Anyone need a break from their kids?

[Anonymous]

I get my break when my husband takes the kids to visit his family in California once a year over spring break. I don’t go because I don’t get along with his family and have no interest in spending my vacation time with them. Instead I stay home all week and take a few days off work, sleep in, do no cooking or cleaning, see friends, read, eat at al my favorite restaurants, have shopping marathons, and catch up on projects around the house. It is glorious and I feel so refreshed after. Likewise, I take the kids to visit my family once a year and he stays home and gets a similar week to himself.

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I just visited my parents for 3 days and 2 nights and could have used one more day! My 3 little ones can drive me nuts but they are mine!

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Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

Yup, I had three kids and knew that I would want a kid free vacation every year. And I got it. To me, preschool and nighttime weren't enough. And guess what? My kids are happy and well adjusted and so are Mom and Dad.

Sounds like you have a different support structure than Op. You play the cards you are dealt.

Not really - looks like OP is getting exactly what she wants and is asking for a weekend alone at a hotel for Christmas. DH is her support and he is coming through for her, which is fantastic.

From the Op:

“I told DH I wanted to go away for 2 weeks and be just stared at me blankly.”

You need to read ALL the posts or you miss follow ups.

"Op here. DH let me have the night off. I do feel better today but yeah, it is not enough.

As an xmas gift, I’m going to go away for a weekend by myself. I’m thinking salamander or maybe mandarin oriental in DC."

Is a weekend the same as 2 weeks?

Um no? That’s why I said a weekend. ? That’s what OP is asking for for Christmas and her husband is providing.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

No. Give me your firstborn and that shall settle this score.

[Anonymous]

I volunteered to chaperone a student trip over February Break. Can't wait!

On the regular, I take 1-2 hours for myself at least 2-3 times per week. This might mean going to Starbucks, getting a massage or heading to the gym. It definitely helps you balance the hard work of taking care of kids....along with a FT job.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

This is ridiculous. When they sleep early it is not “a break”. To be completely refreshed you need 24 hrs to yourself without worrying or having to wake up to change diapers or make breakfast. That is a break! A complete one! Nighttime break is not what OP is looking for.

I disagree. From the time they were 6 months forward they slept 7pm - 7am. I got at least 3+ hours to myself each night, and still got over 8 hours of sleep. It absolutely recharged my batteries each day. How can you say this is not a break?

Lol. So, by your logic, no one should ever take vacations or leave from work. I mean, you work from 8-5, then you get to go home and relax for 3 hours AND get 8 hours of sleep! How can you say this is not a break! I recharge my batteries every night from work! No need for a break.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

Yup, I had three kids and knew that I would want a kid free vacation every year. And I got it. To me, preschool and nighttime weren't enough. And guess what? My kids are happy and well adjusted and so are Mom and Dad.

Sounds like you have a different support structure than Op. You play the cards you are dealt.

Not really - looks like OP is getting exactly what she wants and is asking for a weekend alone at a hotel for Christmas. DH is her support and he is coming through for her, which is fantastic.

From the Op:

“I told DH I wanted to go away for 2 weeks and be just stared at me blankly.”

You need to read ALL the posts or you miss follow ups.

"Op here. DH let me have the night off. I do feel better today but yeah, it is not enough.

As an xmas gift, I’m going to go away for a weekend by myself. I’m thinking salamander or maybe mandarin oriental in DC."

Is a weekend the same as 2 weeks?

Um no? That’s why I said a weekend. ? That’s what OP is asking for for Christmas and her husband is providing.

But first she asked for two weeks and got a blank stare. Do you think he’ll get a weekend too?