People saying "hold off on posting college acceptances on social media" - Absurd

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s absurd to post on social media at all. Why not just send an email to the people that actually care? Or even call them on a telephone? If your relationship with them is so tangential that’s you don’t actually want to speak to them, it’s not something you need to share with them.

We have family abroad and use social media to share our happy events so that when we are actually together we can move quickly to more important topics since we already know the day-to-day. Suggesting email tells me you are old - if not in body than in mind.

Actually, the fact that you still use Facebook reveals YOUR age. No young people do.

[Anonymous]

Only 13% of females under 25 use Facebook

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s absurd to post on social media at all. Why not just send an email to the people that actually care? Or even call them on a telephone? If your relationship with them is so tangential that’s you don’t actually want to speak to them, it’s not something you need to share with them.

We have family abroad and use social media to share our happy events so that when we are actually together we can move quickly to more important topics since we already know the day-to-day. Suggesting email tells me you are old - if not in body than in mind.

Actually, the fact that you still use Facebook reveals YOUR age. No young people do.

Not to keep up with friends. But every college my kid was accepted to had a closed FB group for class of 20Xx. And kids joined that and engaged. That was what prompted my senior to create his FB acct in the first place. I think these are largely abandoned once school starts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only 13% of females under 25 use Facebook

I’m guessing the average DCUM parent is over 25. And the parents of high school seniors are more like 45-55. Heck my 58 year old friend still has middle schoolers. So the people posting about their kids college acceptances are more likely to be on FB. Unless of course they are so woke they are boycotting it, as several of my friends are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Damn OP. Seems like you should maybe accomplish something yourself to brag about."

They have, they bought their DC's way into Stanford and haven't been indited yet.

Sounds like a great thing to scream from the mountaintop.

Everyone has bragging rights for their kids. You can't take that from people. I think people who complain are mostly childless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Snowflakes need to grow up and grow a pair. My DC got into Stanford last week and I blasted it from the mountaintops. Not everyone gets a trophy. People get things and sometimes, many times you wont. Deal with it. It's called life. Ive seen one too many posters saying it creates anxiety. TOO BAD.

Your "lives vicariously medal" is in the mail. Congrats to you, er, your daughter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kids aren’t old enough for that tho I see plenty of people post report card / honor roll things so I wouldn’t put college acceptances past them.

My BILs / SILs posted where their kids decided to go, not every acceptance, which I think is appropriate and something people want to know.

In OP's (mild) defense, this is an ED acceptance so it is where his/her child will be going.

Stanford is restrictive/single choice early action, not ED (although as a practical matter, certainly likely to be where the child will be attending).

OP, consider it a thoughtful courtesy to those in the midst of a stressful process to refrain from announcing on social media until summer.

Lord. Protect the snowflakes from what others are doing. How do people actually think like this? Shelter the children forever.

It's not protecting snowflakes. It's showing grace and a little courtesy. No one is saying not to share it. But think about the how and when. Unless you're a thoughtless turd like OP, you'll understand why that is a nice thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe people are put off by your aggression and it actually has nothing to do with being jealous of your child's accomplishments.

+1

BTW, it's your child accomplishment, not yours. Bragging it's what you do, but, please, proceed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nephew got accepted at UVA! Early action!

I'm so proud of him! I'm not on social media, so I'll just announce here on dcum and I've already told my coworkers (sorry!).

Except, it's Early Decision ... you have people think EA results are out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Snowflakes need to grow up and grow a pair. My DC got into Stanford last week and I blasted it from the mountaintops. Not everyone gets a trophy. People get things and sometimes, many times you wont. Deal with it. It's called life. Ive seen one too many posters saying it creates anxiety. TOO BAD.

What are you prattling on about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While the OP is over the top, I think they have a point.

I think OP erected a straw man. Who are these people complaining that others' posts make them anxious? This doesn't actually happen.

[Anonymous]

We don't do social media but post on our Family and Friends Group Me.

We have family members whose kid applied to mostly instate publics and small privates for merit, and got 8 out of 9 acceptances (all except the instate flagship with 30% acceptance). We know, because they shared each and every one - some with pics of the acceptance emails. So if you are shopping for acceptances and "likes", that is easily accomplished - just aim low relative to your stats.

Our kid applied to a mix of safeties/matches/reaches. We did not share the rolling admission at the 2 safeties. One reach came before Xmas, and I did share that our kid got some disappointing news. That was mainly so that the family could be aware and sensitive to that and offer kind words when they bombarded him with questions. So as of that date, even though my kid had 3 acceptances the family figured he only got into 0 of 1. In the spring, we did share a 1 minute reveal video of him making his final decision between his top 2 finalists. (it was more of a he FInally made a decision video thought, and ended up being a reveal for us parents as we were recording it too, as we helped narrow it down but let him make that last decision 100% on his own.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Snowflakes need to grow up and grow a pair. My DC got into Stanford last week and I blasted it from the mountaintops. Not everyone gets a trophy. People get things and sometimes, many times you wont. Deal with it. It's called life. Ive seen one too many posters saying it creates anxiety. TOO BAD.

Np You sound very unhinged. If you are in DC I can see why your kid wants to go 3,000 miles away from you! Btw, how does a cis girl "grow a pair?" Can we end this stupid phrase?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s absurd to post on social media at all. Why not just send an email to the people that actually care? Or even call them on a telephone? If your relationship with them is so tangential that’s you don’t actually want to speak to them, it’s not something you need to share with them.

We have family abroad and use social media to share our happy events so that when we are actually together we can move quickly to more important topics since we already know the day-to-day. Suggesting email tells me you are old - if not in body than in mind.

Actually, the fact that you still use Facebook reveals YOUR age. No young people do.

well, my relatives abroad aren't so young, either.

[Anonymous]

For some reason im always entertained by those YouTube college decision videos.