive. Everyone thinks he is the opposite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our bedroom activities. People would be shocked if they knew.

Shocked maybe, envious definitely. I like to think that we are very adventurous in bed but since I have idea what others do we could be very tame.

Same with us. I like to think our love making is very creative (it helps being empty nesters!) but who knows?! A lot of these threads cover frequency but not much else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:swingers and hotwifing.

Family, nice house, stay at home mom with the kids, very close with spouse, and appear very normal from the outside!

The sad part is your have kids and do this nonsense.

Wake the F up and be a better role model for your kids. Eventually kids find out everything...

Yes! Don’t have a fun sex life! Have a dead bedroom or get divorced! Much better for kids . . .

If you think the only way to have a fun sex life is to cheat or be a swinger, that's your dysfunction. Some of us are happy at home!

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Yay! Good for you! Gold star !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
That my Aspie husband has no interest in friends or socializing, that he's very self-centered and cares nothing for social niceties.

Obviously my closest friends realize some of this, but none of us explicitly talk about it. What would be the use? He's in his 50s and not going to change.

You married him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:My husbands diagnosed mental illness.

+1 he can’t hide it w friends or extended family when when all vacation. He tries to by “doing more office work” but that looks ridiculous and all his disappearing does too. It’s his parents family secret- most people on the paternal side have it and they hide it (via never doing new things or spending elongated time with others) and never talk about it. Ironically MIl keeps asking how the kids are doing w school, friends or talking as she tries to determine if it passes to girls... (it did to one).

What's the mental illness?

PP here - OCD. It’s changed our life but he’s not comfortable discussing it so I don’t disclose to others either. It’s isolating in some ways.

Other PP here- Autism and Bipolar, same as his dad, brothers, uncles, cousins.
Hanging out as a group is like being on a crazy, unsafe planet where everyone gas lights you. No one ends up talking at all, it’s so futile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has horrible tantrums when he doesn’t get his way. Very abusive. Everyone thinks he is the opposite.

+ 1 Jekyl & Hyde at home versus outside with others. Puts on a good show, in bursts.

[Anonymous]

We are in a sexless marriage. I know they are common but we are both attractive and healthy so I don't know people would guess us.

[Anonymous]

Nothing ugly, honestly. Sometimes I think he is boring and sometimes he passive aggressive but otherwise we’re good. Married 12 years, 4 kids.