Anonymous wrote:Based on her most recent IG post, it appears Jeff cheated on her.
I don’t know if it’s her terrible writing or what, but I couldn’t make heads or tails of that post. She says whatever he did would “probably impact my life, his and definitely the girls.” IMO cheating would ABSOLUTELY impact, not probably.
I got them done today, my eyebrows finally, and then the sun was shinning on my face and I took a deep breath and I realized that nobody is going to hold me hostage. Someone dm’d me an awesome note saying they wanted to give me the heads up before they posted something on the internet about me. Actually it’s not about me. It’s about her, and Jeff and me... I’m just caught in the middle. People handle grief differently. Jeff made some dumb ass decisions and they will probably impact my life, his and definitely the girls. But I will not let someone threaten me in a dm -like exposing someone else’s bad actions says anything about me. It doesn’t. Relationships, people, life it’s all complex with so much gray area. I’m not perfect and neither is Jeff and I never said we were. But to DM me a message saying it’s out of decency BEFORE you post it on the internet. Naw. Because there are many lessons here. There’s counseling IF we want this to work, there’s a strong ass woman choosing herself and her kids every damn time. There’s this brilliant realization that I don’t have to have the mental and emotional capacity to deal with this right now. I can take my time and decide what is best for my family. But there’s no shame. I don’t and won’t feel bad for the actions that others choose. His or hers. Should she choose to put this on the internet bravo. I will always take the road less travelled. Me and Robert Frost are close like that. I don’t have all the answers. I have so many questions, but here’s the biggest lesson... people, whether that be strangers on the internet with “ammo” or even the people we love who may hurt us, chose their actions... and we get to choose ours. Actions spark reactions. But what if they don’t. I don’t have to react. What if I take the space, energy, safety, and love that I constantly give others and give it to myself? What if I allow myself the time to process and heal and then decide. I know the message was supposed to cause a reaction instead, it made me realize my strength, how far I’ve come and that yes, when it rains it pours, but me... I like the rain, I’ve proven to always get better when I’m wet. YOU CAN GET THROUGH ANYTHING.
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