Husband thinks I need to avoid pineapple

[Anonymous]

Can we go back to talking about pineapples??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Can we go back to talking about pineapples??

Sorry, the subject veered off to coconuts for a bit

I am the Bangladeshi-Am pp and my friends definitely call ourselves brown. It's usually used as a collective/inclusive term when we're talking about Indians, Bangladeshis, Pakistanis together. It's one thing if you yourself are South Asian and born/raised here and haven't used the term, but I feel like it's all non-browns trying to tell us we're not allowed to use a term that we want to use. Why do you think it's your right to criticize our vernacular?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Can we go back to talking about pineapples??

Sorry, the subject veered off to coconuts for a bit

I am the Bangladeshi-Am pp and my friends definitely call ourselves brown. It's usually used as a collective/inclusive term when we're talking about Indians, Bangladeshis, Pakistanis together. It's one thing if you yourself are South Asian and born/raised here and haven't used the term, but I feel like it's all non-browns trying to tell us we're not allowed to use a term that we want to use. Why do you think it's your right to criticize our vernacular?

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Thanks for the entertainment!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Can we go back to talking about pineapples??

Sorry, the subject veered off to coconuts for a bit

I am the Bangladeshi-Am pp and my friends definitely call ourselves brown. It's usually used as a collective/inclusive term when we're talking about Indians, Bangladeshis, Pakistanis together. It's one thing if you yourself are South Asian and born/raised here and haven't used the term, but I feel like it's all non-browns trying to tell us we're not allowed to use a term that we want to use. Why do you think it's your right to criticize our vernacular?

I am just pointing out that it's not as common as you think it is. It's also not accepted around South Asian immigrants or Arabs as much as you think it is. I am married to an immigrant. He's not American and didn't grow up using this. Asians in general as very sensitive to skin color. My SIL is having a hard time finding a partner because her skin is considered too dark for example. If my son wants to call himself brown one day I would have no problem with this. We live in a Hispanic city though. Skin color is not something that comes up. I also don't reference myself as white here. We say we're non Latino. Some Arabs and Latino people are lighter than me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Can we go back to talking about pineapples??

Sorry, the subject veered off to coconuts for a bit

I am the Bangladeshi-Am pp and my friends definitely call ourselves brown. It's usually used as a collective/inclusive term when we're talking about Indians, Bangladeshis, Pakistanis together. It's one thing if you yourself are South Asian and born/raised here and haven't used the term, but I feel like it's all non-browns trying to tell us we're not allowed to use a term that we want to use. Why do you think it's your right to criticize our vernacular?

I am just pointing out that it's not as common as you think it is. It's also not accepted around South Asian immigrants or Arabs as much as you think it is. I am married to an immigrant. He's not American and didn't grow up using this. Asians in general as very sensitive to skin color. My SIL is having a hard time finding a partner because her skin is considered too dark for example. If my son wants to call himself brown one day I would have no problem with this. We live in a Hispanic city though. Skin color is not something that comes up. I also don't reference myself as white here. We say we're non Latino. Some Arabs and Latino people are lighter than me.

Yes, my point was exactly that - "brown" is a term used by predominantly American-born people of South Asian descent, not immigrants and certainly not Arabs. This doesn't even have much to do with our actual skin color, it's just a collective/inclusive term. Brown has lots of shades

We're saying the same thing, so I think we can give the thread back to the pineapple.