Sending kid to school where they would be the minority

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids have always been among the only kids of their race in school. (They are white).

When we bought our house, I knew the kids would be zoned for large-majority minority schools. We are all of the same SES though more or less. I thought it would be ok, a good learning experience, etc.

If I had to do it again I would have looked for a school pyramid where at least 25% of the students were white. Being the *only* white kids in their schools has not been a great thing for them and I'm not sure they learned the lessons I would have liked them to learn.

Such as what? I’m dying to know.

I find that my children have more stereotypes of other races, rather than fewer as i would have expected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids have always been among the only kids of their race in school. (They are white).

When we bought our house, I knew the kids would be zoned for large-majority minority schools. We are all of the same SES though more or less. I thought it would be ok, a good learning experience, etc.

If I had to do it again I would have looked for a school pyramid where at least 25% of the students were white. Being the *only* white kids in their schools has not been a great thing for them and I'm not sure they learned the lessons I would have liked them to learn.

Such as what? I’m dying to know.

I find that my children have more stereotypes of other races, rather than fewer as i would have expected.

Are you stupid? So you think having more shire people around would fix that? Sounds like a parenting issue op.

[Anonymous]

Ha white not shire.

[Anonymous]

I think it is important for kids to see kids like them and get that mirroring at school and in their community. It is really hard to be the only person or one of only a few people who look like you do. My kids are asian american (1/4) and we intentionally moved to a diverse area where there are many people who are a mix of things. As pp said, living on a base overseas, your normal is very different. Dh and I both grew up on bases overseas but we had to look for an environment like that in the US.

My kids are happy. Their schools are diverse and their friends represent that.

I have a friend whose ds is one of the few black children at his school. It is hard and I am not sure what I would do in that situation. She is trying to find the right area to move to to make it a better environment for her ds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids have always been among the only kids of their race in school. (They are white).

When we bought our house, I knew the kids would be zoned for large-majority minority schools. We are all of the same SES though more or less. I thought it would be ok, a good learning experience, etc.

If I had to do it again I would have looked for a school pyramid where at least 25% of the students were white. Being the *only* white kids in their schools has not been a great thing for them and I'm not sure they learned the lessons I would have liked them to learn.

Such as what? I’m dying to know.

I find that my children have more stereotypes of other races, rather than fewer as i would have expected.

These are conversations you must have at home. It all starts at home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself. Your child will be fine in a black/brown school. Kids pick on kids sometimes even in schools where the makeup is almost one demographic. The luxury of even having a choice in this matter is the proof of white privilege in case there are any non-believers. Chose to pass on your fragility to your child or don't. I'm sure this fear informs many of your other decisions like who you hire and who you call the police on.

Precisely.

I disagree. There’s a difference between being a minority (not the majority race) and an extreme minority (only 1-2 kids of a particular race). It sucks to be the only one who’s different all the time.

I do agree that having the choice is most often due to white privilege. That doesn’t mean I won’t make the best choice for my child though. She’s used to being a minority at school but not an only.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is one of two or three white kids in her kindergarten class. She is a friendly girl, playful and outgoing so befriends kids easily. Being in the minority has not been an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child is always a minority. So... what’s your question again?

+1

We cannot pass for Blacks, we cannot pass for Whites, we cannot pass for Christians.

[Anonymous]

Extreme minority? Nope. My husband was the only East Asian family in the entire school. Each of the kids got picked on or had negative experiences.

I would want at least 10 percent of people like me. If the class size is 20 kids, at least one other kid that looks unlike the rest.

That is why I chose a house in Fairfax county rather than in the 22207 zip code where my kid would have been the only minority for her race in her class, even though there would be an average of one per class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you send a pre-k or kindergartner to a school where they would be in the extreme minority? Struggling with this as I really like the school but I’m nearly sure they would stick out as the only in their class.

Only Americans obsess over BS like this.

I (and my kids) must be in the extreme minority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not want to send my white kids to a majority black/brown school. At the same time, I hope that the minority kids are having a pleasant experience at our mainly white school.

Why not?

Why should I?