career or home school

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you for replies. Yes, I don’t want to waste my kids time. I will consider private, but it’s not even about school quality, but that I feel I don’t want them not going at their pace,faster or slower, which is what any school requires.

Are you going to homeschool them through college, too? Life moves faster, or slower, than we'd all like it to sometimes. Get your kids used to it. And by the way, our private differentiates kids for all subjects and helps them speed up or slow down depending on what they need. You seem very clueless.

OP is going to join her kids at their place of employment just to mela sure their time there is no wasted. they are very special!

You sound jealous and Ill informed. Also very immature. The early years, young ones thrive in that flexibility. By 18,they will be ready for college like everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Teacher here- in my experience you definitely don’t need an education background to homeschool your kids well. I would recommend going through state so your kids can participate in end of year testing to see if they’re on track. When kids have freedom to learn and explore based on interests they flourish. So much of school, especially middle school, is social centered in kids minds, it’s nice to not have that social peer pressure. This is such a great area to homeschool in and great school options, whatever you choose as long as your kids best interest is at heart (ask them their opinion often!) they and you will do great!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teacher here- in my experience you definitely don’t need an education background to homeschool your kids well. I would recommend going through state so your kids can participate in end of year testing to see if they’re on track. When kids have freedom to learn and explore based on interests they flourish. So much of school, especially middle school, is social centered in kids minds, it’s nice to not have that social peer pressure. This is such a great area to homeschool in and great school options, whatever you choose as long as your kids best interest is at heart (ask them their opinion often!) they and you will do great!

Thank you for chiming in.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you for replies. Yes, I don’t want to waste my kids time. I will consider private, but it’s not even about school quality, but that I feel I don’t want them not going at their pace,faster or slower, which is what any school requires.

Are you going to homeschool them through college, too? Life moves faster, or slower, than we'd all like it to sometimes. Get your kids used to it. And by the way, our private differentiates kids for all subjects and helps them speed up or slow down depending on what they need. You seem very clueless.

OP is going to join her kids at their place of employment just to mela sure their time there is no wasted. they are very special!

You sound jealous and Ill informed. Also very immature. The early years, young ones thrive in that flexibility. By 18,they will be ready for college like everyone else.

you sound dumb.

[Anonymous]

I do alum interviews for kids applying to college _ DO NOT homeschool. ONE of the few truly negative reviews I gave was to a homeschooled girl, and I felt bad blaming her for decision her parents made. She bragged to me about how gifted she was, especially in math _ had to start taking classes at NOVA Community College because her parents couldn't keep up with her, she was so much smarter than all her community college classmates etc.

We can access their SAT scores _ I have never done it in 10 years of interviewing except with this girl _ hers were sh!t in math (and verbal too). I felt so bad for her _ living this deluded existence because she'd never been exposed to the real world or sat next to kids who were truly gifted in math etc etc. She was sweet but there were so many issues that a few years of being surrounded by peers could have taken care of for her. Her dad was a big donor alum, was sure she would get in anyway _ she didn't. Don't do this to your kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I want to know where your money is going that you cannot afford a good Montessori or another private placement on 240k a year. There are bigger problems here.

privates in this area are northward of 35k/year .... 240k HHI does not support that for 2 kids.

Seriously!!! Some posters are clueless or they haven’t thought through the numbers. Houses now in good districts are 750k at a minimum. Property taxes alone come close to $10k. Just the housing costs are crazy high here. Our HHI is about $200k and we couldn’t do one private comfortably. You need more funds to keep up with the extra than just being able to barely afford tuition.

Reading comprehension fail. The advice was to EITHER move to a better school district OR stay in the current shit district and send the kids to private. NOT both. Who is clueless now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do alum interviews for kids applying to college _ DO NOT homeschool. ONE of the few truly negative reviews I gave was to a homeschooled girl, and I felt bad blaming her for decision her parents made. She bragged to me about how gifted she was, especially in math _ had to start taking classes at NOVA Community College because her parents couldn't keep up with her, she was so much smarter than all her community college classmates etc.

We can access their SAT scores _ I have never done it in 10 years of interviewing except with this girl _ hers were sh!t in math (and verbal too). I felt so bad for her _ living this deluded existence because she'd never been exposed to the real world or sat next to kids who were truly gifted in math etc etc. She was sweet but there were so many issues that a few years of being surrounded by peers could have taken care of for her. Her dad was a big donor alum, was sure she would get in anyway _ she didn't. Don't do this to your kids.

That is one story.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I want to know where your money is going that you cannot afford a good Montessori or another private placement on 240k a year. There are bigger problems here.

privates in this area are northward of 35k/year .... 240k HHI does not support that for 2 kids.

Seriously!!! Some posters are clueless or they haven’t thought through the numbers. Houses now in good districts are 750k at a minimum. Property taxes alone come close to $10k. Just the housing costs are crazy high here. Our HHI is about $200k and we couldn’t do one private comfortably. You need more funds to keep up with the extra than just being able to barely afford tuition.

Reading comprehension fail. The advice was to EITHER move to a better school district OR stay in the current shit district and send the kids to private. NOT both. Who is clueless now?

A third choice: homeschool and spend your money on classes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want to know where your money is going that you cannot afford a good Montessori or another private placement on 240k a year. There are bigger problems here.

privates in this area are northward of 35k/year .... 240k HHI does not support that for 2 kids.

Seriously!!! Some posters are clueless or they haven’t thought through the numbers. Houses now in good districts are 750k at a minimum. Property taxes alone come close to $10k. Just the housing costs are crazy high here. Our HHI is about $200k and we couldn’t do one private comfortably. You need more funds to keep up with the extra than just being able to barely afford tuition.

Reading comprehension fail. The advice was to EITHER move to a better school district OR stay in the current shit district and send the kids to private. NOT both. Who is clueless now?

A third choice: homeschool and spend your money on classes.

Except for OP it is not a choice - without her income their financial position changes drastically downward. There wont be money for classes. or for travel. or for retirement. or for college. Unless these are covered by grandparents somehow.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you for replies. Yes, I don’t want to waste my kids time. I will consider private, but it’s not even about school quality, but that I feel I don’t want them not going at their pace,faster or slower, which is what any school requires.

Are you going to homeschool them through college, too? Life moves faster, or slower, than we'd all like it to sometimes. Get your kids used to it. And by the way, our private differentiates kids for all subjects and helps them speed up or slow down depending on what they need. You seem very clueless.

OP is going to join her kids at their place of employment just to mela sure their time there is no wasted. they are very special!

You sound jealous and Ill informed. Also very immature. The early years, young ones thrive in that flexibility. By 18,they will be ready for college like everyone else.

you sound dumb.

Not the PP you are responding to but you really sound very childish. What an immature response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being educated and being able to educate young kids are very very different things. You may not realize this because your kids are not in school yet.

+ 1

My sister did this and I think it did the kids a disservice. They did not get the reading help they needed early on. My nephew is now in public school and reads and writes a few grade levels below many of his peers.

[Anonymous]

I thought about homeschooling my kids and I am so glad I did not. The public school caught a subtle dyslexia issue I didn't even know to look for. DC is now getting services that I didn't even imagine DC needed. I am sure I would have eventually figured it out, but it would have been too late at that point.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in an amazing point of opportunity in my career, and have two young kids. Really have a chance to excel within my organization, but it's not like, a passion, I guess. But I think I could do a better job raising my kids than anyone else, and don't believe the education they'd get at public school would be good quality, and private school is very expensive and still probably not as good as home schooling if I devote all my energy into my kids instead of my high demanding job. But giving up my salary would mean a significant impact on our quality of life/what we could save. We'd be able to do it, but without my 100K incomes, we'd be making about 140k (this includes rental income). How to make this decision? Nothing more important to invest in than my kids, right?

I'm in education. It's incredibly hard for any one person, no matter how talented to replicate what a school does. A school allows your children to establish relationships with a large group of diverse peers. To learn how to build on others' ideas, negotiate, discuss, debate, and communicate to people who may not see eye to eye with you. To work with various adult role models, who model different ways of being in the world -- different modes of coping with problems and life situations. Homeschooling means limiting your children to your own perspective on things (supplemented occasionally by various outings and classes, which don't substitute for the kinds of relationships they would have in school. It also risks depriving them of finding a peer group to which they belong. For elementary aged students, belonging to a community beyond the family is a very important step of development. I think if you have a church or something like that in which you're raising the kids this might be a different story, but otherwise I think a decent school could do a much better job on all fronts.

I also sense a bit of all or nothing in your post. I think you need to step back a bit and look at whether your ideals in either domain, work or home, are realistic. I know several homeschool parents who find the job rather high burnout, especially if they have sky high expectations of replicating an entire mini-culture or world in the confines of their home. I understand your frustration with the educational options available to you. I suggest investing your money in a really good home library, developmentally appropriate art area, and outdoor play area. Most homeschoolers I know have their kids reading and/or playing outdoors most of the day anyway so by providing that enriched environment you are showing your children that you value their education.

Great response!!

I am a teacher who was getting ready to respond something similar, glad to see you've handled it.

No kid who is home schooled is better off than any kid who went to a regular school, whether private or public. It is an artificial learning environment hat doesn't encourage real learning and growth.

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I really like the thought you express, "Nothing more important than investing in my kids, right?" With the skills that you have, that are so valuable in the marketplace, you will be such an asset to your children's education. Mom, I think you are on your way. Sounds like you and your husband have used your income wisely and made investments i.e. income property. These are some blessed children to have you as parents. What a wonderful adventure is ahead for your family.

[Anonymous]

Uh... move a few miles to Fairfax County. Enjoy quality public schools. You should be able to manage on $240k a year.