Family Beach House- DS and Friends Using it for Summer.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH's family has a really special, small beach house on the coast of North Carolina. It's old, small (3 beds, 1.5 baths), on a beautiful piece of property and just something you dream of owning. It's been in his family for three generations.

This summer our college-age DS and two of his male cousins are going to live and work at the beach. They will live in the house.

There is an extremely basic 'outbuilding' on the property. Think glorified shed. It has no bathroom, running water or kitchen. It's basically a simple bunk room with lights and a window AC that we have used as overflow bedrooms during family vacations.

One of many of DS's DC friends wants to live there for the summer. My BILs signed off on it but want to charge a nominal $333 a month rent ($1000 for the summer) and limit it to one kid because they will all being using one septic tank. They also want the chosen kid to sign a basic lease to cover damages.

So, I brought this up to the chosen boy's mom- who I'm very friendly with but not close close.

I thought she was going to faint. Her reaction was one of disgust. She actually thought her son was going to live rent free at out family beach house for three months.

Today I heard she was bad mouthing me to other friends, calling me a cheap skate, etc.

Do I go ballistic and dis-invite the kid?

Really special? GMAF break.

You sound like a complete piece work. Your son must be (should be) mortified that you're trying to charge a friend he invited rent to live in a shack. I probably wouldn't have bothered sh!t talking behind your back, I would have just told you to shove it.

Good grief.

OP here. Found the scum. Sorry you can't appreciate gorgeous acreage and historic property on the coast of NC. Too bad so sad you were raised broke (and probably in a trailer.)

This is absolutely classic because it's not even your house, it's your husband's family's house. I am dying at you trying to act to the manor born over marrying someone with a 1/12th ownership interest in a 3/1.5 with an air conditioned shed.

Forget the goose thread, this is the Best of DCUM.

This and the goose thread have been gifts. Got myself a glass of chardonnay after reading the first page. Keep on responding OP, we love you!

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Since it’s not a legal rental you’re wildly in the wrong. I would bad mouth you too.

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Anonymous wrote:Charge him rent. Otherwise you and your family will be paying his utilities. It's none of the kid's business if your son and nephews are paying or not.

People calling you cheap are so entitled. I would have been mortified to mooch off a friend's family by living for free at a beach house all summer when I was that age.

You should have treated the kid like an adult by giving him the lease directly or making your son do it. Don't infantilize him by talking to his mother.

This, particularly if he is a college student.

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Anonymous wrote:Since it’s not a legal rental you’re wildly in the wrong. I would bad mouth you too.

Imagine wanting to enter into a rental relationship with this kid, now legally a tenant. Hahahahaha

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OP, you are doing nothing wrong. This is not family. He should not expect to live rent-free. You are also forgoing the opportunity of anyone else in the family having use of the shed over the summer. I am as far from a cheapskate as they come (my DH wishes I was more of one!), and I think your “friend” is an immature child got discussing this with other people. If she has an issue, she should be an adult and address it directly with you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Charge him rent. Otherwise you and your family will be paying his utilities. It's none of the kid's business if your son and nephews are paying or not.

People calling you cheap are so entitled. I would have been mortified to mooch off a friend's family by living for free at a beach house all summer when I was that age.

You should have treated the kid like an adult by giving him the lease directly or making your son do it. Don't infantilize him by talking to his mother.

This, particularly if he is a college student.

A lease with an illegal renter! Hilarious

[Anonymous]

sell this as a show idea to bravo. "Beach House/Outhouse" would be a great name.

[Anonymous]

I think charging all of them some rent (have them split theb$1000) is a good idea. If they leave the place better then the found it, you can give a surprise refund. If they trash it, you can cover some costs.

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Anonymous wrote:I think charging all of them some rent (have them split theb$1000) is a good idea. If they leave the place better then the found it, you can give a surprise refund. If they trash it, you can cover some costs.

This. And also since them using it means no one else in the extended family can use it during the summer, which I'm assuming is the ideal season to use it in. All of the kids should have some skin in the game.

[Anonymous]

I remember when I was in college the parents of my friends would do such sweet things for us like take us out to dinner, send care packages, and let us stay at their homes for job interviews and spring break. I can’t wait until my kids are old enough for me to pay it forward. Too bad I don’t own any acreage sheds.

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How much is the electricity going to cost for the outhouse and its A/C all night, all summer?

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Anonymous wrote:Three college aged boys are going to live for free for the summer and your son invited a friend to join them. Of course the implication is that it's free.

Also calling $333/month for a glorified shed with no running water or kitchen "nominal rent" is hilarious. That's highway robbery.

No one lives for free. I think what the op proposed was fair. The 4th kid is not bood related. Thst kids parents need tonsee what they can find on the open market for $333.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three college aged boys are going to live for free for the summer and your son invited a friend to join them. Of course the implication is that it's free.

Also calling $333/month for a glorified shed with no running water or kitchen "nominal rent" is hilarious. That's highway robbery.

No one lives for free. I think what the op proposed was fair. The 4th kid is not blood related. That kids parents need to see what they can find on the open market for $333.

Supporting family is one thing. Paying for a stranger is something different. The house costs money even if it has no mortgage.

Op don't feel bad. Also teach your kid they don't have thebright to invite a friend along on something they arent paying for themselves.

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If your son and cousins will be working there and living there I would charge them nominal rent to cover utilities and other basic costs. It's all about teaching them about how the world works - it's not a free ride. Charge the other kid the same or less because he's living in a shed.

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We have a condo in Chicago that our two daughters and a cousin live in. We charge them rent that covers the HOA and taxes. It's a great deal for them as living "on their own" would cost them 2-3 times as much. No way would I allow them to live rent free - they earn money.