Best place/way to give cats to new home

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever had cats before? They are not dogs. Just because they don't let you hold them doesn't mean they're not bonded to you. That said, it sounds like you really don't care about them, so I would look at surrendering them to one of the many rescue organizations around here. We got our two cats from Lost Dog and Cat Rescue - they are a great organization.


Op here. Hoping to meet the actual person(s) they would go to, so I don't want to resort to giving them to a rescue org. We got them from a rescue org, one that misled us into believing the cats 'would come around' to being loving.


This is such a strange statement and one I have a hard time understanding a rescue org would say. I would think they might have said they wouldn't been so skittish or scared after awhile, but loving? You can never guarantee that with cats. They love you in their own way, but not all cats will love to be held, sit on your lap, sleep with you. It just isn't how cats are.


OP here. I've had cats my whole life and this is the first time I've ever had any who were not loving. The dog doesn't like them, but he is not a danger to them. I just think they would be happier in a calmer house. Kids don't help the situationa either, but can't get rid of them! lol. The rescue org we got them from absolutely did mislead us. I'm sure they do great work otherwise, but they shouldn't have told us the cats would warm up after a few months, etc.


OP, I am trying hard to sympathize with you, but if you've had cats your whole life, you should know that all cats are not loving. What exactly do you mean by that? DO they want to be around you at all? Maybe they are scared of the dog? I have also had cats my whole life (probably 7-8 total) and they have been varying degrees of affectionate. Some would sleep with me and sit on my lap, some preferred just to be in the same room. One was like a dog and followed us everywhere. The two cats I have now go through stages of "lovingness". Sometimes they snuggle, but neither of them particularly likes to be held.


I's exactly what I said. I've literally only had cats who were very loving (ie, let me hold them, slept in bed, etc., etc). This is my first experience with un-loving cats. We had them for 2+years before getting the dog (mostly so the kids would have a good pet experience since the cats were not working out in that regard.) Jesus, you people act like I am planning to murder the cats in the middle of the night.


I don't think you are, but you seem very blase about getting rid of these two animals that have lived with you since they were kittens, because "they're not loving enough". It makes no sense and it's selfish, but it sounds like you don't want them anyway, so it's better to try to find them a new home. You still haven't said anything about the cats and how they act and what you do to interact with them - are they hiding all the time in another room?


Exactly...hiding under a bed all day. Don't come when called. Recoil from attempts to touch. One will let you pet him for a minute or so. The other is practically feral.


OK, this is completely different than not loving. These cats are scared or traumatized. They have been hiding under your bed for 3 years? I understand your frustration, OP, but like many others have said, the rescue should have called a long time ago.
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Anonymous wrote:We need to give our two rescue cats away. This was not an easy decision, but it's time. They are 3-years-old (two males) and we just never bonded with them. They came from a hoarder home apparently and so they don't love humans. One of them finally came around a little bit after two years, but the other one won't let me pick him up. They do love each other very much and we will not break them up. We just want to find them a nice home as we got a dog that we have bonded with and he doesn't get along with the cats very much. I think a home with an older couple would be perfect. My question is: Where/how should I attempt to find the right home? Thanks for any advice.
You've invested over two years with them and I'm sure you did your best, so don't let the negative comments affect you. Just think, these cats might well have been euthanized if you hadn't rescued them years ago.


First way that I would try to rehome them is at work, by putting up a sign in the breakroom or lunchroom. If that didn't work then the rescue shelter is a good idea. I would be fearful of advertising them on Craigslist because you never know where the cats will end up.


This is crazy. If she's had the cats for 3 years and they're still recoiling at her touch and hiding under the bed, what other person is going to want them? She can't just hand them over to her co-worker. The rescue needs them back.
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Anonymous wrote:We need to give our two rescue cats away. This was not an easy decision, but it's time. They are 3-years-old (two males) and we just never bonded with them. They came from a hoarder home apparently and so they don't love humans. One of them finally came around a little bit after two years, but the other one won't let me pick him up. They do love each other very much and we will not break them up. We just want to find them a nice home as we got a dog that we have bonded with and he doesn't get along with the cats very much. I think a home with an older couple would be perfect. My question is: Where/how should I attempt to find the right home? Thanks for any advice.
You've invested over two years with them and I'm sure you did your best, so don't let the negative comments affect you. Just think, these cats might well have been euthanized if you hadn't rescued them years ago.


First way that I would try to rehome them is at work, by putting up a sign in the breakroom or lunchroom. If that didn't work then the rescue shelter is a good idea. I would be fearful of advertising them on Craigslist because you never know where the cats will end up.


This is crazy. If she's had the cats for 3 years and they're still recoiling at her touch and hiding under the bed, what other person is going to want them? She can't just hand them over to her co-worker. The rescue needs them back.
OK, I didn't see the post where they mentioned the cats recoiling. However a co-worker or someone that she could find may not mind having a cat that just wants to be left alone. Some people may put up with an unsociable cat rather than see it euthanized. Whatever the OP decides, I hope they do it soon and are not made to feel guilty by others. They tried for over two years, it didn't work out so move on. They haven't abandoned the cats or anything like that.
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Anonymous wrote:We need to give our two rescue cats away. This was not an easy decision, but it's time. They are 3-years-old (two males) and we just never bonded with them. They came from a hoarder home apparently and so they don't love humans. One of them finally came around a little bit after two years, but the other one won't let me pick him up. They do love each other very much and we will not break them up. We just want to find them a nice home as we got a dog that we have bonded with and he doesn't get along with the cats very much. I think a home with an older couple would be perfect. My question is: Where/how should I attempt to find the right home? Thanks for any advice.
You've invested over two years with them and I'm sure you did your best, so don't let the negative comments affect you. Just think, these cats might well have been euthanized if you hadn't rescued them years ago.


First way that I would try to rehome them is at work, by putting up a sign in the breakroom or lunchroom. If that didn't work then the rescue shelter is a good idea. I would be fearful of advertising them on Craigslist because you never know where the cats will end up.


Thank you...that is good advice!
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Anonymous wrote:We need to give our two rescue cats away. This was not an easy decision, but it's time. They are 3-years-old (two males) and we just never bonded with them. They came from a hoarder home apparently and so they don't love humans. One of them finally came around a little bit after two years, but the other one won't let me pick him up. They do love each other very much and we will not break them up. We just want to find them a nice home as we got a dog that we have bonded with and he doesn't get along with the cats very much. I think a home with an older couple would be perfect. My question is: Where/how should I attempt to find the right home? Thanks for any advice.
You've invested over two years with them and I'm sure you did your best, so don't let the negative comments affect you. Just think, these cats might well have been euthanized if you hadn't rescued them years ago.


First way that I would try to rehome them is at work, by putting up a sign in the breakroom or lunchroom. If that didn't work then the rescue shelter is a good idea. I would be fearful of advertising them on Craigslist because you never know where the cats will end up.


This is crazy. If she's had the cats for 3 years and they're still recoiling at her touch and hiding under the bed, what other person is going to want them? She can't just hand them over to her co-worker. The rescue needs them back.
OK, I didn't see the post where they mentioned the cats recoiling. However a co-worker or someone that she could find may not mind having a cat that just wants to be left alone. Some people may put up with an unsociable cat rather than see it euthanized. Whatever the OP decides, I hope they do it soon and are not made to feel guilty by others. They tried for over two years, it didn't work out so move on. They haven't abandoned the cats or anything like that.


OP here. Right, I want to find a home with older folks perhaps who don't mind aloof cats.
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Anonymous wrote:We need to give our two rescue cats away. This was not an easy decision, but it's time. They are 3-years-old (two males) and we just never bonded with them. They came from a hoarder home apparently and so they don't love humans. One of them finally came around a little bit after two years, but the other one won't let me pick him up. They do love each other very much and we will not break them up. We just want to find them a nice home as we got a dog that we have bonded with and he doesn't get along with the cats very much. I think a home with an older couple would be perfect. My question is: Where/how should I attempt to find the right home? Thanks for any advice.
You've invested over two years with them and I'm sure you did your best, so don't let the negative comments affect you. Just think, these cats might well have been euthanized if you hadn't rescued them years ago.


First way that I would try to rehome them is at work, by putting up a sign in the breakroom or lunchroom. If that didn't work then the rescue shelter is a good idea. I would be fearful of advertising them on Craigslist because you never know where the cats will end up.


This is crazy. If she's had the cats for 3 years and they're still recoiling at her touch and hiding under the bed, what other person is going to want them? She can't just hand them over to her co-worker. The rescue needs them back.
OK, I didn't see the post where they mentioned the cats recoiling. However a co-worker or someone that she could find may not mind having a cat that just wants to be left alone. Some people may put up with an unsociable cat rather than see it euthanized. Whatever the OP decides, I hope they do it soon and are not made to feel guilty by others. They tried for over two years, it didn't work out so move on. They haven't abandoned the cats or anything like that.


OP here. Right, I want to find a home with older folks perhaps who don't mind aloof cats.


Oh, FFS. Nobody WANTS cats that hide under the bed all day and act feral. You might as well ask people to adopt a pair of raccoons. You failed to return these cats within a reasonable amount of time, and then you went ahead and brought a dog into the house, which no doubt made everything worse. Don't fob these cats off on some poor old person. Trust me, I know it sucks to have a bad cat--I have an outside the box shitter, but I would never in the world try to rehome him and give this headache to some other person.
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Anonymous wrote:We need to give our two rescue cats away. This was not an easy decision, but it's time. They are 3-years-old (two males) and we just never bonded with them. They came from a hoarder home apparently and so they don't love humans. One of them finally came around a little bit after two years, but the other one won't let me pick him up. They do love each other very much and we will not break them up. We just want to find them a nice home as we got a dog that we have bonded with and he doesn't get along with the cats very much. I think a home with an older couple would be perfect. My question is: Where/how should I attempt to find the right home? Thanks for any advice.
You've invested over two years with them and I'm sure you did your best, so don't let the negative comments affect you. Just think, these cats might well have been euthanized if you hadn't rescued them years ago.


First way that I would try to rehome them is at work, by putting up a sign in the breakroom or lunchroom. If that didn't work then the rescue shelter is a good idea. I would be fearful of advertising them on Craigslist because you never know where the cats will end up.


This is crazy. If she's had the cats for 3 years and they're still recoiling at her touch and hiding under the bed, what other person is going to want them? She can't just hand them over to her co-worker. The rescue needs them back.
OK, I didn't see the post where they mentioned the cats recoiling. However a co-worker or someone that she could find may not mind having a cat that just wants to be left alone. Some people may put up with an unsociable cat rather than see it euthanized. Whatever the OP decides, I hope they do it soon and are not made to feel guilty by others. They tried for over two years, it didn't work out so move on. They haven't abandoned the cats or anything like that.


OP here. Right, I want to find a home with older folks perhaps who don't mind aloof cats.


Oh, FFS. Nobody WANTS cats that hide under the bed all day and act feral. You might as well ask people to adopt a pair of raccoons. You failed to return these cats within a reasonable amount of time, and then you went ahead and brought a dog into the house, which no doubt made everything worse. Don't fob these cats off on some poor old person. Trust me, I know it sucks to have a bad cat--I have an outside the box shitter, but I would never in the world try to rehome him and give this headache to some other person.


OP, you're nuts. These cats are not aloof. If you present them that way to some "older couple" as you keep saying, that is not fair to them. There's a difference between aloof and traumatized. Cats who stay under the bed and recoil from a person's touch are way more than aloof.
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If the OP is honest about the cats, it's certainly possible that someone might want to try with them.
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Anonymous wrote:If the OP is honest about the cats, it's certainly possible that someone might want to try with them.


Sure. But her description of them so far- non-loving and aloof is not honest. So why do we think she'd be honest with a co-worker?
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Anonymous wrote:We need to give our two rescue cats away. This was not an easy decision, but it's time. They are 3-years-old (two males) and we just never bonded with them. They came from a hoarder home apparently and so they don't love humans. One of them finally came around a little bit after two years, but the other one won't let me pick him up. They do love each other very much and we will not break them up. We just want to find them a nice home as we got a dog that we have bonded with and he doesn't get along with the cats very much. I think a home with an older couple would be perfect. My question is: Where/how should I attempt to find the right home? Thanks for any advice.


You're a jerk.
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Anonymous wrote:We need to give our two rescue cats away. This was not an easy decision, but it's time. They are 3-years-old (two males) and we just never bonded with them. They came from a hoarder home apparently and so they don't love humans. One of them finally came around a little bit after two years, but the other one won't let me pick him up. They do love each other very much and we will not break them up. We just want to find them a nice home as we got a dog that we have bonded with and he doesn't get along with the cats very much. I think a home with an older couple would be perfect. My question is: Where/how should I attempt to find the right home? Thanks for any advice.
You've invested over two years with them and I'm sure you did your best, so don't let the negative comments affect you. Just think, these cats might well have been euthanized if you hadn't rescued them years ago.


First way that I would try to rehome them is at work, by putting up a sign in the breakroom or lunchroom. If that didn't work then the rescue shelter is a good idea. I would be fearful of advertising them on Craigslist because you never know where the cats will end up.


This is crazy. If she's had the cats for 3 years and they're still recoiling at her touch and hiding under the bed, what other person is going to want them? She can't just hand them over to her co-worker. The rescue needs them back.
OK, I didn't see the post where they mentioned the cats recoiling. However a co-worker or someone that she could find may not mind having a cat that just wants to be left alone. Some people may put up with an unsociable cat rather than see it euthanized. Whatever the OP decides, I hope they do it soon and are not made to feel guilty by others. They tried for over two years, it didn't work out so move on. They haven't abandoned the cats or anything like that.


Given how insensitive and self-centered OP is about bringing home another animal and dumping the 2 she already committed to, I sincerely doubt she put the effort into "bonding" with these two cats. I have fostered, adopted, and worked in shelters for years. I've seen the most neurotic and feral animals become loving companions. And just to be clear, what she describes is not being "Feral", it's fear. It's lack of socialization. It's lack of investment by the owner. So, yeah. I fault OP.

OP, just dump at the shelter. That's clearly what you want to do anyway. They've become inconvenient to you. And that is the most convenient solution for someone like you. Then you can move on and not think of it again.
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I also adopted two cats from a rescue group ten years ago. One was found as a stray six-month old in a rural area, and the other....they didn't know.

The "other" cat is an affectionate lap cat who sleeps on my bed. The one that was found in the rural area never became a "people" person and will not sit on my lap, doesn't come into my bedroom at all, hates bing picked up, and hides under the sofa when company comes. But they love each other and have massive "grooming" sessions, playtimes, and nap nestled together. (The shy one does stay in the family room when I am watching TV with the lap cat, so it's not as if he's isolating himself.)

I love them both and would never consider giving them away.
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I definitely understand where OP is coming from, especially after their later updates. There are no-kill shelter cat rescues that can help you. However, I think you should try other avenues first to help your cats. It could be that the semi-feral one has anxiety that can be treated by your vet. Also - this is usually frowned upon for many reasons and I wouldn’t suggest it lightly, but would your cats be happier as indoor/outdoor cats? Some cats just gotta roam a bit. There are a ton of risks to this (fleas/ticks, fights/injuries, illness, getting hit by cars) but sometimes, the semi-feral cats do very well outside in safe areas. I definitely wouldn’t do it if you live on a main road or in an apartment or condo, obviously. But in a neighborhood, they might really like it.
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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever had cats before? They are not dogs. Just because they don't let you hold them doesn't mean they're not bonded to you. That said, it sounds like you really don't care about them, so I would look at surrendering them to one of the many rescue organizations around here. We got our two cats from Lost Dog and Cat Rescue - they are a great organization.


Op here. Hoping to meet the actual person(s) they would go to, so I don't want to resort to giving them to a rescue org. We got them from a rescue org, one that misled us into believing the cats 'would come around' to being loving.


It takes patience, love and effort to make an animal "come around". Even then, the individual animals will have their own personalities, likes and dislikes. Some love to be cuddled, some don't like being held at all. Some love to play with toys, others could care less about toys.

As someone who has spent a little time working with rescue cats and helping them to adapt to a new environment it really makes me sad to hear of a complaint like yours. I think the rescue group was saying that the cats would adapt to their new environment and would stop being so skittish?

Even with my experience, I can't look at any given skittish/scared animal and tell you whether it will be a cuddler or not. Best thing to do is adopt a cuddler if that is what you are looking for.

It worries me that you are now considering surrendering these kitties in order to adopt a dog. If I was looking at your adoption application I would deny it on the spot. I'm sorry to be harsh and believe me I LOVE to see animals get adopted into good homes, but I don't think you are ready for another animal.

Best of luck rehoming your kitties. Maybe I'll be the one working with them.
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Either drive over to the local shelter and drop them off or Just drive out to the more rural part of the county one night and let them out along the road near a farm. Re homing done.
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