I hate that my son plays with Barbie dolls

[Anonymous]

Op- I completely understand where you are coming from. I will have no problem if my incredibly sweet son grows up to be gay, transgender or something other than straight. HOWEVER, in elementary school there are certina behaviors that can set our kids up for being teased or left out and unfortunately boys playing with dolls is one of them.

My son LOVES a character that is very traditionally feminine and I already see other boys reject him because of it. And while on an intellectual level I understand that is there problem, not his, it does hurt to see him get laughed at when he wants to share his most prized possession.

As parents we all want to protect our kids and while we want them to be unique and different it still hurts when they are an outcast at a young age.

[Anonymous]

I get it OP. PPs can bash you but not everyone is going to be okay or comfortable with everything. I know that such things don't correlate with sexuality and such, but as someone who grew up in a semi conservative Muslim family with parents who still consider being gay a choice and a sin, I've come a long way from that type of thinking but still learning. So sue me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I swear, half the women on this site sound like they're straight out of the 1950s. I don't know anyone like OP and her ilk IRL.

So you have a very non-diverse set of friends? You must be super woke.

My friends are extremely diverse and well-educated, and I live in DC. I wonder if OP’s adherence to dated gender norms are more typical in the distant suburbs where SAHMs abound.

[Anonymous]

Didn't anyone else grow up listening to William Wants a Doll? https://youtu.be/Lshobg1Wt2M

It's sad that a generation later, it's still an issue.

[Anonymous]

I think it's funny how many people have rushed to reassure OP that he just wants to protect his son from bullies. Where did you get that? He sounds like he agrees with the bullies, if not is one himself. This doesn't sound like he's concerned about his kid, he's concerned his kid isn't more like he expected him to be.

Get over it.

[Anonymous]

My kid plays Fortnite and baseball and does all the usual MALE things OP would probably adore, but he also played with dolls as a younger kid, about which we didn't give a damn. He's straight but dyes his hair blue and runs around in a unicorn bathrobe, so he'd probably flip OP's little lid.

For that matter, I'm female but I grew up loving Matchbox cars and GI Joes because I had three brothers and also because those things are just fun.

Don't stick your child into some inaccurate, outdated gender box. People are so much broader and more interesting than that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m a conservative who doesn’t believe in being transgender ( I think it’s child abuse) but I have no problem with kids playing with toys. It’s just a toy. I don’t see any harm in it. Playing with a Barbie won’t magically make him a girl or like boys. Let your kid have fun.

Your views are wrong.

They certainly aren’t valid anyway. Child abuse? Only a terrible, degenerate person would think that way.

PP here. You have your views and I have mine. Thankfully we live in a country that allows difference of opinions.

I don’t have a problem with an adult changing genders, but when I see toddlers “ switching genders” I do see that as child abuse. The Texas pediatrician who wants to get her 7 year old son medically castrated is child abuse. A child has a wild imagination and they aren’t capable to make such life changing decisions. I think the parents are doing a terrible job when they push their young child to be a girl or a boy just because they decided they wanted to or play with a gender specific toy.

Agree 100%! I have no issue whatsoever with adults wanting to do surgery and changing genders or even older teens wanting to be switch (no surgery though). But young children or even older kids? No way Jose! My 5y old says she is a boy or that she wants to be a boy like her father every other week. And when she is not at it, she is claiming she is a princess and never wants to be a boy "girls rule boys droll." Loves to wear her skirts and sparking stuff - VERY GIRLY.

So yeah, how can you trust a little kid what they say about this? It is a kids' prerogative to say these wild type of things. Who cares? It is a little kid? And then you have someone like Charlize Theron who does what she is doing.

+1. Mario Lopez said it was child abuse about her and he got backlash for it.

[Anonymous]

NP. So all of you parents out there saying that you would be completely okay with your child being gay or transgender? Come on!

Yea, it's easy to say that - until it actually happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. So all of you parents out there saying that you would be completely okay with your child being gay or transgender? Come on!

Yea, it's easy to say that - until it actually happens.

Yep! I would never want my kid to be gay. Would I support him if he was? 100%.

[Anonymous]

OP- please don't ever let your kid hear you talk this way or let him feel badly about his likes.

My DS used to love and frankly still loves stuffed animals, playing make believe, pretend games and having friends that are girls.

It was a little hard on him in elementary school but we let him be himself and he learned to love art, theater, photography and is very creative in many areas.

He also played a high school sport and is really smart - he's in college now and he's one of the most creative people I know.

He is also heterosexual, just as a point of reference.

Please let him be himself, whatever that turns out to be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I swear, half the women on this site sound like they're straight out of the 1950s. I don't know anyone like OP and her ilk IRL.

So you have a very non-diverse set of friends? You must be super woke.

My friends are extremely diverse and well-educated, and I live in DC. I wonder if OP’s adherence to dated gender norms are more typical in the distant suburbs where SAHMs abound.

But I mean... you just contradicted yourself. You can't both have "extremely diverse" friends and only well-educated friends who don't agree with traditional values. So how can you have a diverse set of friends that excludes conservatives, religious, SAHM in the suburbs, the uneducated, people with lower socio-economic status? What's the point of accepting transgender peoples and having so much disdain for your average American?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I swear, half the women on this site sound like they're straight out of the 1950s. I don't know anyone like OP and her ilk IRL.

So you have a very non-diverse set of friends? You must be super woke.

My friends are extremely diverse and well-educated, and I live in DC. I wonder if OP’s adherence to dated gender norms are more typical in the distant suburbs where SAHMs abound.

But I mean... you just contradicted yourself. You can't both have "extremely diverse" friends and only well-educated friends who don't agree with traditional values. So how can you have a diverse set of friends that excludes conservatives, religious, SAHM in the suburbs, the uneducated, people with lower socio-economic status? What's the point of accepting transgender peoples and having so much disdain for your average American?

+1

[Anonymous]

As long as you dont think he's somehow a girl "on the inside" because he likes dolls, then vent away! No worries or judgement here, I get it