People saying "hold off on posting college acceptances on social media" - Absurd

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one who is happy when someone else's kid succeeds?

Jeezus, do you people react like that to wedding announcements? Baby announcements? Joy is best shared; share other's and they will share yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who is happy when someone else's kid succeeds?

Jeezus, do you people react like that to wedding announcements? Baby announcements? Joy is best shared; share other's and they will share yours.

I tend to feel the same way. While I may not be happy it doesn't bother me. Since my kiddos are younger treat it as a learning experience...how did they get accepted to <insert highly selective school>?

[Anonymous]

I got into Northwestern in 2003!!!

I worked 3 years as a journalist and then worked as a dorm hall kitchen staff, a temp receptionist, a call center employee, a waitress and am now a CNAmaking $14 an hour.

My point is that elite college status means bupkiss beyond a bumper sticker and big debt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Snowflakes need to grow up and grow a pair. My DC got into Stanford last week and I blasted it from the mountaintops. Not everyone gets a trophy. People get things and sometimes, many times you wont. Deal with it. It's called life. Ive seen one too many posters saying it creates anxiety. TOO BAD.

This same poster would have blamed everyone from the counselors to the other parents had her kid been deferred.

[Anonymous]

After the age of 18, your child is legally an adult and any accomplishments which they achieve are therefore THEIRS to brag about, not yours. If you are still bragging about your adult children's accomplishments then you probably need a job or a really compelling hobby or some way to have your OWN accomplishments! Women who brag about their adult children (except if it's grand kids) just look silly and pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Most seniors receiving acceptances now are not 18, by the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who is happy when someone else's kid succeeds?

Jeezus, do you people react like that to wedding announcements? Baby announcements? Joy is best shared; share other's and they will share yours.

+1. I'm happy for every one that is happy about their results.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, did you ask your child before "blasting it from the mountaintop"?

It is technically his news, not yours. I hope you are not this insufferable all the time. Maybe there's a reason he applied to the elite school that is across the country from DC.

Girls get accepted into Standford, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, did you ask your child before "blasting it from the mountaintop"?

It is technically his news, not yours. I hope you are not this insufferable all the time. Maybe there's a reason he applied to the elite school that is across the country from DC.

Girls get accepted into Standford, too.

This was my post....I agree. My bad. I was too lazy to go back and check if OP had specified the gender of the child, so I chose a pronoun based on nothing at all. The one person I personally know who went to Stanford was a he.... maybe that influenced me.

[Anonymous]

My kid will hear tomorrow. I will post it nowhere if she's accepted. Why? Because her best friend is one of the kids who didn't get in early to their school of choice last week and I know that was hard on her, and I am sure there are other kids of my friends in the same boat, and it's unnecessary and obnoxious. And if my daughter doesn't get in, she'll still be happy for her friends, but it would be easier on her I'm sure if everyone and their mothers aren't screaming about their acceptances from the mountaintops. It's just insensitive and obnoxious. How hard is it to wait a few months? In the meantime, tell your family and close friends. If you need more validation than that, you need to focus on what you personally would like to accomplish in life, because then it's clearly about your sense of inadequacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nephew got accepted at UVA! Early action!

I'm so proud of him! I'm not on social media, so I'll just announce here on dcum and I've already told my coworkers (sorry!).

You talk to your coworkers about your nephew?

[Anonymous]

cool story, op. Good luck with your kid’s George Mason application.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid will hear tomorrow. I will post it nowhere if she's accepted. Why? Because her best friend is one of the kids who didn't get in early to their school of choice last week and I know that was hard on her, and I am sure there are other kids of my friends in the same boat, and it's unnecessary and obnoxious. And if my daughter doesn't get in, she'll still be happy for her friends, but it would be easier on her I'm sure if everyone and their mothers aren't screaming about their acceptances from the mountaintops. It's just insensitive and obnoxious. How hard is it to wait a few months? In the meantime, tell your family and close friends. If you need more validation than that, you need to focus on what you personally would like to accomplish in life, because then it's clearly about your sense of inadequacy.

Brrrr. It’s cold outside. Snowflake anyone?

Rejection and acceptance are part of life. Not everyone gets a trophy.

[Anonymous]

Do you think Stanford will be a good fit? Might be too liberal for your kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid will hear tomorrow. I will post it nowhere if she's accepted. Why? Because her best friend is one of the kids who didn't get in early to their school of choice last week and I know that was hard on her, and I am sure there are other kids of my friends in the same boat, and it's unnecessary and obnoxious. And if my daughter doesn't get in, she'll still be happy for her friends, but it would be easier on her I'm sure if everyone and their mothers aren't screaming about their acceptances from the mountaintops. It's just insensitive and obnoxious. How hard is it to wait a few months? In the meantime, tell your family and close friends. If you need more validation than that, you need to focus on what you personally would like to accomplish in life, because then it's clearly about your sense of inadequacy.

I'm sorry, but this is just taking it too far in the other direction.
You daughter's friend will feel happy for your daughter, while still bummed she didn't get in. Likewise, your daughter will feel excited if she gets good news, while also still feeling bad for her friend. And because they are friends, regardless of what news they are getting they will support each other.

There is nothing wrong with posting news about where your child is going to college at the time you learn where your child is going to college. It is a significant life event. There is a shared understanding/expectation that a primary function of social media is to share life events.

If I post a few lines saying "So excited for Larla! She's going to ___." and maybe a picture of smiling kid wearing a shirt from the college, that's seems really appropriate.

If I change my banner to the school's logo, post a bunch of stats about the awesomeness of the school, and basically go on an on about my kid "winning" at college, then that's bad. But that's just bad social media. A person that does that probably always goes over the top.

I just think it's bizarre that you are literally suggesting "How hard is it to wait a few months?"
What happens when April rolls around, and there are still some kids who are not happy when the regular decisions come out? Kids will learn where they are going to college and where other kids are going to college. It's an ongoing process that is beginning now, and will run all the way through the spring. There will be high points and low points. There will be celebrations and there will be disappointments. It's an inevitable part of the process.