5 year old DS said" Mom is Fat"

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Anonymous wrote:My almost four year old asks me if there's a baby in my tummy periodically. I tell her, "Nope! No more babies!"

Mine does this too. I just remind her that all bodies are shaped differently. And honestly I don’t care. I’m much more than what shape my body is or my weight. I’m healthy, and that’s enough for my docotyand me.

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Anonymous wrote:If my kids called me fat, I’d light them up—they need to learn fast and early not to disrespect other people’s appearances—especially a female family member.

I would not ignore it, that’s how we end up with asshole husbands feeling free to call their pregnant wives fat.

What does that mean light them up? To you? As an immigrant I do not understand. Beat them? Scream at them? But, we don't end up with a**hole wives or women like that?! Maybe if people would stop normalizing being overweight, we wouldn't have obesity crisis!

There she is! The lady who teaches her kids to call people FAT.

No, she's the lady who teaches her kids to not be fat.

Does she also teach her kids to be smart and successful by pointing at service workers and calling the stupid? Come on. Teaching your kid to make rude comments is not good parenting. In fact, it's a great way to ensure that your kid will be called into the principal's office. No one likes a bully...

Please. She asked what "light them up" means. It means yell, doesn't it? Or shriek at them. Or beat them. That's your definition of excellent parenting...

I think it means not allowing them to get away with that and taking the time to make sure that they understand that that is not acceptable. Of course you don't attack your child for being rude, you do say something to them, though. Or you don't and...wait until that comes back to bite you.

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Anonymous wrote:My almost four year old asks me if there's a baby in my tummy periodically. I tell her, "Nope! No more babies!"

Mine does this too. I just remind her that all bodies are shaped differently. And honestly I don’t care. I’m much more than what shape my body is or my weight. I’m healthy, and that’s enough for my docotyand me.

My kids do this too. My tummy isn't big or squishy. They just want more brothers and sisters. I tell them, "Nope! No more brothers or sisters!"

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Anonymous wrote:If my kids called me fat, I’d light them up—they need to learn fast and early not to disrespect other people’s appearances—especially a female family member.

I would not ignore it, that’s how we end up with asshole husbands feeling free to call their pregnant wives fat.

What does that mean light them up? To you? As an immigrant I do not understand. Beat them? Scream at them? But, we don't end up with a**hole wives or women like that?! Maybe if people would stop normalizing being overweight, we wouldn't have obesity crisis!

There she is! The lady who teaches her kids to call people FAT.

No, she's the lady who teaches her kids to not be fat.

Does she also teach her kids to be smart and successful by pointing at service workers and calling the stupid? Come on. Teaching your kid to make rude comments is not good parenting. In fact, it's a great way to ensure that your kid will be called into the principal's office. No one likes a bully...

Ha, ha. I am the lady that teaches her kids manners and also doesn't light them up! Common sense is lacking here today. Must be millennial pp above. Maybe you are just overweight and angry? My kids are not fat, nor are DH and I, and my kids have never called anyone fat. But, they were certainly thought about proper eating habits and I cook and now as older teens they know what is healthy and what is not. How come you didn't answer the real question? What does lighting up your kids mean??

I'm not the one who made the "lighting up kids" comment. I do think that there is a vast difference between teaching your kid healthy habits and making disparaging comments about fat people. Nobody wants to hear your precious little tot's opinion about their body. If your kid is pointing to people and calling them fat, old, big boobed or whatever else, you probably need to get a handle on that.

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I am not the "lighting kids up" poster (nor am I millennial) but this is part of teaching your children common decency. Kudos that you taught your kids healthy eating habits but you missed the point of the previous posters. We want to raise kind children right?

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Anonymous wrote:If my kids called me fat, I’d light them up—they need to learn fast and early not to disrespect other people’s appearances—especially a female family member.

I would not ignore it, that’s how we end up with asshole husbands feeling free to call their pregnant wives fat.

What does that mean light them up? To you? As an immigrant I do not understand. Beat them? Scream at them? But, we don't end up with a**hole wives or women like that?! Maybe if people would stop normalizing being overweight, we wouldn't have obesity crisis!

There she is! The lady who teaches her kids to call people FAT.

No, she's the lady who teaches her kids to not be fat.

Does she also teach her kids to be smart and successful by pointing at service workers and calling the stupid? Come on. Teaching your kid to make rude comments is not good parenting. In fact, it's a great way to ensure that your kid will be called into the principal's office. No one likes a bully...

Ha, ha. I am the lady that teaches her kids manners and also doesn't light them up! Common sense is lacking here today. Must be millennial pp above. Maybe you are just overweight and angry? My kids are not fat, nor are DH and I, and my kids have never called anyone fat. But, they were certainly thought about proper eating habits and I cook and now as older teens they know what is healthy and what is not. How come you didn't answer the real question? What does lighting up your kids mean??

I'm not the one who made the "lighting up kids" comment. I do think that there is a vast difference between teaching your kid healthy habits and making disparaging comments about fat people. Nobody wants to hear your precious little tot's opinion about their body. If your kid is pointing to people and calling them fat, old, big boobed or whatever else, you probably need to get a handle on that.

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I am not the "lighting kids up" poster (nor am I millennial) but this is part of teaching your children common decency. Kudos that you taught your kids healthy eating habits but you missed the point of the previous posters. We want to raise kind children right?

DP. I think you missed the point about teaching our children kindness and respect by example. We don't want our children to be a****** husbands or a******wives.

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Kids are jerks, but also OP, I don't think they fully get what they say or really think you're fat. I'm fat. I've gained quite a bit of weight since DS was 3, he's 8 now. Depression, medical issues, and flat out not doing anything about it. I hate that I'm fat, not because I hate fat people but because I know I'm letting myself self-destruct rather than do the right things, but it is what it is. THE point is, my ds has never once called me fat. He calls me squishy or jiggly but I don't self-deprecate in front of him.

Watch how you talk about yourself in front of the kids, and your language about others, and then flat out say: we don't discuss people's bodies in this manner and what you said can be hurtful.

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Anonymous wrote:If my kids called me fat, I’d light them up—they need to learn fast and early not to disrespect other people’s appearances—especially a female family member.

I would not ignore it, that’s how we end up with asshole husbands feeling free to call their pregnant wives fat.

What does that mean light them up? To you? As an immigrant I do not understand. Beat them? Scream at them? But, we don't end up with a**hole wives or women like that?! Maybe if people would stop normalizing being overweight, we wouldn't have obesity crisis!

It’s akin to the same response that I’d have if they looked at you and told you to go back to your own country, or if they said something rude about gay people or people of another color. Needle off the record, time stops, kid is removed from the situation, extremely serious discussion about how that is not acceptable in any form, and yes, if I need to yell to make my point I will. I consider it to be that serious and I want my kid to REMEMBER how serious this stuff is and how it is JUST NOT ACCEPTABLE. But, you don’t understand as you’re too busy judging people.

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Anonymous wrote:If my kids called me fat, I’d light them up—they need to learn fast and early not to disrespect other people’s appearances—especially a female family member.

I would not ignore it, that’s how we end up with asshole husbands feeling free to call their pregnant wives fat.

What does that mean light them up? To you? As an immigrant I do not understand. Beat them? Scream at them? But, we don't end up with a**hole wives or women like that?! Maybe if people would stop normalizing being overweight, we wouldn't have obesity crisis!

It’s akin to the same response that I’d have if they looked at you and told you to go back to your own country, or if they said something rude about gay people or people of another color. Needle off the record, time stops, kid is removed from the situation, extremely serious discussion about how that is not acceptable in any form, and yes, if I need to yell to make my point I will. I consider it to be that serious and I want my kid to REMEMBER how serious this stuff is and how it is JUST NOT ACCEPTABLE. But, you don’t understand as you’re too busy judging people.

Yes, this. +100

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Anonymous wrote:If my kids called me fat, I’d light them up—they need to learn fast and early not to disrespect other people’s appearances—especially a female family member.

I would not ignore it, that’s how we end up with asshole husbands feeling free to call their pregnant wives fat.

What does that mean light them up? To you? As an immigrant I do not understand. Beat them? Scream at them? But, we don't end up with a**hole wives or women like that?! Maybe if people would stop normalizing being overweight, we wouldn't have obesity crisis!

It’s akin to the same response that I’d have if they looked at you and told you to go back to your own country, or if they said something rude about gay people or people of another color. Needle off the record, time stops, kid is removed from the situation, extremely serious discussion about how that is not acceptable in any form, and yes, if I need to yell to make my point I will. I consider it to be that serious and I want my kid to REMEMBER how serious this stuff is and how it is JUST NOT ACCEPTABLE. But, you don’t understand as you’re too busy judging people.

Yes, this. +100

Yep.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid jiggles my belly and says "now, we have to do something about this." Little asshole is right. Just learn to laugh about it. Seems like you're doing a great job.

Dp. Thanks for the laugh!

It’s not cute or funny. Teach your child it’s not ok to comment negatively on others’ appearance. By normalizing or ignoring it you are raising a future bully.

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Anonymous wrote:My almost four year old asks me if there's a baby in my tummy periodically. I tell her, "Nope! No more babies!"

Mine does the same. I say no I’m just fat...smile then move on

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Anonymous wrote:My almost four year old asks me if there's a baby in my tummy periodically. I tell her, "Nope! No more babies!"

Mine does the same. I say no I’m just fat...smile then move on

Funny and cute now but in 3 years it won't be. Hopefully you explain to her at some point why.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid jiggles my belly and says "now, we have to do something about this." Little asshole is right. Just learn to laugh about it. Seems like you're doing a great job.

Dp. Thanks for the laugh!

It’s not cute or funny. Teach your child it’s not ok to comment negatively on others’ appearance. By normalizing or ignoring it you are raising a future bully.

Poor Momma. Getting bullied by a 5 year old.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid jiggles my belly and says "now, we have to do something about this." Little asshole is right. Just learn to laugh about it. Seems like you're doing a great job.

Dp. Thanks for the laugh!

It’s not cute or funny. Teach your child it’s not ok to comment negatively on others’ appearance. By normalizing or ignoring it you are raising a future bully.

Poor Momma. Getting bullied by a 5 year old.

Exibit A, ladies and gentlemen.