Best place/way to give cats to new home

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Don't come when called.

After this comment, I have doubts that you have had cats before.

I've had cats all my life, some cuddly and some completely aloof. None of them come when called. They're not dogs.

Let me clue you in a little about our friends Felis Catus OP, as you sound like you have VERY unrealistic expectations when it comes to your cats.

In a nutshell; cats are self centered, stuck up, entitled & downright haughty.

If I ever tried to make one of my cats come on command by calling their name, I'll tell you exactly what would happen...

First, they'd glare up at me in utter disbelief and utilize the scowl of animosity & loathing for daring to interrupt them during one of their 9 hour groom-a-thon baths. In perfect unison, they'd roll their eyes HARD at one another, silently judging me & wondering if I'm being obtuse for making such a ridiculous attempt. Then comes the ol' squinted side eye, as they try to determine whether I'd smacked my head on the pavement to even make such an ill fated request. Finally, they'll give me the middle finger, toss their food bowl at my head & silently comiserate with one another just how rough they have it & why is good help so hard to come by?

Look op, cats are b!tches who come on their own time & not a millisecond sooner.
Are you telling me that you've owned not one, but multiple cats who come on command? Come on.

It sounds like you're grasping at straws looking for reasons, especially since you have your perfect dog now.

If you wanted them to come or play, you should've bought them that cat toy with the long stick & feathers dangling down from the end of it. No cats can resist playing with that... even if it's for just a few minutes.

Sorry, but it sounds like you expected them to make ALL the effort by pro-actively coming to you.
You had unrealistic expectations and YOU set them up for failure.

They never even had a chance, did they?

You really are some kind of stupid loser. I feel so bad for any animal that has to live in your house prison.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The cats are probably a bit on the feral side and never properly bonded with humans as kittens. That’s soemthing that can’t be fixed.

Eh - we brought home a semi feral cat from the street and she’s lovely. Sure, she doesn’t like being picked up (who cares? ) but she likes snuggling plenty.
She’s a lovely little being.
As long as you’re not a self centered asshole you will bond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Don't come when called.

After this comment, I have doubts that you have had cats before.

I've had cats all my life, some cuddly and some completely aloof. None of them come when called. They're not dogs.

Let me clue you in a little about our friends Felis Catus OP, as you sound like you have VERY unrealistic expectations when it comes to your cats.

In a nutshell; cats are self centered, stuck up, entitled & downright haughty.

If I ever tried to make one of my cats come on command by calling their name, I'll tell you exactly what would happen...

First, they'd glare up at me in utter disbelief and utilize the scowl of animosity & loathing for daring to interrupt them during one of their 9 hour groom-a-thon baths. In perfect unison, they'd roll their eyes HARD at one another, silently judging me & wondering if I'm being obtuse for making such a ridiculous attempt. Then comes the ol' squinted side eye, as they try to determine whether I'd smacked my head on the pavement to even make such an ill fated request. Finally, they'll give me the middle finger, toss their food bowl at my head & silently comiserate with one another just how rough they have it & why is good help so hard to come by?

Look op, cats are b!tches who come on their own time & not a millisecond sooner.
Are you telling me that you've owned not one, but multiple cats who come on command? Come on.

It sounds like you're grasping at straws looking for reasons, especially since you have your perfect dog now.

If you wanted them to come or play, you should've bought them that cat toy with the long stick & feathers dangling down from the end of it. No cats can resist playing with that... even if it's for just a few minutes.

Sorry, but it sounds like you expected them to make ALL the effort by pro-actively coming to you.
You had unrealistic expectations and YOU set them up for failure.

They never even had a chance, did they?

You really are some kind of stupid loser. I feel so bad for any animal that has to live in your house prison .

I meant that wackball idiot woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever had cats before? They are not dogs. Just because they don't let you hold them doesn't mean they're not bonded to you. That said, it sounds like you really don't care about them, so I would look at surrendering them to one of the many rescue organizations around here. We got our two cats from Lost Dog and Cat Rescue - they are a great organization.

Op here. Hoping to meet the actual person(s) they would go to, so I don't want to resort to giving them to a rescue org. We got them from a rescue org, one that misled us into believing the cats 'would come around' to being loving.

This is such a strange statement and one I have a hard time understanding a rescue org would say. I would think they might have said they wouldn't been so skittish or scared after awhile, but loving? You can never guarantee that with cats. They love you in their own way, but not all cats will love to be held, sit on your lap, sleep with you. It just isn't how cats are.

OP here. I've had cats my whole life and this is the first time I've ever had any who were not loving. The dog doesn't like them, but he is not a danger to them. I just think they would be happier in a calmer house. Kids don't help the situationa either, but can't get rid of them! lol. The rescue org we got them from absolutely did mislead us. I'm sure they do great work otherwise, but they shouldn't have told us the cats would warm up after a few months, etc.

You were extraordinarily lucky then.

I think you’re taking the cats’ behavior personally rather than recognizing that they are cats acting like cats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with PP: take a drive out to the country, and leave them near a farm. They sound like excellent barn cats.

That is sentencing them to death. Worst advice ever and cruel to boot. Op, I think you suck—if you get an animal you make a lifetime commitment—but since you don’t care about your commitment to the cats at least honor your contractual obligation, suck up your embarrassment, and return them to the rescue group where hopefully they will be rehomed to a better person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:np here. people are being so mean to the OP. With you all around, why would anyone try and adopt a cat vs. getting a purebreed kitten? You bashers need to think about the consequences of your criticisms, as you are not helping the pet adoption situation.

OP gave them a chance and they are not working out in the household. She's trying to do what's right for her household AND not take the easy way out--she's also trying to do what's right for the cats.

I applaud you, OP. Let us know what you decide to do.

People like OP that I know who have adopted from breeders have just as many complaints and are out $800 to boot. A breeder can’t guarantee an affectionate cat either.

[Anonymous]

Actually, it is illegal to abandon a pet.

https://resources.lawinfo.com/insurance/pet-law/iowa/is-it-illegal-to-abandon-my-dog-or-cat.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Don't come when called.

After this comment, I have doubts that you have had cats before.

I've had cats all my life, some cuddly and some completely aloof. None of them come when called. They're not dogs.

Let me clue you in a little about our friends Felis Catus OP, as you sound like you have VERY unrealistic expectations when it comes to your cats.

In a nutshell; cats are self centered, stuck up, entitled & downright haughty.

If I ever tried to make one of my cats come on command by calling their name, I'll tell you exactly what would happen...

First, they'd glare up at me in utter disbelief and utilize the scowl of animosity & loathing for daring to interrupt them during one of their 9 hour groom-a-thon baths. In perfect unison, they'd roll their eyes HARD at one another, silently judging me & wondering if I'm being obtuse for making such a ridiculous attempt. Then comes the ol' squinted side eye, as they try to determine whether I'd smacked my head on the pavement to even make such an ill fated request. Finally, they'll give me the middle finger, toss their food bowl at my head & silently comiserate with one another just how rough they have it & why is good help so hard to come by?

Look op, cats are b!tches who come on their own time & not a millisecond sooner.
Are you telling me that you've owned not one, but multiple cats who come on command? Come on.

It sounds like you're grasping at straws looking for reasons, especially since you have your perfect dog now.

If you wanted them to come or play, you should've bought them that cat toy with the long stick & feathers dangling down from the end of it. No cats can resist playing with that... even if it's for just a few minutes.

Sorry, but it sounds like you expected them to make ALL the effort by pro-actively coming to you.
You had unrealistic expectations and YOU set them up for failure.

They never even had a chance, did they?

You really are some kind of stupid loser. I feel so bad for any animal that has to live in your house prison .

I meant that wackball idiot woman.

Wait.. are you talking about the OP being a stupid loser?

I'm confused.

I actually got a laugh out of the pp's description of what her cats would do if she ever tried to get them to come to her by calling their name. It could have been written by me about my asshole cats too, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I think you suck—if you get an animal you make a lifetime commitment—but since you don’t care about your commitment to the cats at least honor your contractual obligation, suck up your embarrassment, and return them to the rescue group where hopefully they will be rehomed to a better person.

I don't agree with this, about the lifetime commitment. And I'm a person who is totally committed to my animals. However; I think when you adopt, there has to be a fit, and there needs to be a "try-out" period. OP was told the cats would warm up to her, so she in a sense, was led to extend the "try-out" period and has finally realized it's not working.

If people are told they must commit for life any animal they adopt, then they will not adopt; they will go to a breeder. Yes, many of us know that it can be a crapshoot buying from a breeder as well, but *most* people have a perception that a random kitten from a breeder is a safer bet than the adult cat in front of their eyes.

C'mon people; let's get people to want to rescue; and ripping on OP is not the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I think you suck—if you get an animal you make a lifetime commitment—but since you don’t care about your commitment to the cats at least honor your contractual obligation, suck up your embarrassment, and return them to the rescue group where hopefully they will be rehomed to a better person.

I don't agree with this, about the lifetime commitment. And I'm a person who is totally committed to my animals. However; I think when you adopt, there has to be a fit, and there needs to be a "try-out" period. OP was told the cats would warm up to her, so she in a sense, was led to extend the "try-out" period and has finally realized it's not working.

If people are told they must commit for life any animal they adopt, then they will not adopt; they will go to a breeder. Yes, many of us know that it can be a crapshoot buying from a breeder as well, but *most* people have a perception that a random kitten from a breeder is a safer bet than the adult cat in front of their eyes.

C'mon people; let's get people to want to rescue; and ripping on OP is not the way.

I disagree. It is irresponsible to adopt a cute little puppy or kitten and then dump them past the cute stage because you haven’t put in the work or they no longer fit your lifestyle. Adult animals are hard to place and it is cruel to abandon them to start over. People like op suck. She found a replacement animal-who she may or may not dump in a few years. If you can’t make the commitment don’t adopt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I think you suck—if you get an animal you make a lifetime commitment—but since you don’t care about your commitment to the cats at least honor your contractual obligation, suck up your embarrassment, and return them to the rescue group where hopefully they will be rehomed to a better person.

I don't agree with this, about the lifetime commitment. And I'm a person who is totally committed to my animals. However; I think when you adopt, there has to be a fit, and there needs to be a "try-out" period. OP was told the cats would warm up to her, so she in a sense, was led to extend the "try-out" period and has finally realized it's not working.

If people are told they must commit for life any animal they adopt, then they will not adopt; they will go to a breeder. Yes, many of us know that it can be a crapshoot buying from a breeder as well, but *most* people have a perception that a random kitten from a breeder is a safer bet than the adult cat in front of their eyes.

C'mon people; let's get people to want to rescue; and ripping on OP is not the way.

I disagree. It is irresponsible to adopt a cute little puppy or kitten and then dump them past the cute stage because you haven’t put in the work or they no longer fit your lifestyle. Adult animals are hard to place and it is cruel to abandon them to start over. People like op suck. She found a replacement animal-who she may or may not dump in a few years. If you can’t make the commitment don’t adopt.

So people shouldn't even try? The animals should just be left at the shelters were they would be euthanized?

[Anonymous]

Have you talked about this with a good vet?

You really do not seem to have a reasonable expectation of cat behavior, or pet ownership in general.

These animals of yours don't do their business on your rugs, don't scratch or bite, don't need daily and complicated meds, haven't cost you a fortune in vet bills, yet you want to upend their life because they are too aloof.

You are treating them as if they are disposable. It's really very sad.

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for your cat’s OP. You should have left them at the rescue so they could have been adopted by someone better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I think you suck—if you get an animal you make a lifetime commitment—but since you don’t care about your commitment to the cats at least honor your contractual obligation, suck up your embarrassment, and return them to the rescue group where hopefully they will be rehomed to a better person.

I don't agree with this, about the lifetime commitment. And I'm a person who is totally committed to my animals. However; I think when you adopt, there has to be a fit, and there needs to be a "try-out" period. OP was told the cats would warm up to her, so she in a sense, was led to extend the "try-out" period and has finally realized it's not working.

If people are told they must commit for life any animal they adopt, then they will not adopt; they will go to a breeder. Yes, many of us know that it can be a crapshoot buying from a breeder as well, but *most* people have a perception that a random kitten from a breeder is a safer bet than the adult cat in front of their eyes.

C'mon people; let's get people to want to rescue; and ripping on OP is not the way.

It's different to adopt a cat, bring it home and find out that for some reason it is just not going to work (allergies, bad fit for kids, whatever) and you have to return the cat to the rescue within a few days. But to hold onto an animal for years and then complain because the animal has never really warmed up to you...although, admittedly, you haven't really put forth much effort yourself in helping the animal adapt to you/your home - that's sort of sad. You've been hands off with the cat for years, not bothering to coax it out, not bothering to play with it or give it attention and you are shocked, *shocked* that the animal has never gotten used to you or being handled? And you are talking about 2 cats. Neither one of these animals have worked out for you?

Have you ever once tried contacting the rescue to get advice? I am not trying to rip on you Op but I do see adopting an animal to be a commitment and I wonder what you have done to try to honor that commitment to these cats. Going from a home they've lived in for years is going to be stressful for most animals. And these particular cats sound pretty timid already.

FWIW, I'm a dog person big time and I can't have cats because my dogs don't want them....you can see who calls the shots in my house, right? At any rate, I'm just surprised that you would adopt 2 cats and then decide that "eh, I'd rather have a dog".

[Anonymous]

Dogs need A LOT more time, training and attention than cats do. They require a sitter or quality boarding facility if you go out of town for the weekend. They need consistent training every day.

I don't think you want a dog, Op. I think you would be pretty much destined to have behavioral issues. I would strongly advise you to reconsider getting a dog.