Sending kid to school where they would be the minority

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Children at this age tend not to see differences.

of course they see differences.

Well, yeah, they can tell skin color, but preschoolers and kindergarteners tend to be more accepting of each other. These kids are little, but they are just pure joy:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ElQ1hAjMFmk

Op, i’m white and went to an private/public kindergarten that was 2/3 black. (Long live the experimental 70s.) it was fun and a great experience. It didn’t occur to me at the time that I was the minority. Flip side, in later elementary school, mostly white with a few Asian and black students—who became well adjusted adults. There’s no way of knowing, but the chances are slim that a pre-k program would be scarring for your child. I fully acknowledge that my opinion is based on white privilege and from usually being in the majority skin color.

[Anonymous]

No. My brother did this and it did not work out well.

If the school is amazing, ie very small class sizes or something else that you think is great educationally maybe try for one year can always reevaluate.

Your job as a parent is to educate your child at the best you can, think of it that way. Is the best place for your child at this time?

[Anonymous]

My child attends a very non diverse preschool. He’s multi racial. Has not seemed to bother him at all.

THAT SAID- we recently lived on a military base in Japan. So many kids were a mix of black, Asian, white etc (like my kids are). It was awesome. It was just so amazing for them to just...be like everyone else. Not exotic mixed kids who speak exotic languages. It was normal to be a bit of everything- very wonderful experience and I do wish my little one could grow up like that instead of being “the other”.

[Anonymous]

Hahahaha. More white privilege. As an American-born Asian, neither my parents nor we have ever had the choice.

Get over it. It's not a problem unless you're a white supremacist or racist. If the school is good it doesn't matter what the racial composition is.

[Anonymous]

I am dealing with this issue currently and I have decided against it. However, I would consider it if one of the teachers in the class was from my same minority group.

[Anonymous]

It can be an issue in middle school, but in Kindergarten they are unaware of differences of that nature unless someone tells them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hahahaha. More white privilege. As an American-born Asian, neither my parents nor we have ever had the choice.

Get over it. It's not a problem unless you're a white supremacist or racist. If the school is good it doesn't matter what the racial composition is.

Did OP say they were white?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hahahaha. More white privilege. As an American-born Asian, neither my parents nor we have ever had the choice.

Get over it. It's not a problem unless you're a white supremacist or racist. If the school is good it doesn't matter what the racial composition is.

Did OP say they were white?

Not the PP. It's obvious.

[Anonymous]

Didn’t even occur to me that op might be speaking about her white kids. OMFG OP get a grip your kids will be fine and probably be more informed than you are about diversity. Why on earth would you worry about this? Are you afraid your kids won’t have enough positive white role models. Cuz that’s not a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It can be an issue in middle school, but in Kindergarten they are unaware of differences of that nature unless someone tells them.

You are wrong and spreading this idea is dangerous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son was the only white boy in his K class at a school 95% black/brown. It’s different than being the only black/brown kid in an all-white environment in important ways.

For us, the bigger problem was being the only UMC family when it came to things like community, play dates, birthday parties, etc.

How? A minority is a minority. No one can speak for and represent every single unique experience.

You could be a minority in race, gender, intelligence, wealth, etc. You are the minority if you are not representing the majority of whatever group is in question.

If they can’t learn how to stand out in school, where else will they learn?

It’s different bc my white son has to deal with unconscious assumptions, but they were that he was on grade level, well behaved and had a steady home life. E had role models who looked like him literally everywhere. Schools and other institutions were set up for people like him to succeed. That’s not true of minority races.

[Anonymous]

White parent of white child that went to a school in which DC was one of a handful of white kids. I did notice that when DC drew self portraits, DC made the skin color brown and the hair black. DC is blonde. Other than that, nothing really stands out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Children at this age tend not to see differences.

Incorrect. My child is the only black child in her class - actually in both classes for her grade, but not the only in the school. It was fine last year, but this year she's made a few comments about it. She doesn't view race in the same way that adults do, but I do find myself having to deal with microagressions from some of the other parents (and even a few of their children). I love the school and she does as well, but I will definitely choose a school with more diversity in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I hated being an extreme minority as a kid so I’m not doing that to my kids. Unless it’s a white kid. In that case, I think you get enough positive depictions who look like you just by living in the US, so it’s ok if that doesn’t happen at school.

My child is white and was in the minority (1-2 kids like him in class).
Nobody picked on him but somehow he had few friends.
I thought maybe it was more SES related, but!
He is now at a school with many white and Asian kids and some hispanic kids sprinkled in and his friends are mostly white (some hispanic). I have no idea why that is, but will try to stick to majority white schools just for him to have a good “selection” of friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hahahaha. More white privilege. As an American-born Asian, neither my parents nor we have ever had the choice.

Get over it. It's not a problem unless you're a white supremacist or racist. If the school is good it doesn't matter what the racial composition is.

Did OP say they were white?

Not the PP. It's obvious.

I'm the LOL PP. Yes, it is obvious. First, most non-white minorities don't have the option of switching schools to be in the majority unless you are talking about PG county (where I happen to live) or going to a private school. Even then, it is hard to find a minority majority preschool class outside of PG county.

Bolded PP. You're just being obtuse if you can't figure out that the OP is white.