Adults obsessed with Star Wars, Disney, Harry Potter etc...

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Anonymous wrote:Do you find you have nothing in common with them? I am asking because I find that somehow the conversation always comes back to them talking about their very specific interest just assuming other people are just as interested in it.

I couldn't imagine going on and on about a particular interest to other people as if they care.

Like if I go to a new friends house and see pictures/toys in the box etc... of something like Star Wars or Harry Potter I am turned off. I feel similarly about adults who play video games. By adults I'm referring to people like 30 and up.

Is it just me?? I mean it's Juvenial and weird.

My husband and I both love to play video games. It's a fun way to let off steam after we've been busy. I like that games present different problem solving and skill based challenges. It requires more active thinking than just passively watching TV (which we also enjoy too)

Did you guys meet in an online chat room?

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OP you are assuming that everyone who likes the things that you listed in your original post are obsessed with those things, and that isn't true. Everybody has hobbies, likes, dislikes, etc. But I don't want to hear about any ONE thing endlessly, whether I like it or not. I do workout regularly so I might talk about that with someone else who enjoys fitness - that doesn't' make me obsessed with it. I also like Harry Potter, and if someone mentioned recently reading the book, we'd probably have a conversation. But I don't have the dolls in my bedroom or whatever some other PP mentioned. There's a line. You're just assuming that people only obsesses over the "nerdy" things, and that just isn't true.

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I think adults who are into fandom stuff are just people with hobbies different than mine. I do find it weird if they wear multiple T-shirts or have home decor items associated with their characters. It’s not that different from sports team, but I am not a sports fan so I also don’t understand the need some people have for having a Yankees lamp or a Redskins trivet.

I find find middle aged women who are really into Disney really sad and frumpy. I feel sorry for them. They are like the dorky kids in high school grown up.

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Anonymous wrote:I think adults who are into fandom stuff are just people with hobbies different than mine. I do find it weird if they wear multiple T-shirts or have home decor items associated with their characters. It’s not that different from sports team, but I am not a sports fan so I also don’t understand the need some people have for having a Yankees lamp or a Redskins trivet.

I find find middle aged women who are really into Disney really sad and frumpy. I feel sorry for them. They are like the dorky kids in high school grown up.

Does it bother you that they are happy people who enjoy theme parks with their kids? Like a pp said, those Disney "freaks" seem to be very happy, kind people (as opposed to the anxiety ridden, exercise obsessed, keeping up with joneses, pill poppers/wine swiggers who come off as stuck up, judgmental biotches.

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Oh no! Some people have different interests than you do! Do what I do when asked if I watched the “big game” last night—say “sorry, I’m not a big fan of _____” politely. My husband is a big fan of comics, and takes our 4-year-old with him every Saturday morning to pick up his comics from his pull list and get breakfast. They bring it home to me and we have a big “book club” snuggle on the couch, DH with his comics, DS with some picture books, and me with my Kindle. I wouldn’t trade those mornings for anything. We’ve gone to a few small local comic-cons and DS loves dressing up and seeing all the different people in costumes. It’s not our only interest—-we love live music and theater as well, and we both follow politics fairly closely and traveled internationally before kids. DH has friends our age from a sports league he plays in who are in their 30s, and whose only interests are going to the bar/drinking almost every night of the week, and Penn state Football. Are they more “adult” than we are? I don’t really care what people think of my interests, because they make me happy and bring joy to my life. OP sounds a bit insecure about their own choices—-as super judgey people often are.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh no! Some people have different interests than you do! Do what I do when asked if I watched the “big game” last night—say “sorry, I’m not a big fan of _____” politely. My husband is a big fan of comics, and takes our 4-year-old with him every Saturday morning to pick up his comics from his pull list and get breakfast. They bring it home to me and we have a big “book club” snuggle on the couch, DH with his comics, DS with some picture books, and me with my Kindle. I wouldn’t trade those mornings for anything. We’ve gone to a few small local comic-cons and DS loves dressing up and seeing all the different people in costumes. It’s not our only interest—-we love live music and theater as well, and we both follow politics fairly closely and traveled internationally before kids. DH has friends our age from a sports league he plays in who are in their 30s, and whose only interests are going to the bar/drinking almost every night of the week, and Penn state Football. Are they more “adult” than we are? I don’t really care what people think of my interests, because they make me happy and bring joy to my life. OP sounds a bit insecure about their own choices—-as super judgey people often are.

"His pull list" what the heck is that? Every week? How much money does your husband spend on comics? And going to these comic cons? I'm sorry but yeah, that's weird.

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I totally agree, OP!

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Anonymous wrote:Oh no! Some people have different interests than you do! Do what I do when asked if I watched the “big game” last night—say “sorry, I’m not a big fan of _____” politely. My husband is a big fan of comics, and takes our 4-year-old with him every Saturday morning to pick up his comics from his pull list and get breakfast. They bring it home to me and we have a big “book club” snuggle on the couch, DH with his comics, DS with some picture books, and me with my Kindle. I wouldn’t trade those mornings for anything. We’ve gone to a few small local comic-cons and DS loves dressing up and seeing all the different people in costumes. It’s not our only interest—-we love live music and theater as well, and we both follow politics fairly closely and traveled internationally before kids. DH has friends our age from a sports league he plays in who are in their 30s, and whose only interests are going to the bar/drinking almost every night of the week, and Penn state Football. Are they more “adult” than we are? I don’t really care what people think of my interests, because they make me happy and bring joy to my life. OP sounds a bit insecure about their own choices—-as super judgey people often are.

This is so sweet! My 4 year old and her dad read the Super Hero Girls comics together.

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I don't count Star Wars in that group, but I guess I would if the interest was obsessive, as opposed to anything Disney or Potter, which by nature/marketing is obsessive, especially with regard to adults having said interest.

I always get people who are floored I haven't seen a lot of Disney movies or that I don't remember details so I don't understand references/song meanings. They will keep adding details as it if would help, and as if it doesn't make them look nuts like "It was Poombah's sister Nahla- you don't know this???? And the crystal.... remember?? And Nemo's dad was upset about Buzz Lightyear's thing that he lost... "

Like I like RHW franchises but I can rein it in/drop it if it's like f*cking crickets when I mention it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you find you have nothing in common with them? I am asking because I find that somehow the conversation always comes back to them talking about their very specific interest just assuming other people are just as interested in it.

I couldn't imagine going on and on about a particular interest to other people as if they care.

Like if I go to a new friends house and see pictures/toys in the box etc... of something like Star Wars or Harry Potter I am turned off. I feel similarly about adults who play video games. By adults I'm referring to people like 30 and up.

Is it just me?? I mean it's Juvenial and weird.

My husband and I both love to play video games. It's a fun way to let off steam after we've been busy. I like that games present different problem solving and skill based challenges. It requires more active thinking than just passively watching TV (which we also enjoy too)

Did you guys meet in an online chat room?

No, we met in college.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG yes! Those people are so weird. Disney is for kids. Grow the f up. Harry Potter is for teenagers. Star wars, I don't get but at least It's marketed to 4 year olds the way Disney princesses and Mickey mouse are.

I'm not obsessed with anything but I love Star Wars, Harry Potter, LOTR, Marvel Movies, etc. but I hardly need to grow up. Life is fun if you let it be. I would never bring them up in conversation unless I knew the other person was interested.

In my experience, people who think like the PP are pretty boring and often shallow.

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Does it bother you that they are happy people who enjoy theme parks with their kids? Like a pp said, those Disney "freaks" seem to be very happy, kind people (as opposed to the anxiety ridden, exercise obsessed, keeping up with joneses, pill poppers/wine swiggers who come off as stuck up, judgmental biotches.

The Disney freaks aren't happy, kind people when they are plotting out every second of their vacation and you get between them and whatever stupid ride or restaurant they have planned down to the second.

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Anonymous wrote:Weirdish, but these kinds of people always seem more "real" and friendly to me, so you have to take the good with the bad.

Yup--I know some people who have these types of interests (although I wouldn't call them obsessions), and they are nice, friendly, down-to-earth people. I think people who have a genuine interest or hobby are, on average, more interesting than those who don't, or who are afraid to admit it to others.

It's better to be yourself and find real friends, than to pretend to be someone else.

I don't understand obsessions with Disney, but I also don't understand obsessions about weight loss, celebrity gossip, or all politics, all the time. Everyone has their thing.

Yeah the Disney thing is it's own breed. I can't imagine going there as an adult for vacation without kids. We took our kids twice and it was stressful and so so crowded. I would prefer almost anywhere else.

Yeah, It's so crowded these Disney weirdos have these chat rooms where they plan out their schedules. Some vacation.

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Don't insult nerds and geeks. These are dorks we're talking about. I'm ready for Star Wars to die a long overdue death.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, what are you interested in?

Nothing that specific. Like general travel, world news, food, real estate etc...much more general topics. Most people I can converse with very easily but I can't take talking about topics that seem suited for a 12 year old rather than a 35 year old.

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I feel that way about Women who talk about make up, fashion, clothing and fitness. They sound like teenage girls

This exactly. Nerds are way more fun to talk to. Shallow people, not so much.