Anyone need a break from their kids?

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Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

This is ridiculous. When they sleep early it is not “a break”. To be completely refreshed you need 24 hrs to yourself without worrying or having to wake up to change diapers or make breakfast. That is a break! A complete one! Nighttime break is not what OP is looking for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The people who are booking hotel rooms for themselves alone should REALLY tell their husbands. When he finds the charges it is not going to be fun convincing him you lied about where you were going so you could be in a hotel room alone.

It's one person, and everyone else thinks they're crazy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

This is ridiculous. When they sleep early it is not “a break”. To be completely refreshed you need 24 hrs to yourself without worrying or having to wake up to change diapers or make breakfast. That is a break! A complete one! Nighttime break is not what OP is looking for.

Op here. DH let me have the night off. I do feel better today but yeah, it is not enough.

As an xmas gift, I’m going to go away for a weekend by myself. I’m thinking salamander or maybe mandarin oriental in DC.

I always knew I would never get 2 weeks. I will take one night.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

This is ridiculous. When they sleep early it is not “a break”. To be completely refreshed you need 24 hrs to yourself without worrying or having to wake up to change diapers or make breakfast. That is a break! A complete one! Nighttime break is not what OP is looking for.

I disagree. From the time they were 6 months forward they slept 7pm - 7am. I got at least 3+ hours to myself each night, and still got over 8 hours of sleep. It absolutely recharged my batteries each day. How can you say this is not a break?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

This is ridiculous. When they sleep early it is not “a break”. To be completely refreshed you need 24 hrs to yourself without worrying or having to wake up to change diapers or make breakfast. That is a break! A complete one! Nighttime break is not what OP is looking for.

I disagree. From the time they were 6 months forward they slept 7pm - 7am. I got at least 3+ hours to myself each night, and still got over 8 hours of sleep. It absolutely recharged my batteries each day. How can you say this is not a break?

Ugh, you're ridiculous. You may not have needed more than that as a "break" (congrats!) but you are clearly low on the emotional intelligence scale, because it's not that hard to recognize that people need different things, live different lives, and have different demands placed upon them. Nearly every other PP has commiserated with OP, and it *is* possible to show sympathy for a situation that you yourself didn't experience (or, on an anonymous board like DCUM, to simply STFU and move on).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

I will say it again in case reading comprehension is hard for you:

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

I will say it again in case reading comprehension is hard for you:

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than [b]the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?[/b]

NO! Because you keep implying I didn’t need breaks. I did and I got them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

I will say it again in case reading comprehension is hard for you:

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

NO! Because you keep implying I didn’t need breaks. I did and I got them!

OMG Go crawl back under the rock you live in. I’m glad you love being a martyr and a doormat. See the bolded if you need even more accolades but just go away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

Yup, I had three kids and knew that I would want a kid free vacation every year. And I got it. To me, preschool and nighttime weren't enough. And guess what? My kids are happy and well adjusted and so are Mom and Dad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

Yup, I had three kids and knew that I would want a kid free vacation every year. And I got it. To me, preschool and nighttime weren't enough. And guess what? My kids are happy and well adjusted and so are Mom and Dad.

Sounds like you have a different support structure than Op. You play the cards you are dealt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

Yup, I had three kids and knew that I would want a kid free vacation every year. And I got it. To me, preschool and nighttime weren't enough. And guess what? My kids are happy and well adjusted and so are Mom and Dad.

Sounds like you have a different support structure than Op. You play the cards you are dealt.

Not really - looks like OP is getting exactly what she wants and is asking for a weekend alone at a hotel for Christmas. DH is her support and he is coming through for her, which is fantastic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

Yup, I had three kids and knew that I would want a kid free vacation every year. And I got it. To me, preschool and nighttime weren't enough. And guess what? My kids are happy and well adjusted and so are Mom and Dad.

Sounds like you have a different support structure than Op. You play the cards you are dealt.

Not really - looks like OP is getting exactly what she wants and is asking for a weekend alone at a hotel for Christmas. DH is her support and he is coming through for her, which is fantastic.

From the Op:

“I told DH I wanted to go away for 2 weeks and be just stared at me blankly.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

Yup, I had three kids and knew that I would want a kid free vacation every year. And I got it. To me, preschool and nighttime weren't enough. And guess what? My kids are happy and well adjusted and so are Mom and Dad.

Sounds like you have a different support structure than Op. You play the cards you are dealt.

Not really - looks like OP is getting exactly what she wants and is asking for a weekend alone at a hotel for Christmas. DH is her support and he is coming through for her, which is fantastic.

From the Op:

“I told DH I wanted to go away for 2 weeks and be just stared at me blankly.”

You need to read ALL the posts or you miss follow ups.

"Op here. DH let me have the night off. I do feel better today but yeah, it is not enough.

As an xmas gift, I’m going to go away for a weekend by myself. I’m thinking salamander or maybe mandarin oriental in DC."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I have not ever understood why people who are so drained/miserable/depleted continue to SAH. It’s not like someone is forcing you to.

Do your kids not go to bed early OP? Do they not nap or go to part time preschool?

You’re ridiculous. Someone can be great at SAH with their kids and still need a break. I think people with a lot of family or paid support don’t understand how difficult it can be for those of us who never get a moment to ourselves.

A TWO week break? And she doesn’t even want to see her husband?? And I repeat, do her children not nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour? I had breaks every single day without family or paid help. If you don’t have breaks you are doing it wrong.

Okay, you’re the BEST SAHM EVER!!! You’re better than the rest of us who need breaks. Are you happy now?

I needed breaks too. Which took - wait for it - when my children were sleeping! Or when they were older they went to morning preschool a couple days a week. No one forced OP to have THREE kids. You can claim ignorance on the first one, and to a lesser degree the second one, but by the third one, you knew what you were getting into.

Yup, I had three kids and knew that I would want a kid free vacation every year. And I got it. To me, preschool and nighttime weren't enough. And guess what? My kids are happy and well adjusted and so are Mom and Dad.

Sounds like you have a different support structure than Op. You play the cards you are dealt.

Not really - looks like OP is getting exactly what she wants and is asking for a weekend alone at a hotel for Christmas. DH is her support and he is coming through for her, which is fantastic.

From the Op:

“I told DH I wanted to go away for 2 weeks and be just stared at me blankly.”

You need to read ALL the posts or you miss follow ups.

"Op here. DH let me have the night off. I do feel better today but yeah, it is not enough.

As an xmas gift, I’m going to go away for a weekend by myself. I’m thinking salamander or maybe mandarin oriental in DC."

Is a weekend the same as 2 weeks?