How to ask nanny to make activities more enriching?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:guessing she'll quit.

She should.

I couldn’t imagine working for any of these horrible posters in this thread demanding more work for same pay.

How are they demanding more work?! It’s just different work!

You’re being utterly ridiculous, PP.

You should try to calm down. You sound ridiculously bothered and offended. If you don’t agree then you don’t agree.

Then you need to reread the Op. Lastly, you need to gain an understanding of what it takes to actually put together a curriculum for a 5 year old.

I am nanny and a former teacher so I understand exactly what putting together a curriculum for a five-year-old looks like. OP isn’t asking for constant tutoring. She’s asking for more enriching activities. This is not difficult to do for a nanny who is a former preschool teacher and art teacher.

And yes, the attitudes of some posters does bother me. These posters present nannies as inflexible, money-grubbing imbeciles incapable of coming up with a few fun and enriching activities for their charges (who are suddenly stuck home without structure or socialization of preschool).

Well your attitude bothers me and you are choosing to be obtuse. Op specifically said she wanted her nanny to switch from playmate to homeschool. She made a point to mention the nanny was a former teacher but was hired as a playmate. Op expects her nanny to change her assigned and expected duties without Op discussing them first. Op also doesn’t even actually know how she wants to implement this as she cannot even discuss it with her nanny.

I imagine you are a nanny who is underpaid and taken advantage of under the guise of helping the family out. It’s not the nannies job to decide to change her role during a pandemic. Op should’ve had the discussion with her nanny as a professional. She should’ve discussed what and how she wanted education implemented. She should be providing supplies and a curriculum. If she wants her nanny to do that then that needs to be discussed. Nanny may or may not want a raise as the role she signed up for has now changed.

You seem super bitter that not all nannies are bending over backwards for their employers. Nannies are their own business and with any service provided you expect to be paid accordingly. No one is faulting you for not knowing your worth and just accepting anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:guessing she'll quit.

She should.

I couldn’t imagine working for any of these horrible posters in this thread demanding more work for same pay.

How are they demanding more work?! It’s just different work!

You’re being utterly ridiculous, PP.

You should try to calm down. You sound ridiculously bothered and offended. If you don’t agree then you don’t agree.

Then you need to reread the Op. Lastly, you need to gain an understanding of what it takes to actually put together a curriculum for a 5 year old.

I am nanny and a former teacher so I understand exactly what putting together a curriculum for a five-year-old looks like. OP isn’t asking for constant tutoring. She’s asking for more enriching activities. This is not difficult to do for a nanny who is a former preschool teacher and art teacher.

And yes, the attitudes of some posters does bother me. These posters present nannies as inflexible, money-grubbing imbeciles incapable of coming up with a few fun and enriching activities for their charges (who are suddenly stuck home without structure or socialization of preschool).

Well your attitude bothers me and you are choosing to be obtuse. Op specifically said she wanted her nanny to switch from playmate to homeschool. She made a point to mention the nanny was a former teacher but was hired as a playmate. Op expects her nanny to change her assigned and expected duties without Op discussing them first. Op also doesn’t even actually know how she wants to implement this as she cannot even discuss it with her nanny.

I imagine you are a nanny who is underpaid and taken advantage of under the guise of helping the family out. It’s not the nannies job to decide to change her role during a pandemic. Op should’ve had the discussion with her nanny as a professional. She should’ve discussed what and how she wanted education implemented. She should be providing supplies and a curriculum. If she wants her nanny to do that then that needs to be discussed. Nanny may or may not want a raise as the role she signed up for has now changed.

You seem super bitter that not all nannies are bending over backwards for their employers. Nannies are their own business and with any service provided you expect to be paid accordingly. No one is faulting you for not knowing your worth and just accepting anything.

Ha ha! I am so far from being considered “underpaid” that you wouldn’t believe it if I told you nor would you believe my benefits. I know my worth and so do my employers.

Of course, the new curriculum needs to be discussed with OP’s nanny. You may not be qualified to homeschool a five-year-old, but OP described her nanny as a former preschool teacher so I have no doubt that OP’s nanny is qualified.

I am, admittedly, annoyed by nannies who don’t know how (or even think they should) to grow and change with both their charges’ development and life’s circumstances. I am annoyed that many of you think it always comes down to “money, money, and more money”. It pisses me off that nannies like you give all of us a bad name.

I’m far from bitter, PP, just stunningly annoyed at the immaturity I see in you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:guessing she'll quit.

She should.

I couldn’t imagine working for any of these horrible posters in this thread demanding more work for same pay.

How are they demanding more work?! It’s just different work!

You’re being utterly ridiculous, PP.

You should try to calm down. You sound ridiculously bothered and offended. If you don’t agree then you don’t agree.

Then you need to reread the Op. Lastly, you need to gain an understanding of what it takes to actually put together a curriculum for a 5 year old.

I am nanny and a former teacher so I understand exactly what putting together a curriculum for a five-year-old looks like. OP isn’t asking for constant tutoring. She’s asking for more enriching activities. This is not difficult to do for a nanny who is a former preschool teacher and art teacher.

And yes, the attitudes of some posters does bother me. These posters present nannies as inflexible, money-grubbing imbeciles incapable of coming up with a few fun and enriching activities for their charges (who are suddenly stuck home without structure or socialization of preschool).

Well your attitude bothers me and you are choosing to be obtuse. Op specifically said she wanted her nanny to switch from playmate to homeschool. She made a point to mention the nanny was a former teacher but was hired as a playmate. Op expects her nanny to change her assigned and expected duties without Op discussing them first. Op also doesn’t even actually know how she wants to implement this as she cannot even discuss it with her nanny.

I imagine you are a nanny who is underpaid and taken advantage of under the guise of helping the family out. It’s not the nannies job to decide to change her role during a pandemic. Op should’ve had the discussion with her nanny as a professional. She should’ve discussed what and how she wanted education implemented. She should be providing supplies and a curriculum. If she wants her nanny to do that then that needs to be discussed. Nanny may or may not want a raise as the role she signed up for has now changed.

You seem super bitter that not all nannies are bending over backwards for their employers. Nannies are their own business and with any service provided you expect to be paid accordingly. No one is faulting you for not knowing your worth and just accepting anything.

Ha ha! I am so far from being considered “underpaid” that you wouldn’t believe it if I told you nor would you believe my benefits. I know my worth and so do my employers.

Of course, the new curriculum needs to be discussed with OP’s nanny. You may not be qualified to homeschool a five-year-old, but OP described her nanny as a former preschool teacher so I have no doubt that OP’s nanny is qualified.

I am, admittedly, annoyed by nannies who don’t know how (or even think they should) to grow and change with both their charges’ development and life’s circumstances. I am annoyed that many of you think it always comes down to “money, money, and more money”. It pisses me off that nannies like you give all of us a bad name.

I’m far from bitter, PP, just stunningly annoyed at the immaturity I see in you.

Your first sentence says it all.

And no...you are very bitter, very angry and living in a bubble.

Since you don’t understand or realize it, plenty of nannies are underpaid, taken advantage of, and overworked. If you claim to be as awesome and highly paid, then you should be more aware. With your arrogance and lack of awareness you give nannies a bad name. Not to mention you don’t even want nannies to advocate for themselves. Carry on with your misery. You don’t seem happy or that educated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:guessing she'll quit.

She should.

I couldn’t imagine working for any of these horrible posters in this thread demanding more work for same pay.

How are they demanding more work?! It’s just different work!

You’re being utterly ridiculous, PP.

You should try to calm down. You sound ridiculously bothered and offended. If you don’t agree then you don’t agree.

Then you need to reread the Op. Lastly, you need to gain an understanding of what it takes to actually put together a curriculum for a 5 year old.

I am nanny and a former teacher so I understand exactly what putting together a curriculum for a five-year-old looks like. OP isn’t asking for constant tutoring. She’s asking for more enriching activities. This is not difficult to do for a nanny who is a former preschool teacher and art teacher.

And yes, the attitudes of some posters does bother me. These posters present nannies as inflexible, money-grubbing imbeciles incapable of coming up with a few fun and enriching activities for their charges (who are suddenly stuck home without structure or socialization of preschool).

Well your attitude bothers me and you are choosing to be obtuse. Op specifically said she wanted her nanny to switch from playmate to homeschool. She made a point to mention the nanny was a former teacher but was hired as a playmate. Op expects her nanny to change her assigned and expected duties without Op discussing them first. Op also doesn’t even actually know how she wants to implement this as she cannot even discuss it with her nanny.

I imagine you are a nanny who is underpaid and taken advantage of under the guise of helping the family out. It’s not the nannies job to decide to change her role during a pandemic. Op should’ve had the discussion with her nanny as a professional. She should’ve discussed what and how she wanted education implemented. She should be providing supplies and a curriculum. If she wants her nanny to do that then that needs to be discussed. Nanny may or may not want a raise as the role she signed up for has now changed.

You seem super bitter that not all nannies are bending over backwards for their employers. Nannies are their own business and with any service provided you expect to be paid accordingly. No one is faulting you for not knowing your worth and just accepting anything.

Ha ha! I am so far from being considered “underpaid” that you wouldn’t believe it if I told you nor would you believe my benefits. I know my worth and so do my employers.

Of course, the new curriculum needs to be discussed with OP’s nanny. You may not be qualified to homeschool a five-year-old, but OP described her nanny as a former preschool teacher so I have no doubt that OP’s nanny is qualified.

I am, admittedly, annoyed by nannies who don’t know how (or even think they should) to grow and change with both their charges’ development and life’s circumstances. I am annoyed that many of you think it always comes down to “money, money, and more money”. It pisses me off that nannies like you give all of us a bad name.

I’m far from bitter, PP, just stunningly annoyed at the immaturity I see in you.

Your first sentence says it all.

And no...you are very bitter, very angry and living in a bubble.

Since you don’t understand or realize it, plenty of nannies are underpaid, taken advantage of, and overworked. If you claim to be as awesome and highly paid, then you should be more aware. With your arrogance and lack of awareness you give nannies a bad name. Not to mention you don’t even want nannies to advocate for themselves. Carry on with your misery. You don’t seem happy or that educated.

Stop embarrassing yourself, PP. OP’s nanny was a preschool teacher and art teacher! She is in high demand by wealthier families so I seriously doubt she is underpaid, taken advantage of nor overworked. Your high drama is laughable.

But go ahead and reply again. Immature people like you need the last word. But thanks again for the laugh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:guessing she'll quit.

She should.

I couldn’t imagine working for any of these horrible posters in this thread demanding more work for same pay.

How are they demanding more work?! It’s just different work!

You’re being utterly ridiculous, PP.

You should try to calm down. You sound ridiculously bothered and offended. If you don’t agree then you don’t agree.

Then you need to reread the Op. Lastly, you need to gain an understanding of what it takes to actually put together a curriculum for a 5 year old.

I am nanny and a former teacher so I understand exactly what putting together a curriculum for a five-year-old looks like. OP isn’t asking for constant tutoring. She’s asking for more enriching activities. This is not difficult to do for a nanny who is a former preschool teacher and art teacher.

And yes, the attitudes of some posters does bother me. These posters present nannies as inflexible, money-grubbing imbeciles incapable of coming up with a few fun and enriching activities for their charges (who are suddenly stuck home without structure or socialization of preschool).

Well your attitude bothers me and you are choosing to be obtuse. Op specifically said she wanted her nanny to switch from playmate to homeschool. She made a point to mention the nanny was a former teacher but was hired as a playmate. Op expects her nanny to change her assigned and expected duties without Op discussing them first. Op also doesn’t even actually know how she wants to implement this as she cannot even discuss it with her nanny.

I imagine you are a nanny who is underpaid and taken advantage of under the guise of helping the family out. It’s not the nannies job to decide to change her role during a pandemic. Op should’ve had the discussion with her nanny as a professional. She should’ve discussed what and how she wanted education implemented. She should be providing supplies and a curriculum. If she wants her nanny to do that then that needs to be discussed. Nanny may or may not want a raise as the role she signed up for has now changed.

You seem super bitter that not all nannies are bending over backwards for their employers. Nannies are their own business and with any service provided you expect to be paid accordingly. No one is faulting you for not knowing your worth and just accepting anything.

Ha ha! I am so far from being considered “underpaid” that you wouldn’t believe it if I told you nor would you believe my benefits. I know my worth and so do my employers.

Of course, the new curriculum needs to be discussed with OP’s nanny. You may not be qualified to homeschool a five-year-old, but OP described her nanny as a former preschool teacher so I have no doubt that OP’s nanny is qualified.

I am, admittedly, annoyed by nannies who don’t know how (or even think they should) to grow and change with both their charges’ development and life’s circumstances. I am annoyed that many of you think it always comes down to “money, money, and more money”. It pisses me off that nannies like you give all of us a bad name.

I’m far from bitter, PP, just stunningly annoyed at the immaturity I see in you.

Your first sentence says it all.

And no...you are very bitter, very angry and living in a bubble.

Since you don’t understand or realize it, plenty of nannies are underpaid, taken advantage of, and overworked. If you claim to be as awesome and highly paid, then you should be more aware. With your arrogance and lack of awareness you give nannies a bad name. Not to mention you don’t even want nannies to advocate for themselves. Carry on with your misery. You don’t seem happy or that educated.

Stop embarrassing yourself, PP. OP’s nanny was a preschool teacher and art teacher! She is in high demand by wealthier families so I seriously doubt she is underpaid, taken advantage of nor overworked. Your high drama is laughable.

But go ahead and reply again. Immature people like you need the last word. But thanks again for the laugh!

Pot meet kettle.

[Anonymous]

Ask her to teach your child to read. This is literally the best time to learn (at home, daily, one-on-one, before Kindergarten).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask her to teach your child to read. This is literally the best time to learn (at home, daily, one-on-one, before Kindergarten).

Especially if she’s already 5

[Anonymous]

Haha some parents...thinks they know better than a teacher.
Either your nanny teaches her through play and not much crafts because you don't pay her well. When you pay well to your Nanny, Nanny is happy and willing to do a lot of things even cleaning extra if she wants to.

You don't really need materials, things to your kids...just have a lot of books, few toys, not a lot, kitchen play, balls and crayons if kids are older. What kids need since they start walking is to you to talk to them more often, like conversations. There's always a learning experience in reading books, saying names, shapes, count, kitchen play kids learns pretend play, share, play by itself or groups, music is good to sing. You don't need fancy things, just talk to the child, what are you doing and why. Explain why you're changing thier diaper. Why you cook this way. Start conversations with your kid. Teach them how to talk, learn new words and understand directions.

I talk to my kid in Spanish and with just 1 year and a half follows directions and understands better than a 4 year old brat. Talk to your kid, describe, name things, explain why of things. Repeat words, especially with toddlers so they learn new words.

And again crafts is easy. If nanny doesn't do it is because she's not getting paid well. If she wants to she will get crafty. Maybe leave materials in a closet and she will get curios and start making activities. But if your child is happy, well fed then I don't see any problem.
Safety is the most important thing, then comes teaching manners and then education. Kids can learn many things from any situation. Talk to them, explain why on things. Kids don't need fancy toys and things to have a rich learning experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha some parents...thinks they know better than a teacher.
Either your nanny teaches her through play and not much crafts because you don't pay her well. When you pay well to your Nanny, Nanny is happy and willing to do a lot of things even cleaning extra if she wants to.

You don't really need materials, things to your kids...just have a lot of books, few toys, not a lot, kitchen play, balls and crayons if kids are older. What kids need since they start walking is to you to talk to them more often, like conversations. There's always a learning experience in reading books, saying names, shapes, count, kitchen play kids learns pretend play, share, play by itself or groups, music is good to sing. You don't need fancy things, just talk to the child, what are you doing and why. Explain why you're changing thier diaper. Why you cook this way. Start conversations with your kid. Teach them how to talk, learn new words and understand directions.

I talk to my kid in Spanish and with just 1 year and a half follows directions and understands better than a 4 year old brat. Talk to your kid, describe, name things, explain why of things. Repeat words, especially with toddlers so they learn new words.

And again crafts is easy. If nanny doesn't do it is because she's not getting paid well. If she wants to she will get crafty. Maybe leave materials in a closet and she will get curios and start making activities. But if your child is happy, well fed then I don't see any problem.
Safety is the most important thing, then comes teaching manners and then education. Kids can learn many things from any situation. Talk to them, explain why on things. Kids don't need fancy toys and things to have a rich learning experience.

You didn’t read the OP completely. This child is 5. They need a planned curriculum with fine and gross motor skills, literacy and numeracy skills (even if the child isn’t quite ready to read), and social skills (not just manners). Frankly, the child should know their colors and shapes prior to 5; by 5 a child can start learning to classify shapes based on the number of vertices and sides/edges. While I agree that what you suggested is fine for infants, toddlers and preschoolers, it is NOT enough for kindergarten (5yo). Also, it sounds like you’re a great nanny who does immersion, but by 5 a child needs to hear grammar that will help them at school.

[Anonymous]

You guys sound crazy. They have almost 20 years of school ahead of them if they go to college. We did all this BS in preschool. Ever wonder why it takes 4 years to learn the alphabet? When you start at 12 months?
The nanny with the twins sounds like she has a good schedule. Most important thing in K is learning to get along with others.
Calm down moms. You have lots of homework time ahead.