Would you date a single mom?

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Anonymous wrote:Single moms who have just become empty nesters are the best. They have a degree of freedom they haven’t had in maybe 20 years and sexually they may be at their peak.

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LOL idiot they were at their sexual peak at 20 and they hit the wall 10 years ago but if that's what you want go for it.

Guess it depends what you’re looking for. Yea, I don’t have my 20 year old body anymore, but when I was 20 I was pretty terrible in bed. I was inhibited, didn’t know what I wanted, and extremely self-conscious. Now I’m much more open, ask for exactly what I want, and can go multiple times a night. But some guys don’t like that, I don’t know if they’re intimidated or what, but I’ve definitely had men who were uncomfortable with anything other than vanilla.

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The 20somethings I've slept with since my divorce have been incredible. It's a different generation.

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As DCUM posts always dissolve into sexual conquests and how liberated everyone is, OP, the answer to your question is, it depends. Some men are busy with careers and would love to have a woman who isn't always avaiable but can offer good company and be enjoyable. For them, you might be perfect.

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Anonymous wrote:New poster.
As a single mom, I understand why a childless man may not want me or another single mom.
What I do not understand however, is why would a single mom (even the one who is much hotter and younger than me) want a childless dude?
I am new to this, but do such men usually not only marry but financially support their stepkids?! I had no idea.
I mean, I personally don’t care to not only get married again but even move in with anyone, unless I gain a lot financially- a bigger house in a better school district and nice outings and vacations etc etc. However, I am under an impression that it is a very rare occurrence that a single childless man has this to offer and moreover WANTS to offer it to a single mom...
If so, why would a single mom care if the dude is childless??
Please explain?

A lot of men are good people. I’ve never been turned down by a man because I have a child. In my last relationship, he took it very seriously and worked hard on his finances because he wanted to be in a better position to support us (we broke up for other reasons).

I don’t care if a man has kids or not, but I tend to have more in common with those who do.

thank you for your response! you are saying he had to work hard "to be in a better position to support you" - this indicates he was not really in a good financial position, no?
I mean someone who can easily take on a mom with a kid or two...

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Yea, I don’t have my 20 year old body anymore, but when I was 20 I was pretty terrible in bed.

Nah, when you're 20, all you have to do is have a 20 year old body to be "good in bed".

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Absolutely not!

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Kids are not an issue...

The issue is has she worked in the issues that led to a divorce?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single moms who have just become empty nesters are the best. They have a degree of freedom they haven’t had in maybe 20 years and sexually they may be at their peak.

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LOL idiot they were at their sexual peak at 20 and they hit the wall 10 years ago but if that's what you want go for it.

Guess it depends what you’re looking for. Yea, I don’t have my 20 year old body anymore, but when I was 20 I was pretty terrible in bed. I was inhibited, didn’t know what I wanted, and extremely self-conscious. Now I’m much more open, ask for exactly what I want, and can go multiple times a night. But some guys don’t like that, I don’t know if they’re intimidated or what, but I’ve definitely had men who were uncomfortable with anything other than vanilla.

+1 I was definitely at my physical peak in my early 20’s but far from my sexual peak as I too was very inhibited....thank you nuns! I’m now 44 and I’ve been married for 16 years and my husband and I are both “students” of new things we can do together. We both reserve the right to say “that’s not for me” but we rarely use it. If I was on the dating market I’m sure I wouldn’t be a disappointment.

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Yea, I don’t have my 20 year old body anymore, but when I was 20 I was pretty terrible in bed.

Nah, when you're 20, all you have to do is have a 20 year old body to be "good in bed".

*shrug* if body age is all that a guy is into, that’s fine. Doesn’t bother me. We all have our own tastes. I certainly slept with my share of older men when I was young.

I’m much happier with my sex life now than I was in my 20s. If a guy isn’t into me because I’m not 20, there are plenty of other men who are eager to jump into bed with me. None of us are as hot as a 20 year old in their physical prime. It’s no big deal. I’d much rather enjoy my sex life and have blast than spend all my time worrying that I don’t have a perfect body.

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Anonymous wrote:

Yea, I don?t have my 20 year old body anymore, but when I was 20 I was pretty terrible in bed.

Nah, when you're 20, all you have to do is have a 20 year old body to be "good in bed".

*shrug* if body age is all that a guy is into, that?s fine. Doesn?t bother me. We all have our own tastes. I certainly slept with my share of older men when I was young.

I?m much happier with my sex life now than I was in my 20s. If a guy isn?t into me because I?m not 20, there are plenty of other men who are eager to jump into bed with me. None of us are as hot as a 20 year old in their physical prime. It?s no big deal. I?d much rather enjoy my sex life and have blast than spend all my time worrying that I don?t have a perfect body.

Maybe it's a couple of people who keep posting over and over, but if I read one more, "I was insecure about myself in my 20s and have blossomed into a liberated woman" response, I'm going to puke.