The married single mom?
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Anonymous
Money makes a big difference, don't you think? |
Anonymous
NP— yes money makes a difference but money doesn’t define if you are a single parent or not. I make $250. I think I’m doing pretty good on my own. But I still have to make all the decisions on my own. I have no one to bounce ideas of off. There is no one to turn to in the room and mouth “what the f$&k” when you 12 yr old has an emotional meltdown because she’s hitting puberty. Thee is no on to commiserate with when you get the call from preschool that your child is bitting. There is no one share the joy of the first day of K or the last day of 5th. Money makes outsourcing easier but it doesn’t define being a single parent. |
Anonymous
NP. I am more intrigued by "(partial) genetic contributor." Could me the child was conceived through assisted conception with anonymous or known sperm fpdonir, through rape, or through consensual sex. If the first, not sure if the poster would have gone to the trouble of conceiving and then consider aborting. |
Anonymous
Well I make a lot of money, so I was not scraping by before I was married. Exactly to the other PP. When a crisis happens, it's all on me. When work is stressful, all me. O do get to talk to my husband, but no different than like family out of town. Not the same as getting a hug or having a back up. There is no back up, you're alone. |
Anonymous
why donate to sperm banks that serve single women? Why add to the world's problems that way? |
Anonymous
I guess to me being the spouse of someone deployed brings a whole bunch of challenges that other single moms don't face (possibly living in a place you haven't been for long because the military moves people so often, missing them, being afraid for them, dealing with children missing them, major changes in routine), and also has some supports that single moms don't have (the community of other military spouses, the second income, but more than that the security that it's not all resting on your job). It seems like it would have a lot in common with being a single mom, but not exactly the same. But, I guess I don't understand what the spouse of someone who is deployed would get out of calling themselves a single mom that they wouldn't get out of simply saying "My husband/wife is deployed"? |
Anonymous
I disagree. I think being single/divorced and a mom means just that. My ex has our child 2 nights a week. The other 5 nights are all on me. He does not financially contribute either. We've also lived in different countries where DC did not see dad regularly. I was able to afford a sitter and housekeeper and it honestly didn't feel any different than now. Some single moms have zero help from any sourse, while others have plenty. The same can be said for married women too though. |
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Status: Single, Married, Divorced, Widowed
These are the only choices. Single = Never married Married = legally married Divorced = no longer legally married Widowed = once married, but spouse died So, single mom = never married Mom whose child is either adopted or out-of-wedlock. |